What if children are often careless?

Causes and solutions of children's carelessness

Many parents and children think that "carelessness" can only be regarded as a minor fault that everyone can make, because carelessness is not impossible. Since it is not impossible, it can't be considered a major fault, and it is certainly not worth worrying about. Moreover, everyone will be careless and make mistakes. In such a sense of self-comfort, indulgence and tolerance for "carelessness" will make it more and more difficult for children to correct their careless habits. Like "I know all these questions, I should take the exam this time 100!" It's just that I accidentally made a mistake! ""My child could have taken the 100 exam if he hadn't been careless this time! " "He was deducted 1 point for carelessness, otherwise his grades would rank first in the class", and so on. Parents often say that children often say that. There are many regrets and complaints on the surface, but there is a sense of satisfaction and pride in the tone. This is an excuse for children and parents to find unsatisfactory grades together, and it is a psychological comfort to themselves. I don't realize that carelessness is a manifestation of children's poor study habits, poor foundation and incomplete knowledge. Parents and children should abandon this idea of making excuses and realize the harmfulness and seriousness of carelessness. Parents should seriously help their children find the reasons for carelessness and correct it.

First, the harm of carelessness and the concept of treating carelessness.

The harm of carelessness

Carelessness is worse than ignorance.

The result of a question is wrong, usually for two reasons:

The first type: it is completely because it can't.

The second type: an error that is not caused by failure.

For example, some children often do more than 0 questions; Or write less units; Or the decimal point is in the wrong position; Or the top line 23, after changing the line, it is 28; Or missed a keyword ...

The most regrettable thing is that when parents guide their children to learn, they often criticize and accuse them more severely when they see that their children can't do a topic. "How did you do that? You can't even do such a simple topic? ! "

However, if you are deducted for carelessness, you will often say in a milder tone, "Oh, why are you so careless?"? If so, won't you do the right thing? " "Pay attention next time!"

As everyone knows, different attitudes towards these two different phenomena make children relax their vigilance against "carelessness", ignore the analysis of "carelessness" and weaken their understanding of the harm of "carelessness". Rousseau has a wise saying: "People make mistakes not because they don't understand, but because they think they know everything."

It is easy for an idea to go from ignorance to knowledge, but a "careless" phenomenon can often happen repeatedly. We are not afraid of "ignorance", because we can learn what we can't learn and understand what we don't understand. "Carelessness" is terrible. We will make mistakes again and again without scruple, thus wasting a lot of time and losing many possible opportunities. So carelessness is worse than ignorance. Carelessness is caused by ignorance of carelessness.

Carelessness will form a habit. Once a habit is formed, it will not change.

Due to the neglect of "carelessness", carelessness appears again and again in learning, and slowly "carelessness" becomes an inertia, but I still don't understand it clearly.

Many students have experienced such a situation. After a semester of hard work, they thought their exam results should be good, but the results were not satisfactory. Many of them are caused by "carelessness". Although they are just "careless", unsatisfactory results often make them lose confidence in themselves and think that they will study harder and harder.

It is impossible to improve academic performance. Then at this time, children's self-confidence will be gradually hit, and they will gradually lose their confidence and interest in learning. Just think, how can "lack of fighting spirit" succeed? Therefore, once "carelessness" becomes inertia and habit, it can never be changed. The phrase "a leopard cannot change his spots" is too familiar to everyone. Why do some people always lose their keys and wallets when they grow up? As long as you pay careful attention, no one who has a successful career is rigorous and meticulous, even those who look casual are "careless"

There is a famous saying in ancient Greece that "character is fate", so how is character cultivated? This is a habit! So how is the habit formed? Just over and over again.

This is why educators emphasize one point-"We should form good habits from childhood"!

So "carelessness" is a very bad phenomenon If misfortune becomes a part of your personality, the possibility of success will be greatly reduced.

(B) the concept of treating carelessness.

Carelessness is not a small shortcoming, but a big mistake.

When parents talk about or criticize their children, they often say, "My children have good grades, but one small shortcoming is carelessness ..."

