Why is the son-in-law one of our own and the daughter-in-law an outsider?

I shared the family chores of three ordinary female students. Because all three families can reach this conclusion perfectly, the son-in-law can easily become one of their own, and the daughter-in-law will always be an outsider.

Some people say that the mother-in-law is usually very good, but the daughter-in-law in the photo was cut off, leaving only a collection of herself and her son.

Some people say that her mother-in-law brought her aunt's daughter to her daughter-in-law, and her aunt slept next door if she had nothing to do.

Some people say that when the mother-in-law is in confinement, every pickle is served with rice, but her son comes back with big fish and big meat.

Some people say that a mother-in-law always puts the best dishes in front of her son.

Some people say that the more a mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the more she likes it.

Everyone has heard these words more or less. I can't say how evil my mother-in-law is, but she is not my own mother.

Haha, I really want to open a brain hole here. If grapefruit marries a wife and MCA becomes her mother-in-law, will she be a lovely mother-in-law?

I think it is better for her to be a lovely mother.

Part 1? Marry a daughter far away

Let's start with Lynn. Lin's husband is a college classmate. After graduation, he broke up many times and finally came together. Before she got married, she knew that the other person was from Macao, so she could not come to the mainland to develop. She left home for many years and finally ended up with her compromise.

Small houses in Macao are expensive, and my husband's family didn't prepare a wedding room for them, and they didn't mention it. Lin's husband has always said that his mother is a very good person.

After moving to Macao, Lin lived with her in-laws and sister-in-law.

Nothing happened at first. After all, it's her mother-in-law's house, and Lin doesn't want to turn over the hostess. She won't move or bother to move in any space except her own room. The balcony is just outside my in-laws' room. She will feel uncomfortable hanging clothes, especially underwear. So I want to keep my clothes for washing and working together. But hanging a lot of underwear every time makes her feel worse. Everything is awkward.

Slowly, she found that her mother-in-law would wash and dry the clothes of the whole family together, except Lin's clothes.

My mother-in-law runs this family. Mother-in-law's cooking is not bad, and she doesn't intend to let Lin intervene. Mother-in-law is really a good mother.

When the mother-in-law cooks crabs, she will bite them open and peel the meat for her sister-in-law. In this way, I will be rejected by my sister-in-law for a while.

After dinner, everyone dispersed to the living room, some watching TV, some playing mobile phones.

Except I can help my mother-in-law, everyone else is active and invisible.

If it's a male chauvinist family, at least my sister-in-law will help me, even if it's to clean up the table. But, no.

She finally realized. Damn it, it doesn't follow. I am an outsider.

Anyone can openly enjoy her mother-in-law's inside and outside. Not just her.

Lin remembered that in his own home, it was also his mother who washed clothes, served rice and peeled fruit!

Sure enough, the ancients concluded that it made sense. This mother is called mother, but she is not a real mother.

I went home with my husband during the Spring Festival. Lin observed it carefully, and her mother washed all her husband's clothes by hand (Lin's mother is used to washing by hand). At first, my husband was embarrassed to let Marin wash underwear, but after a few days he got used to it.

Every time after dinner, mother Lin quickly said to her husband, go to the living room and watch TV. After several times, my husband got used to leaving after dinner.

Lin told her husband in bed that my mother really treated you as one of her own.

After returning home for the New Year, my husband's brother and sister-in-law suddenly moved home to have children. When the child was born, seven adults and one child were crowded into a small house.

The child was visited by her mother-in-law and cried in the living room every night, which was really suffocating and disturbing.

Lin intends to move out of this place whether he likes it or not.

Part two? Strong woman

A Xia has always been a very smart person, and she will plan for herself as early as when she is in love.

I wasn't engaged at that time, and I didn't make a slip of the tongue. My boyfriend bought a house, but he didn't write his name, so he had a big fight with his boyfriend.

She said, she said that my home decoration will cost money, and you and I will also pay the mortgage together. Why don't you write your name? Just because you haven't got the license yet, but it will soon.

My boyfriend is also embarrassed, because my old father paid the down payment for this house all his life, hoping to write his and his son's names.

Later, my boyfriend gave in and added his name to the book. They followed suit and got a marriage certificate.

After marriage, they live in a new house by themselves. My father-in-law has not retired, and he still works in other cities. The mother-in-law ran to her daughter's house to take care of the children.

Xia knew his parents' interests, so he took her husband home when he was free. Every time shrimp parents know that they want to go home, they fill the refrigerator and stew the supplements. When the son-in-law comes home, he will sit, eat, watch TV and chat. Later, when her husband was free, he asked xia if he wanted to go back to her home.

After the marriage, Axia deliberately found a leisure job and raised a spare tire, but she was not pregnant after three years of preparation.

