Why do you think that when you cherish it seriously, it is counterproductive?

In fact, the best words in life are enough. No matter what you do, there are limits. If you work too hard, the end result will not only hurt others, but also hurt yourself. They say that if you love too much, everything will be turned upside down. In fact, love is a very magical thing. It allows you to change yourself willingly without complaining. But love also has a bottom line, which is insurmountable and untouchable. If you touch it, the ending will not be the opposite of what you think. So, even two people with super good feelings. We should also pay attention to some discretion, and some things should be avoided as much as possible.

Although second time around, once it is broken, there will be cracks when it is spliced again. Those cracks are irreparable. Just like the relationship between two people, if a relationship has bad blood, then this relationship is doomed to be unsustainable. Just like always turning over old scores, no matter what you do, you can drag your ex-girlfriend (boyfriend) back. Just like Tik Tok's angry video recently, did you eat here with your ex-girlfriend? Then I won't eat it. Have you seen this movie with your ex-girlfriend? Then I won't watch it. I think you treat him better than me. In fact, it's not good to keep digging up old scores. Slowly, each other will become very tired. When exhausted, even if there are many disappointments, they will choose to give up.

In fact, such girls are insecure. Not that she doesn't love that boy. But because she cares too much, because she cares about her, she wants to occupy an important position in his heart. How humble her love is, she is willing to compare with a shadow, she is so humble. But everyone has a past. The past is inevitable and unchangeable. Even if you argue with him because of him, you will eventually lose him. In fact, there is no need to dwell on the past. The past is over. It is better to cherish the present and plan the future. Even if he once fought for a girl, she was in the past. You are the only one with him now. Not her, you. The one and only you.

And don't love too much in a relationship. Listening to others say that falling in love is like tug-of-war, but it is really the same. Only when the two sides are equal in strength will they attract more audiences. If one hand is weak, the other hand is infinitely strong. Guess the ending before it starts. The same is true emotionally, which requires careful management by both parties. If one party tries its best to give everything and the other party is unmoved. If the total love is ten points, you can love others eight points, but keep two copies for yourself. Love yourself with those two points. Love can't be too full, but it will be counterproductive.

Most importantly, you can't give up your career because of each other. You should have your own income, and you can support yourself when you break up. Choose to be a housewife. This will make the other person dislike himself. If you choose to be a housewife, when you get old, if she asks you for a divorce, then everything you have will really be lost. Just like an investment, if your economy is relatively independent, then you are in this relationship.

Don't know how to cherish what is easy to get.

That's what people do. You don't know how to cherish when you have it, but you know how to cherish it when you really want to lose it. It may be too late. What's the use of being serious? If I know today, why should I know?

This is the weakness of human nature. When the opportunity was presented to us, we didn't take it seriously, thinking that there would be many in the future, but we didn't think so. The real swallow didn't react until it was lost, but it was too late, and not all opportunities were waiting for you.

This situation is the easiest for two people in love. One side tries to pursue the other side and tries its best to pay all the costs for the other side, but you always ignore it and take it seriously. To put it bluntly, you just don't respect others Their efforts are worthless in your eyes. He is bitter, he is tired and hopeless. There is only one choice ... to leave.

When he really left, you found that there were a lot of things missing in your life, and then you suddenly realized that what you needed was him, someone like him who wanted to take it seriously, but he had already left, and he was very sad and couldn't hear your cry.

There are many opportunities in a person's life in an instant, and no one will wait for you all the time, because you don't know how to cherish and love. People's hearts begin with disappointment, slowly from indifference to indifference, and finally to despair. By the time you understand, it's too late.

When your next opportunity comes, you should cherish it seriously, but the person you meet is the same as before. He didn't cherish you, which may be what people often say.

People should cherish everyone around them who is worth cherishing all their lives. Some people are doomed to let go because it is not worth cherishing.

We should distinguish between cherishing and catering.

Paying without a bottom line, in terms of feelings, love is willing to pay and tolerate, but it does not mean tolerance and concession without a bottom line. Especially when the feelings of two people are very different, when one person cares too much about the other, it is easy to feel inferior and always feel that he is not doing well enough. So blindly catering to the bottom line makes the other side bored, and both sides are very tired!

Therefore, we must stick to our own bottom line, have our own personality and life circle, manage ourselves better, and attract beautiful people, things and things to ourselves.

Some people, because they pay, have expectations, and they are always threatening: I have paid so much, how can I get this result! ?

In fact, this will make each other more tired and annoyed.

Isn't there a popular saying on the Internet: Are you tired and not in love?

