Son/kloc-puppy love at the age of 0/6. What should I do?

The most difficult problem in family education is puppy love. I am a middle-aged man with a daughter who has just turned seventeen. When it comes to puppy love, she has a strong sense of excitement. When I wrote this article, the child still smiled and said, "Dad, when I make friends in the future, I must ask my parents for advice. Marriage that both parents oppose is hard to be happy. " My daughter's words deeply touched me!

In reality, individual children fall in love, which really brings a shadow to the school and family, which may affect their studies, or even lead to children falling into a misunderstanding. Parents must understand the characteristics of adolescence, strengthen education, give priority to prevention and plan ahead. When boys and girls enter adolescence, they have many physiological changes and have an affection for the opposite sex. This is an instinct of human development, and it is also a specific period for children to bid farewell to their boyhood.

For adolescent children, we should guide them to transfer their vigorous energy to study and normal entertainment activities. Puppy love is a green apple. It can be imagined that it is sour, and the prevention work should start before the bud of puppy love appears. Puppy love is not terrible, the key is transformation. If your child is puppy love, I suggest-

First, be a good teacher and friend of children, and don't intensify contradictions. Boys and girls in psychological closure period can expose their privacy, which just provides us with educational opportunities. Parents should be children's mentors and friends to win their trust. Don't treat puppy love as a scourge, it is a natural expression of human emotions. By talking about life, building ideals, discussing morality and comparing learning, we can guide children well and answer questions for them.

When my daughter communicated with me, she analyzed the reasons of puppy love among junior and senior high school students. First, she sought moral support. The fierce competition makes everyone nervous, and the opposite sex may get a little comfort, talk to each other and escape from reality. Secondly, influenced by some love novels and movies, even love stories in textbooks ... these are undoubtedly very attractive to boys and girls in Seeds of Love. When encountering puppy love children, parents and teachers should extend warm hands, give warmth to their loved ones, and do a good job in patient, meticulous and arduous influence and ideological work. You might as well consult educational experts and psychologists to teach lost children. I believe that children will change.

Second, face up to puppy love and never give up hope. We know that puppy love is difficult to solve. Adolescent children have serious rebellious psychology. Schools don't like puppy love, so it is difficult to talk about puppy love, so it is easy to hide, hide, let go, and even give up hope, which will eventually lead to adverse consequences.

If the child is really puppy love, then parents must treat it well and must not treat it lightly. The following points are very important:

1, strive to build the family into a warm and harmonious paradise and make children feel safe. If you find your child puppy love, you should analyze the reasons and solve the problem. Is the so-called "fact" caused by student input? Or an emotional impulse? Is it the confusion of adolescence or the pressure of study? In short, careful investigation and patient ideological reform are needed.

2. Actively communicate with children. Don't ask how to learn at first. How's the grade? What's the ranking? You can start with other aspects of life and topics that children are interested in. Communication should pay attention to art, calm down and think hard, find a solution and get the ideal educational effect.

It is inevitable that children will be confused when they grow up. For example, parents expect their children to get excellent grades, but the children are not ideal; The school opposes puppy love and children fall in love; Children who violate discipline are severely criticized ... these contradictions and conflicts will make children feel depressed, so it is necessary to help children raise their awareness ideologically in time.

4, keep the closest contact with the school, children fall in love early, parents don't relax, don't make a fuss, don't be embarrassed. Keep close cooperation with the school in time, put down face, communicate actively and cooperate with teachers, and the problem will be solved.

Not long ago, I was interviewed by the media by telephone and asked what my attitude was to "children sign agreements with their parents". If parents can communicate with their children, I don't think it is necessary to sign an agreement. Agreement is just a form, which can't replace the emotion between parents and children at all. Of course, if some families have achieved good results in this way, I also support it with both hands. Different people adopt different methods according to family characteristics, and everything is for children. As long as families, schools and society care for the next generation and cultivate their strong physique, healthy psychology and perfect personality, children will certainly be able to get through the confusion of youth and move towards a bright future.