How do parents educate their children

0 1, Momo: Set an example for learning.

Children are parents' mirrors. Pay attention to subtle words and deeds in front of children. Teaching by example speaks louder than words, and parents should set a good example for their children to learn.

02. Encouragement plan: Encourage him to challenge difficulties.

It is easy for children to give up their efforts because of some setbacks. At this time, parents' encouragement is their courage and motivation to move forward. Parents should help their children find problems, correct shortcomings and encourage them to grow up in setbacks.

03. Reward good people: Reward is more effective than punishment.

Educating children, rewards are often more effective than punishment. Instead of punishing mistakes, it is better to reward the right ones, which can not only avoid hurting children, but also urge them to carry forward their advantages.

04, reinforcement plan: praise more good habits.

Reinforcement means that if a person is satisfied with the result of his behavior, he wants to do it again. When children's positive behavior is recognized, they can gradually get rid of inferiority and stimulate self-confidence.

05, appreciation instrument: help children find advantages.

When children can't see their own strengths, it is easy to cause bad mentality such as inferiority and jealousy. Parents should help their children see their own advantages, so as to like and appreciate themselves.

06. Encourage children to explore boldly.

Brave and fearless people can often achieve outstanding achievements. Give children more opportunities to exercise and encourage them to try bravely and observe new things.

07. Encouragement plan: inspire fighting spirit with competitive spirit.

When persuasion and preaching are ineffective, parents may wish to use their children's aggressive, rebellious and even "jealous psychology" to appropriately "stimulate" and stimulate their children's fighting spirit.

08, false plan: often praised him as "great"

Let the child find the feeling of being a good child, and he will become a good child. Parents should always tell their children "you are great", and this positive psychological suggestion will make him have a positive self-evaluation. draw

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09. Establish rules and regulations: Establish a good code of conduct.

Children's self-control ability is poor, and parents can establish a set of behavior rules in advance. Let children try to judge and choose by themselves, learn to restrain behavior and cultivate self-control.

10, micrometer prevention: correct minor faults in time.

Parents must correct seemingly small problems such as bullying and laziness in time to prevent small problems from developing into big problems.

1 1, tolerance: if you take the initiative to admit your mistake, you will not be investigated.

If children have realized their mistakes, parents should not pursue them too much, be reasonable and forgive no one. We should consciously guide children to take the initiative to make up for their mistakes, correct them and avoid making them again.

12, admonition meter: repeat offenders do not change.

If the same mistake appears again and again, parents must not tolerate it. We must effectively criticize him, so that he dare not have speculative psychology such as "will not be discovered".

13, prevention plan: tell him what not to do.

The best defense is also attack. Instead of dealing with the problem later, it is better to give the child a "vaccination" in advance and tell him what to do and what not to touch.

14, punishment meter: let children know how to bear mistakes.

Doing something wrong can be gratifying, but it can never be tolerated. Only moderate punishment can make him understand the survival law of "clear reward and punishment"

15, indifference: don't care too much about him when you are willful.

Willfulness is a common problem of many children, especially the only child. At this point, parents must make up their minds to "isolate" him, let him automatically restrain his bad temper and avoid arrogance because he doesn't get attention.

16. fire leveler: first lower the fire pressure to prevent conflict.

After the conflict, if the parents get angry, the children's emotions will become more and more excited, and even they will do something radical because of impulse. Therefore, parents should first suppress their anger and let their children gradually realize that impulse can't solve the problem.

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17, pointer: replace preaching with guidance.

Preaching is one of the most disliked ways of education for children. It is best to give some guidance from the side, which will make children full of gratitude.

18, influence meter: impress children with true feelings

Education is not only indoctrination, persuasion and supervision, but also emotion. For example, telling a child a real and touching growth story will leave him with a deeper impression and inspiration.

19, audiometer: master the child's feelings

No matter how young a child is, he will have his own ideas. Parents must take the time to listen to him patiently and understand his thoughts and feelings, so as to deal with the children's physical and mental changes and problems encountered in their study and life in time.

20. Make friends: Be friends with children.

Learn to make friends with children, real equal friends. Only in this way will they be willing to share their feelings and talk to you.

2 1, respect rice: respect children's ideas

The contradiction between parents and children is often because parents don't respect their children enough. Respect your children's ideas first, and then you can gain their trust and respect.

22. Equality Plan: Don't give children privileges.

If you want to overcome "self-centeredness", you should first start from home, don't give children special status or privileges, and share good things with the whole family.

23, with lesson plans: spend more time with children.

Parents spend more time with their children and participate in their life and entertainment. It can not only enhance the parent-child relationship, but also help to discover the potential and characteristics of children.

24. Counseling plan: explain the opportunity to children.

Educating children, "sparse" is better than "blocked". Create an open family environment and allow your child to have his own ideas and explanations, and he will be more willing to cooperate with you happily.

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25, tolerance: accept the shortcomings of children.

Your child may not be smart enough and have many shortcomings, but parents should not laugh at or dislike him for it. Tolerance of weaknesses can overcome inferiority and cover up shortcomings with advantages.

26, edification plan: more contact with good interests

If you want your child to have good hobbies, you might as well let him contact these things consciously and encourage and cultivate his interest in the process of contact.

27. Inducer: Don't force children to learn.

Almost every child will be tired of learning, and coercion can't solve the problem. Instead, we should increase his interest in learning and give him appropriate rewards to induce him to be interested in learning content.

28. Burden reduction plan: Don't force children.

Parents should not impose their own expectations on their children, let alone set a goal of "what must be done" for their children, grow up freely and happily, and let their children better develop their potential.

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29. Practice frugality: Stop wasting.

Waste is one of the common problems of children now. In this regard, parents should rightfully stop and criticize, and help their children develop good habits of diligence and hard work from an early age.

30. Persuade: Help children resolve conflicts.

When children have conflicts with teachers and partners, parents should take the initiative to act as "peacemakers" to help both sides eliminate contradictions and misunderstandings and let children learn to understand others.

3 1, connivance plan: don't kill naughty nature

"Naughty bag" and "troublemaker" are often clever and eager for knowledge. It is a good opportunity to tap children's potential and creativity to indulge these behaviors properly within the scope of not violating principles.

32. Refrigeration meter: pour some cold water when you are complacent.

Once the child is found to be conceited, parents should throw cold water on him in time so that the child can know himself correctly and objectively.

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33. Play weak tricks: occasionally ask your child for help.

Nowadays, children lack a sense of responsibility, often because their parents take care of them too carefully. Parents should know how to ask their children for help occasionally, and you will find that they have become sensible "little adults"

34. Let go: Let the children try for themselves.

Parents who do everything can only raise canaries that can't fly out of the cage. Create some opportunities for children to try and solve problems, so that they can deal with problems in life independently.

35. Frustration plan: appropriate frustration education.

Children who have grown up through setbacks and hardships are more competitive in survival. In order to cultivate children's psychological resilience, appropriate frustration education is essential.

36. Exercise plan: Experience life more.

Consciously let children go through some tempering, such as participating in military training and experiencing rural life. Children will be stronger and they will have an advantage in the future competition.