Everyone has shortcomings, everything has shortcomings, and the world is not perfect. Because there are shortcomings, the world will progress and people will progress. Sometimes, people's shortcomings are defects at some time, and sometimes they may be advantages, so we often say that there is no good or bad personality. For example, a person loves to lose his temper, which should be regarded as a shortcoming. Under normal circumstances, we can tolerate or even forgive this shortcoming, but it is wrong for him to hit people when he loses his temper. Such mistakes should be investigated and corrected.

Shortcomings can be ignored, but mistakes must be investigated and corrected! You can easily find the difference between "shortcomings" and "mistakes", but because they are often very similar, we tend to confuse them and often regard "mistakes" as "shortcomings". There is a simple reason. It is precisely because we don't know enough about the harm of carelessness and its attributes in our minds that we turn a blind eye to it, tolerate it and even be careless.

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To sum up, if you want to solve the careless problem, if you don't have enough correct and clear understanding in your mind, then the careless problem can't be solved well. It will appear at any time like a ghost, destroying what you have achieved and hindering what you may achieve.

The statement that carelessness is a mistake may be extreme, but it makes sense. As for the consequences caused by "carelessness", sometimes it is not great, but in any case, we should be very vigilant and serious about "carelessness".

2. "Carelessness" is not "writing wrong words", but "copying wrong lines". Carelessness reflects "blind spots" and "loopholes" in learning.

As we mentioned earlier, there are usually two reasons for making mistakes in a topic, one is ignorance and the other is carelessness. Many students have had this experience. They had a problem and couldn't figure it out after thinking for a long time. At this time, others gave a small hint. Well, they're almost done. Also, I can't remember it during the exam, but I remember it when I leave the examination room! What is this phenomenon? No way, a little wronged! Can you count? But it's not! Therefore, many students are very pleased to say to themselves that they are "careless" and have not been well thought out, so they have not made it. In fact, it is impossible to solve the problem correctly because of the lack of mastery and understanding of the concept! It is a "blind spot" in learning, and how many such key loopholes in learning are often covered up by the word "carelessness".

Second, the child is careless, how to solve it?

(1) Method 1: Help children establish a sense of responsibility and discover "carelessness" in time.

Many children are careless because they pay too much attention to difficult big problems and ignore the carelessness of easy small problems, and never find out where their "carelessness" (that is, "fallibility") is. Generally speaking, the ratio of difficult questions-medium questions-easy questions in an exam is 3: 1: 1. So it is not worth the loss to give up the easy questions. So many children are clever and witty, but they always fail the exam. Why? Because he capsized in the gutter. Therefore, the most important thing is to find out where I am prone to make mistakes and pay enough attention to it, and always remind myself that I have capsized in these "small sewers" and will never make the same mistake again.

1, wrong

This behavior is mainly related to people's instantaneous memory. Some people's visual imaging reaction is a little slow, and his learning type may not belong to visual type, but he looks too fast and is not careful enough. So when the previous information has not formed a stable state in his brain, the latter information comes in again, which leads to a wrong interpretation of the problem. To solve this behavior is to slow down the speed of looking at the problem, which is commonly known as "look carefully." Some people may have something to do with their short-term memory, usually 5 to 7. If a person's short-term memory capacity is 5, that is, he can only remember 5 words or numbers at a time, when he wants to remember 7 words at a time, there will be memory errors, which will lead to misreading. Children in lower grades are not good at visual recognition and memory, so it may be inevitable to make mistakes in reading or writing. Solving this misreading behavior can be achieved through normal training. The easiest way is to take a look at the roadside car license plate on the way to school or school, or take a look at a group of numbers or symbols or English words to improve your short-term memory and enhance your memory.

In addition, if children don't pay enough attention when studying, especially the temptation of electronic products, so that children don't concentrate on their studies, want to finish their studies quickly, play electronic products, and don't concentrate, concentrate and go all out when studying, it is easy to be careless. Parents must make their children understand that scribbling homework is a sign of carelessness and will be punished. Parents must really take measures to ensure that their children pay attention, stop thinking and concentrate on their studies.

2. I copied it wrong

Generally, copying the correct answers on the draft paper to the answer sheet is the most wrong way to lose points. This misreading behavior is not only related to instantaneous memory, but also related to the process of excessive memory. Copying includes two processes: reading while recording and writing while recording. You may be right, but you wrote it wrong. Why? Because people always reverse the words in the back position and the words in the front position when recalling, this reversed position will also appear when you speak or recite. The solution to this behavior is to do a lot of rapid copying behavior training to improve the brain's ability to correct errors. Another reason is also related to people's memory cache. For example, some people can finish reading the last sentence, while others are reading the next sentence, which is more difficult for some people. This also needs to be solved through regular dictation behavior training.

