What should my husband do if he quarrels with his parents-in-law?

Who said that as long as there is a mother-in-law relationship, it will be troublesome? When the husband and in-laws have conflicts, it is enough to be a wife and daughter-in-law. In-laws are elders even if they are wrong, so we should respect them, but husbands are our own and have conflicts with their parents. This unfairness must be enough for him. What if something goes wrong? Therefore, the attitude of being a wife and daughter-in-law is very important at this time, which can be said to be a key point. Dudu summed up his own experience and told the sisters in marriage what you should do when the husband and in-laws have conflicts:

Stay out of it.

To tell the truth, Dudu's in-laws are stubborn, her mother-in-law is particularly strong, and Dudu's husband is also strong, so their father or mother will always encounter some disputes, and contradictions will naturally arise together. No matter how contradictory they are, Dudu himself will never participate in it. Although he is sometimes sad because of some words or practices of the old man, I never attend. You should remember that no matter how contradictory they are, whether it is father or mother, today's contradictions will be fine tomorrow. You are a daughter-in-law, and you will always be an outsider in their hearts, right? Why are you angry and ungrateful?

Be impartial to sb.

Few women turn to their in-laws and ignore their husbands. If the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, it is easy to have problems. However, there are contradictions between in-laws and husbands, and it is really rare for wives and daughters-in-law not to ask for help from their husbands. The other in-laws must be old, and there is a certain generation gap between them. On the contrary, a husband is a person who can speak the same language as himself. So generally speaking, when there is a contradiction between husband and in-laws, women will generally choose to stand in the position of husband, thus denying everything about in-laws. What's more, it will be more serious than her husband's mood, and there is nothing good to say to her in-laws. In fact, it is silly for a woman to do so. As long as your in-laws don't bully your husband too much, then you don't have to do this at all. If you do this, it will only increase your husband's resentment and troubles, and will offend your in-laws. It's really unnecessary.

Don't ask why.

Under normal circumstances, when husbands and in-laws go home in conflict, they will show emotional differences. Of course, the wife will ask. There's nothing wrong with this, but if your husband doesn't say anything, or prevaricates, but is a little embarrassed with his parents, I suggest you don't ask, let alone go to your in-laws to continue asking. Why did you say you wanted to fuck that heart? How can there be hatred for parents at home? If you are unhappy today, you will worry about your parents' health tomorrow, and the old man will worry about whether his son has been scolded by his wife. You said you were asking questions in the back, but you didn't say you were exhausted. For no reason, the contradiction between your husband and in-laws has been exaggerated.

Let it "develop"

This used to be a doodle. Dudu never takes part in the contradiction between her husband and her in-laws, let alone asks. What she likes has nothing to do with me. But later, I found out that I seemed to stay out of it, but actually caused my husband and in-laws to be "emotional" and felt that I didn't care about them. So DuDu wanted to think. In this case, I listened to their complaints. I also care about them and ask them what they are doing for, of course, provided that they take the initiative to tell them. Then, like a peacemaker, comfort yourself here and there, and then take a step back and see how you handle it. That's it, to be honest: I did a good job, hehe.

Learn the truth from the side

There is a contradiction between husband and in-laws, which shows that it is not a small matter and may even involve you. Because sometimes, those in-laws who are too sharp will say some bad things about you in front of their sons, and the husband will of course defend his daughter-in-law, so there are some contradictions. Parents will feel that their children are greatly influenced by their mothers, their daughters-in-law will forget their mothers, and their sons will be wronged. Parents are afraid that their sons and daughters-in-law will have a bad life, but they have nothing to provoke their contradictions with their daughters-in-law. If this is the case, then Dudu suggests that you learn from the side, such as "luring" those topics to your husband and getting real answers, so that you can make a correct judgment, and your husband will not be wronged because of your "indifference": I help my wife so much, but my wife ignores me.

Sit with your in-laws for a while.

After learning that there is a contradiction between husband and in-laws, as long as it is not a big problem, I suggest you go to sit in-laws for a while, talk about the troubles at home, talk about children's education and so on. No matter what your in-laws think about your son, it is better than anything to have such a daughter-in-law to comfort your heart. They say that a good daughter-in-law is better than a good son, which is true. No matter how good a son is, if his daughter-in-law doesn't understand, he will also be guilty of his in-laws. After all, men are generous, there are many things outside, and daughters-in-law are cautious, so they will take care of the elderly in all aspects.

Break it for my husband.

It's like a peacemaker. Comfort your in-laws, and then analyze the situation with your husband. Don't let him be immersed in that emotion all the time, and don't let him worry about it. The so-called home and everything prosper, not only between husband and wife, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between sons and parents, and between grandparents and grandchildren, so that men have more spirit to work hard outside, women have more energy to take care of their families and their own beauty, and the elderly live a happier life. They really plan for their sons and consider some for them.

Reunited the family

In fact, at this point, the contradiction between husband and in-laws has almost been solved. Now I need you to find a chance to get them back together. Take your family to your in-laws' house, stir-fry a few side dishes, sit down for a meal, talk about your parents' short words, and make the family atmosphere warm and harmonious. In this way, your husband and in-laws will return to intimacy, and they will appreciate everything you do, so that your position in the family can not be ignored.

Express your feelings.

It's also good to talk to your husband or in-laws. Tell them that there are many trivial things in a family, and the family must unite to have a stable family, give your children a good education and a warmer family environment. In fact, both my in-laws and my husband know this, but they don't control each other's emotions well when they encounter contradictions, but you should also express your feelings and let them know that in a big family, you can't just care about your feelings and ignore other family members. As soon as these words are said, I believe that even the tricky in-laws will be speechless, and my husband will feel bad about your feelings.