We only have one life to sell to people who know the goods.

I can't remember when I copied this sentence, but I found it through my previous notebook, which is very eye-catching. This sentence comes from Lin Qingxuan's essay "Yuanyang Incense Burner". The original sentence reads like this: We only have one life to sell to people who know the goods. We only have one way. We should have emotional impulse and rational meditation.

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I remember a little boy I saw when I was teaching in a cram school last year. His skin is white, but his body is always dirty. He is quiet and looks distressed.

Later I learned that this is a child without a mother. Dad doesn't care much about him, and the child's character is gradually withdrawn.

His mother passed away. This is suicide. The reason is that his father often drinks, and when he gets drunk, he starts hitting his mother. Finally, the woman fell into despair, left her young son and went to another world. I wonder if she thought of the child at the last minute. Maybe at that time, her mind was overwhelmed and she just wanted to get rid of it. Death, on the one hand, is liberation, on the other hand, it is also an escape.

In fact, she could have been more rational and chose to leave that man. In this case, she may live better and take good care of her children. After all, the child is innocent. Now that you meet a bad guy, you should turn back in time. It is difficult for ancient women to get rid of this marriage without divorce. However, there are still many ways to get rid of failed marriages in modern society, and choosing death may be the most irrational one.

As teacher Lin said, people only have one life. If you encounter something bad before, you can find someone who knows the goods. Compared with humble living, death may be romantic, but behind this high degree of romance, there are all kinds of irrationalities.

People may encounter bad situations in their life, and this period is regarded as an unfortunate experience of life. But the next second may be the turning point. Only by looking at life rationally can we live a good life.

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In fact, the same is true for feelings. If you like someone and do a lot of things, but the other person still doesn't feel good about you, then you don't have to waste your energy to win over someone who doesn't know how to cherish you.

Tell me about my friend H. He has always liked a girl. After doing a lot for her, the other party still doesn't like him. We were still in the same class at that time. H often goes to the water room to fetch water, just to let the girl drink hot water. He persisted in this state for a year, and finally failed to let her change herself when she graduated.

H is actually a very nice person, but the other person doesn't like it. This kind of thing should not be reluctantly liked. No one is right or wrong. If you make some efforts and still can't get the result, it only shows that you are not the right person and there is no need to hang yourself from a tree. It is infatuation to insist on putting it mildly, but it is actually a slap in the face.

So is a female friend I know. I like a boy for many years, but I can't forget him. But the reality is that even if you give the best to each other, he may not look at you, so why torture yourself.

We only have one life, and we don't have much experience to toss about. Maybe we can persist in secret love for many years when we are young, then we can change this state when we gradually come to our senses. You can find the one that suits you. Someone must ask: what is right for you?

The person who suits you is unwilling to let you pursue painfully all the time, because he (she) can see your goodness, that is, he (she) knows the goods. Some people may have reasons why they don't like you, but there are always people who will like you. Someone will see your efforts, sympathize with your sufferings and be willing to accompany you everywhere. You just need to find the person who knows the goods.

If we compare ourselves to an article, there is no absolute limit to the quality of this article. People who like you will say hello, and people who don't like you will despise you no matter what you do.

If you think like this, you don't have to worry about those who don't know the goods.

You can find a good lover who can see you and live happily ever after.

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My two friends later gave up their hard pursuit of people who didn't like themselves and found their own happiness.

H's girlfriend is very sweet and lovely, and she is very dependent on H. They are still very happy after many years of love. And my female friend was also pursued by another boy. That boy is very kind to her, can see her strengths and weaknesses, and loves tolerance. Now they have a good relationship.

Life is just a few decades Imagine if we waste time on people and things that ignore us, aren't we just doing nothing?

On emotional issues, we also need rational meditation. If we only have emotional impulses, we may have to pay a lot of meaningless prices.

We only have one life, so we should dedicate this life to those who deserve it, so as not to live up to it.