Xiao Jiang said.

It is often heard in life that a family is complete when it has children! Many young couples said before they got married that they only considered having children three years ago, but not long after they got married, the children were born; Or some people's outlook on life is: one room, two meals, four seasons, and never thought about having children. Nowadays, the pressure of social competition is great, and many people say that it is not easy to support themselves. Now there is another child, and the standard of living has plummeted.

However, it is undeniable that with one more child in the family, the couple have really matured a lot, and they have more responsibilities and responsibilities, and their happiness is also rising. Children come to this society with their parents' expectations and the continuation of their own lives. Many times, parents like to impose what they think is right on their children, regardless of whether the children are willing to accept it or not.

You should know that a child is an independent individual from the moment he is alive, with his own ideas, things he wants to do and ways of expressing his life. However, some parents always repeat a word in their children's ears since childhood: You are our hope, this family depends on you, and you must get ahead! Parents may think that what they say is nothing, but they don't know that this sentence is very destructive to their children, so let's take a look at some children's real thoughts.

Han Han: That's what my parents said when I was a child. They are also very cooperative. I feel that they will definitely do it. But really, when I grow up, my parents still say so. I am under great psychological pressure, and I often dare not face their disappointed eyes. Although it was hard outside, I still smiled and said, I'm fine!

Xiao Fei: This is not "son preference". In this society, the pressure on boys is much greater than that on girls. After graduating from college and entering the society, a good attitude is the experience of life, and a bad attitude directly collapses. I thought I could support my parents after graduating from college, but I just managed to support myself. It is not easy to be an ordinary person, and it is really difficult to get ahead.

Xiaoyu: My parents always only look at the results for their children. Generally speaking, exams don't care about your study, but after the exam, they will blame you for your poor grades, and they won't care about your work, but your salary must be asked. I hope I can help them finish what they didn't have and didn't achieve when they were young. I feel very tired. It's obviously your own life, but it feels like it's for your parents!

After reading the child's answer, I believe many parents are distressed and sad after seeing it. It turns out that children are under so much pressure when they don't know it. As parents, instead of letting our children communicate with us, we ask them to make more achievements.

Children have such an answer, and we also read the answers of several parents.

Mother Longlong: As for my own child, I may have restrained him a lot when I was a child, but when I grow up, I basically look at him or discuss with each other, so my child is willing to communicate with me and discuss with me. It is good that children can achieve something, but my greater hope is to be healthy and happy or just good.

Xiao Jiang's father: Every parent wants their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed, but they also want their children to be really suitable. Don't blindly attach it. After all, what kind of person a child will eventually become has a lot to do with the words and deeds of early parents.

In fact, after reading many parents' answers online, I will find that it is not that parents are not enlightened, but that children and parents need to communicate! People are social animals, not just talking about it. First of all, communication between the two sides is very important, especially for children. You are their parents and friends.

It is human nature that parents want their children to do something, but not every child can be the first in the class. Do you dislike him because he is not like this? Of course not. As parents, no matter what your children become, whether they are mediocre or successful, you all love them. They need themselves in their old age, and you will always love them in your heart.

Most importantly, parents are children's first teachers, and your daily behavior can influence children. Children are born blank, and they learn everything you do. So if you want your child to form good habits from childhood, then as a parent, you should also be responsible for being a parent.

So don't continue to say something in the child's ear that makes him stressed, which will not only cause psychological problems, but also easily lead to the child's rebellious behavior.

Those who like parenting classics can pay attention to it, and we will continue to bring more maternal and child knowledge to you in the future.