Step 3 miscalculate

Calculation error. This is mainly reflected in less practice, no automatic answering skills, and no stable muscle memory. As we all know, riding a bicycle depends on muscle memory response, and it is also a muscle memory response when braking suddenly. If we had waited for the brain to command, the accident would have happened long ago. Muscle memory can effectively reduce the burden on our brain and let our brain think about more complicated problems. It is also possible that we usually do not pay attention to neatness, disorder and lack of standardized training when calculating on draft paper, so it is "normal" to make mistakes.

4. Write it wrong

For example, clearly greater than the symbol, but written less than the symbol. In addition, there are writing errors such as addition and subtraction signs, decimal points, words, words or letters, symbols and so on. This requires first seeing the symbols psychologically and ideologically, such as whether there is a plus sign or a minus sign, and accurately remembering the position of the decimal point; Another reason is the deviation of muscle memory. To solve this writing error, we can adopt double training methods, one is fast reading and the other is fast writing, and strengthen muscle memory training.

5. Wrong thinking

That is to say, the judgment is wrong, and one of the reasons for this error is that the knowledge is not firm, similar knowledge points are confused, and judgment errors occur. Another reason, of course, is a mistake, that is, I didn't notice that the conditions of the questions changed and fell into the trap set by the questioner. For example, some children understand all the questions, but when reading, they pass by, not according to the requirements of the meaning of the question, but according to their habitual understanding, and do not find some details in the meaning of the question, such as division and division; On the issue of distance application, walk and wait. , leading to deviation.

Step 6: Skip

I thought I understood, but I was still afraid that I couldn't keep up with the speed of answering questions and didn't write the relevant steps. As a result, I made a mistake. The first is to meet the answering criteria, and the second is that you understand, do the reviewers understand? So the key information must not jump.

7. Did not answer the question completely as required.

This kind of mistake is similar to the mistake of skipping classes, except that this kind of question has clear requirements. When you ignore it at will, mistakes are inevitable. Sometimes some seemingly careless mistakes are actually caused by poor foundation, poor knowledge, imprecise methods and unskilled answering skills. For example, when enumerating or counting numbers, they are out of order, resulting in repetition and omission.

It is necessary to find out the reasons for the mistakes and prescribe the right medicine in order to develop good study habits. Similarly, improving your learning behavior can effectively adjust your learning state. By analyzing the types of mistakes in the wrong textbook, grasping the main problems, establishing your own short-term learning goals and eliminating the mistakes one by one, you can effectively improve your grades, and more importantly, you can effectively improve your learning realm and cultivate your comprehensive quality and ability.

(2) Method 2: Let the children prepare a "wrong book" and put the work of finding "carelessness" into practice.

To sum up, as long as seven kinds of "careless" questions are sorted out in detail, copied, the correct answers are written, and the types of questions, the causes of errors and methods are summarized, it is also good if you can have your own experience or experience summary. Wrong questions are not limited to mistakes in their homework and papers, but also mistakes in their own thinking, as well as teachers' corrections and comments during the lecture. Collect your mistakes in time and constantly remind yourself not to repeat them. It's like walking on ice. Because the ice is slippery, remind yourself to walk carefully. Because you are careful, you will naturally make fewer mistakes.

(3) Method 3: Read the wrong book frequently and recall the "careless points" (that is, "error-prone points") to make the wrong book work.

These mistakes are valuable resources in the learning process. With wrong textbooks and frequent reading, we can correct these mistakes ideologically and consciously and establish correct methods. In the future, when children encounter similar problems, the brain will automatically provide early warning and response to control the phenomenon of "carelessness" to the maximum extent. Also, you can spend a few minutes thinking about your own problems and mistakes before the exam, and then you will become extra cautious when you encounter these in the exam. I hope children can keep practicing! Get rid of bad habits and try to catch up with the first. At this time, compare the top few to see who has fewer mistakes; See who can lose how many points. Over time, children will be sensitive to their own shortcomings and weaknesses, just like a pair of critical eyes, children can quickly find a little mistake.

