If you don’t like your parents, you need to learn to “let go”

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The greatest happiness in life is that your parents are alive. Even if your parents are too old to walk, they will still call you by your nickname and treat you like a bag in the palm of their hand.

When parents die, people become "orphans."

Instead of waiting for your parents to pass away and lamenting that "the children want to be raised but cannot be cared for", it is better to spend more time with and care about your parents while they are still alive.

When "filial piety" and "shun" conflict, filial piety loses its beauty.

The day before yesterday, a colleague complained to me: I really don’t understand. When my parents left money to their son, they asked me, the daughter, to bear three hundred yuan a month for living expenses?

Now, my mother is sick and needs another five to six thousand yuan in medical expenses. Why?

A colleague feels that his whole life has been dragged down by his parents. Every day that parents are here is one more day of "burden". I really hope my parents can leave earlier.

It turns out that children who lose their sense of "filial piety" will also suffer.

You must know that the grudges between parents and children do not happen in a day or two. If you can't stand your parents, learn to let go of them so that you can return to the beauty of your childhood.

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First, get rid of prejudice and understand the "three views" of your parents.

There are no two identical leaves in the world.

Parents can’t really empathize with you. When you are young, you are firmly controlled by your parents' pattern, and they may even "ruin" your future.

For example, when you are young, you want to work in a distant place, but your parents force you to cultivate an orchard at home. Your parents' decisions make you very troubled and you have to listen to them. A few years later, all your peers have gone to other places to make a fortune, but you have been living with your back to the sky, and resentment towards your parents has arisen spontaneously.

What’s even more disgusting is that there is a generation gap when your parents communicate with you.

People born in different generations have different perceptions of society. No matter how hard you try, you will always feel that your parents "don't understand and are too biased".

Put aside your prejudices, no matter what your parents say, just do what you think. Your persistence will eventually be understood by your parents. When you encounter difficulties, your parents will definitely help you. After all, you are their crush.

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Second, give up your expectations for property and insist on relying on yourself.

Once, I had dinner with my neighbors.

Neighbors said that the year he got married, his parents forced him to separate the family. After that, he only received an iron pot and twenty yuan from the big family.

Think about it, twenty yuan is a drop in the bucket in any era.

Even so, the neighbors did not resent the parents. After all, he went to college and spent a lot of money.

If you take a step back and think about it, there are many parents who have been poor all their lives and have no ability to lay the foundation for their children to start their own businesses.

Li Ka-shing’s grandfather was a scholar in the Qing Dynasty, and his family was relatively well-off.

However, Li Ka-shing's father, Li Yunjing, was in bad luck. Although he studied hard, he had to drop out of school because of his family's financial difficulties. Li Yunjing worked in education and also traveled across the ocean to do business, but he also failed. Therefore, the family has always been relatively poor.

Not all rich people have good family backgrounds.

Stop worrying about your parents’ property and learn to rely on yourself. Even if you start from scratch, it doesn't matter. The hardships you have endured will eventually turn into blessings for the rest of your life.

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Third, give up "disputes" and take the initiative to bow your head in front of your parents.

When you have an emotional outburst, please calm down for three minutes. If that doesn't work, calm down for three hours.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to recite. Arguments between parents and children are inevitable.

If you get angry in front of your parents, you will not get any benefits. Instead, you will look very uncultivated. When you take the initiative to bow your head, the family will be harmonious and it is also a manifestation of filial piety.

Whether your parents are right or wrong, just listen and don’t have to refute.

When "love" fills your heart, you will find that the people around you are good people.

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Fourth, abandon “frequent contact” and maintain a certain distance.

There is such a colleague beside me. Before leaving get off work every day, he would receive a call from his mother. Most likely it was his mother who asked him what to eat and whether he wanted to buy anything extra.

My mother’s nagging makes my colleagues feel helpless.

Later, when his colleague went to work in other places, his mother rarely called him, which made him very uncomfortable.

When there is a sense of distance between two generations, there will be fewer worries. When we get together during the holidays, you become a guest and can feel a different kind of warmth.

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Conclusion.

While learning to let go, we must also learn to "take responsibility" and take over the heavy burden on our parents' shoulders.

As the saying goes: "Old and young, old and young." When parents are old, they are "children". The father is no longer as majestic as a mountain, and the mother cannot ride the wind and waves like a ship.

In a family, things are changing. When you are forty or fifty years old, all the pressure will naturally be transferred to you.

"A middle-aged man is not as good as a dog." Although it is hard to hear, this is the truth. Everyone can only bear it, there is no way to escape.

Your parents are incompetent, so they leave you suffering, which is a fortune that forces you to grow up; your parents’ family is rich, allowing you to enjoy a good education and have the capital to get rich; your parents love you It's very unkind and I've treated you badly, but they left their blood to you...

Children who know how to be grateful will always think of their parents' goodness and never worry about their parents' evil.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

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