She hates her mother-in-law coming to live with her granddaughter. The child's jumping and making noises about Ran Ran will cause her sadness. My mother-in-law has been helping her daughter with her children for several years. From one child to another.

The most annoying time was when my mother-in-law took her child to her house for weaning without saying hello. Stay for a month. Children cry all day when they are weaned. At first, she will go home from work at eight o'clock. Later, I directly said that there was something wrong with the unit. Arguing openly with the old man at night, my heart is full of resentment. This resentment has many factors, which are unclear.

A few years ago, house prices rose sharply, which made people panic. Shrimp, they still have some money in their hands and want to invest in a second house. When the shrimp and her husband went to his sister's house, her sister said, you should start the second set quickly, so that you can live with your parents, who are yours after all.

Shrimp secretly let out a cry. This daughter, thanks to her mother for decades, dare not say a word. Seeing her mother-in-law at her house is really a nanny treatment. Kick it away when you're done. It's really amazing. I am really an outsider.

Part three? Good wife

Jun Jun is a good wife. From the moment of marriage, she abandoned her girlfriends circle and friends circle, which was hard to meet.

Her mother told her that after marriage, your husband is everything to you, and she would rather go back to her husband's family than her mother's family. Her husband's family, her family and her own family are all in the same city.

After a few months of marriage, her mother-in-law saw that she was not a big person, so she quickly went to get some medicine for her to drink. She doesn't care. The old people in the countryside are like this.

Jun Jun's husband has five sisters, and the house she lives in is the down payment paid by her husband before marriage.

Her fifth sister-in-law felt that the house was at least a down payment from her parents, and she also had her own share, and she was determined to live in it. Her only guest room has never been occupied.

My elder sister-in-law lives at home with her children and husband. Every time Jun Jun cooks, they say they won't eat. She thought they were all guests, so she cooked theirs. When it's time to eat, they still don't serve. When Jun Jun wants to clear the table after dinner, they will say, "You are wasting. There is so much left. Give it to you. " . Jun Jun was almost so angry that an old blood gushed out. A few days later, my elder sister-in-law ate all the eggs, dried abalone and dried squid left at home, and called Jun Jun's mother-in-law to say that the refrigerator at home was almost broken because she didn't eat so much. . At that time, Jun Jun's old blood really came out of it.

When Jun Jun was five months pregnant, her mother-in-law told her husband that she wanted to adopt a daughter of her second child to their home. Because the old man has taken care of the child for many years, he can't bear to part with her and wants to raise her as a granddaughter (for the old lady, the rural granddaughter is different from the granddaughter). There are many second-born children, and she is fine with it. She also agreed to let the children live in the city. Jun Jun's husband watched the children grow up and had feelings, so there was no need to refuse.

However, Jun Jun's baby is still in her belly, and she will be the foster mother first. She ran back to her parents' home in one breath, unable to express herself. Later, the family came to talk, advised her husband and finally gave up.

Another big event happened when we lived in Jun Jun's house. In addition to her elder sister-in-law, she is a frequent visitor. The fifth is the youngest sister. She sells skin care products downtown, so she lives directly in Jun Jun's house. Old Five always buys fruits and vegetables on her own initiative, so as not to increase Jun Jun's financial burden, but the trouble is that she is lazy. Living in Jun Jun's house, she never helps clean, even her own house is a mess. At first, out of a good mind, Jun Jun helped the young man clean up several times. Later, after a long time, the boy couldn't hold on, so she was confused.

Once my mother-in-law visited Jun Jun's house and saw her daughter's room at sixes and sevens. The winter was over, and thick bedding was still piled up beside her, not washed or confiscated. She was so angry that she ran to Jun Jun and called her a sister-in-law for not taking care of good sister-in-law. The more he scolded, the more Japanese he became. He also said that Jun Jun's ass was small, it was difficult to have a baby, and his son was in such good condition that it was simply a slap in the face. Jun Jun was wronged and cried on the spot. That is, Jun Jun, a good man, couldn't stand anger and didn't answer a word.

Jun Jun is tall 167cm, with a standard slim figure and a good family. Many boys chased him when he was studying. Her husband got the moon first by virtue of the advantage, and spent a lot of thoughts. But in the eyes of her mother-in-law, no one is worthy of her son.

Fortunately, her husband is not blind, so he went home and scolded many of his sisters. I also talked with my mother for the first time in recent years. This is the first time the family has talked about these things, and it is also the first time to think from Jun Jun's standpoint.

Life is not as emotional as TV series, and there are not so many bad mothers. Maybe the experiences of these three women I mentioned are too ordinary. I didn't embellish it, and I didn't bother to embellish it to make things less meaningful.

Why is it so easy for a son-in-law to become one of his own, while a daughter-in-law is regarded as an outsider? In the final analysis, it is also because of one word, love.