(4) Method 4: Parents should cultivate children's sense of responsibility for their own affairs and orderly living habits.

Parents should not criticize their children on the grounds of carelessness, which will easily cause psychological stress to their children. During the examination, they will focus on psychological requirements such as "I don't want to be careless", which will easily lead to distraction and more unnecessary mistakes. You can give children such positive psychological hints as "I will carefully examine the questions".

Parents try not to take positive punishment for their children's carelessness, so as not to strengthen their children's carelessness, but can adopt positive reinforcement methods. For example, don't criticize a child when he is careless, but when the child finishes a thing seriously, parents should praise the child in time and strengthen his carefulness, so that the child will gradually accept this psychological suggestion and develop more and more carefully.

Whether a child is careless in the exam is determined by his usual habits. Many children have developed a careless habit in their usual study, mainly because they have done their homework and been checked by teachers and parents, so they just have to finish it themselves, without good habits and sense of responsibility. So the child is careless in the exam. Should we also reflect on ourselves? If children usually have teachers and parents to help them check and correct mistakes, it is not impossible for them to develop the good habit of checking and correcting mistakes in time. Such a good habit should be formed in the first grade. Many parents are willing to check their children's homework, thinking that they are responsible for their children, but they don't know that their children will develop the habit of not checking carefully. To get rid of their carelessness, we should first start from parents and help them develop the good habit of checking their homework in their usual study. When the child gets the homework that the teacher has corrected, parents can urge the child to open the homework to see if there is anything wrong. If there is an error, find out the reason. If you really can't find it, you can ask your parents for help. At this time, parents can't help but point out the mistakes directly. They can prompt children to read questions, find out key words, retell the known and unknown in mathematical language, and then find out whether there are hidden conditions that are ignored. Finally, talk about the process of thinking to explore and solve problems, write out the formulas one by one, recalculate them to see if the results of each step are correct, and so on, gradually guide children to correct their own mistakes, praise their performance in time, and let them gradually develop the good habit of checking and correcting mistakes. In daily life, parents should use their care to infect their children, such as keeping the house in order, suggesting that children learn to tidy up their own things, tidy up their own rooms, and cultivate their sense of responsibility for their own affairs. Children's carelessness was not developed in a day. If a child lives in a disorderly family since childhood, without a certain schedule and good living habits, then doing things carelessly will become a child's bad habit.

Therefore, parents should guide their children to develop orderly living habits. In life, let children develop the good habit of keeping things by themselves, not only school supplies, but also clothes and shoes should be put in their own cabinets and kept by themselves. In learning, it is necessary to cultivate children's good habits such as completing homework on the same day, checking after finishing homework, previewing before class and reviewing after class.

Life and study are carried out in an orderly way. Children always maintain a sense of responsibility for their own affairs, so the carelessness will naturally disappear gradually, and children will become more and more careful, rigorous and correct, and can better meet greater challenges and assume greater responsibilities.

Ensuring no mistakes is also a powerful ability!

Five measures to deal with children's procrastination

Children don't pay attention when they do their homework. When they write, they stop. I don't know what they are thinking. There are many extra actions when doing homework, such as finding an eraser. I have to copy down the impressive words I just learned according to the book. Finish writing this time and copy it next time. You can't write continuously. Homework can't be done independently, so parents should supervise it.

Then there is the poor handwriting, the writing is not serious, and I can't find the feeling, so I still don't want to practice handwriting, and my resistance is serious. Not only Chinese and writing are poor, but English and math are also poor. In mathematics, problems that can be done several times because of graffiti are all wrong. Usually, because of the slow writing, the homework can't be finished, and the number of times the teacher stays is not small.

For children's dawdling, comprehensive netizens' coup. Propose the following solutions:

The first trick: one-minute special training.

(1) Train children to concentrate on doing problems. Prepare dozens of simple addition and subtraction oral arithmetic problems (which can be different according to the difficulty of different grades). Set a minute to see how many questions the child can do at most. Let children feel that they can do more than a dozen small questions in one minute, and sometimes they can't write a small question after doing their homework for a few minutes.

(2) One-minute Chinese character writing training, find some new words with strokes and writing difficulties, and see how many words children can write at most in one minute. Write down each situation and compare it.

(3) Write the numbers for one minute. A child in my class has poor digital writing and slow speed. This semester, the math teacher asked him to practice one minute of "0 123456789" fast writing every day. Write once a minute. You can write several groups at a time. He showed me the practice results in recent days. I used to write at most five groups a minute, but now I write at most nine groups, and I write neatly and beautifully.

The above training makes children realize the value of time. It turns out that they can do a lot of things in one minute and cherish time. At the same time, it also improves children's writing speed and problem-solving speed. When training, practice three to five groups every day in groups of 1 min. Pay attention to record the children's training results and compare them. It is advisable to practice for a week.

The second measure: stop urging and insist on praise.

When children are procrastinating, many parents like to make a hullabaloo about and keep urging. As a result, they feel that the more they are urged and the more their children move, the more angry they will be. If children do something quickly, they will be praised. If you can give your child a few simple questions at the beginning, give 1 minute or 2 minutes, and the child will soon be able to do it. Parents should shout in surprise: "Less than a minute!" In short, it is exaggeration. Observe children's performance in life at any time and praise things that are done quickly. "It's much faster to get dressed now!" "It's much faster to pack your schoolbag now." ..... in that case. But don't say, "It's much faster to get dressed now! If only I could do my homework so quickly. " Only praise, not mention the shortcomings of children. Through praise, the child's inner motivation will be aroused.

The third measure: the time saved is up to the children themselves.

Many parents like to give their children some homework inside the family, such as homework assigned by teachers, reading English assigned by parents, children just finished reading English, and parents assign Olympic math problems. Wait a minute. In short, parents arrange their children well. Children also see the problem that as long as children have free time, parents will arrange tasks. Therefore, the child's countermeasure is to break the whole into parts and play while doing homework. If this is delayed for a long time, parents will not arrange other tasks because the homework assigned by the teacher is not completed. The children play while doing their homework.

Countermeasures: Make an approximate time estimate of the homework assigned by the teacher every day and the tasks that children need to complete (including the tasks assigned by parents). Be sure to leave time for children to rest (free time). If a * * * takes an hour and a half, then the child will finish it in an hour and a half (even if the quality and quantity are guaranteed in advance), and the rest of the time must be dominated by the child himself, if he plays his favorite toys, or plays games for a while, does physical exercise for a while, etc. Is to do what children like to do. After forming this habit, children will finish their homework quickly, because they will have a lot of time to play if they finish it early.

The fourth measure: training from living habits.

We can only start with living habits. First, give him time and ask him to finish what he wants to do within the specified time. A parent said that it takes her daughter ten minutes to get up in the morning and put on a pair of socks. Children are tidying socks in bed, which makes parents very angry. What can delay eating, dressing and washing? Try to delay the time.

Countermeasures: shorten the time of children's self-care behavior through training. For example, wear socks and confront your parents to see who is faster. Before the game, teach children how to dress quickly and train by hand. Parents can deliberately slow down a little during the competition to make their children feel that they have the possibility of winning. Sometimes even inadvertently lost to children, so that children feel that they are doing it quickly. Let children do things quickly in life and get up quickly in study.

You can also take time to finish something, praise or write a "★" when you finish it within the specified time; Getting twenty "★" can satisfy a child's wish.

The fifth measure: stop immediately if the specified time is not completed.

Some children put off their homework until ten o'clock in the evening, which reduced their sleep time, resulting in no spirit in class the next day and reduced their learning efficiency. Repeatedly, causing a vicious circle. At this time, I think we can set a final time for children to finish an assignment. In order to ensure children's ten-hour sleep time, many parents stipulate that their children go to bed at nine o'clock. So at nine o'clock in the evening, before the child's homework is finished, he will stop and let the child sleep. If the homework is not finished, it will be criticized by the teacher. Children will finish it quickly in the future. This is a cruel trick. Parents should analyze their children's homework in detail. Sometimes the homework assigned by the teacher exceeds the standard, so this method can't be used. Don't use this trick unless you have to.

In short, parents must use patience and love to help their children gradually correct themselves, and don't rush into it. Pay attention to summing up ways and means, and constantly improve the speed of children.