There is a bottom line and principle for giving, and it is not tiring and uncomfortable to get along with each other.

Don't force things that don't belong to you. If you can't stay, let him go and let yourself live.

Of course, some people can't be arrogant just because they care about you and love you. Please cherish and respect! I regret it when I lose it!

Happiness in life is nothing more than three things: someone believes in you, someone is with you, and someone is waiting for you. Please cherish!

May everyone get their place and meet people who cherish each other.

My understanding of this problem is eight words: "extremes meet, and water is full." This is an even older and unchanging truth. If anything goes to extremes, it will inevitably change in the opposite direction.

Take the topic of love for example.

First of all, if in a relationship, we give each other too much love, which is too full, it will inevitably put pressure on each other and even make him want to escape. Why is this happening? This is because we express our love in the wrong way. You just want to be nice to him, but you don't know if what you pay is what the other person really wants. As the saying goes, "lovers love seven points and keep three points for themselves", which is the proper state in love.

Secondly, if the other person has been striding forward in life, but you are walking slowly, over time, there will be distance and estrangement between you. Just like climbing stairs, he reaches the top and you are still wandering at the bottom, so the scenery and feelings you see are completely different. This spiritual difference will determine your ability to be happy. Only at the same level can we make a more * * * sound.

Finally, it depends on whether he really loves you. If not, no matter how much you pay, it will only be a moon in the water, a flower in the mirror, a dreamer and a guest in the cup.

At the end of the article, I also want to give some advice to those who are humble in love. We are all born equal. Don't lose the most precious dignity given to us by God because of your inner inferiority and cowardice. Don't please each other blindly in love, leave some space for each other and strive to improve yourself. If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come, and if your heart floats, you will smile safely.

Cherish is the expression of value and motivation.

Since you cherish something, it proves that its value is highlighted at this moment. What you see is treasure, and at the same time it and others also see it. It is counterproductive for transaction costs to increase your feelings.

This is the same as the essence of buying and selling. Looking at a bag shows a strong desire to buy, and the seller must have a firm price. At the same time, several people said they bought it, and the seller just raised the price to show that they didn't cherish you. Suddenly found that the bag was defective, the buyer had left, and the seller took you to show his appreciation, but then you wanted to leave.

When you feel that everything is too late to cherish seriously, you also feel that you are wrong, so whatever you do is counterproductive!

Because what you have done before has hurt too many people or done too many wrong things, so that others can no longer trust you.

Just like at the beginning, every time you stab, others will suffer because they love you, will be numb by you, and others will give up on you. You wake up and give candy to others. A person who hurt himself the most gave himself a candy one day.

Who cares about this candy? Can this candy make up for everything before? Maybe it's poison?

Sometimes, we should think about how to cherish it when we have it, instead of spending it fearlessly. It's never too late to mend, but it's hard to impress people!

Even if you don't like some people, please be kind to them instead of hurting them blindly.

Life is impermanent, please cherish everything around you and be kind to everyone and everything!

The more you try to catch something, the result is often lost.

However, the more you cherish your feelings, the higher your requirements will be, which is why many people say that the person you marry last is often not the one you love the most. Because of the person you love the most, your expectations for him are often the highest, but you may forget that he is also an ordinary person. Even if there are vigorous feelings, it will eventually be unremarkable. In the daily necessities, your feelings will become so pure, and then a psychological gap will be formed. The bigger the gap, the greater the disappointment, and the result can be imagined.

The so-called no hope, no disappointment, contact a person with a normal heart, be the truest self, and finally gain the truest feelings. Life won't cheat you, only you can cheat you.

The more you cherish, the more tired you are; It's better to give it a try, maybe what can stay with you later is the most precious!

As the saying goes, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. You give your heart and protect something in your own way. Subconsciously, you have great expectations for this object. Why should we cherish it? Just because he is very important to you, you will unconsciously be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. When the result is unsatisfactory or you don't get the answer you originally wanted, you will feel twice disappointed.

Let's take a person as an example. Man is actually a very complicated creature. His emotions are very rich. The more you cherish him, the more arrogant he is in dating. The more likely he is not to cherish your wealth, otherwise he won't know how to cherish it until he loses it. Therefore, whether it is for things or people, putting a good attitude and position, balancing the importance of this relationship, and having an appropriate psychological preparation for loss may make you less hurt.

I am @ Zhang, a sunny and hardworking woman who writes stories. Let's talk about feelings together. I hope I can bring you some inspiration and help.

From the analysis of your problem, you should cherish it seriously and divide it into "time" instead of often. More accurately, "cherish" is not something you always insist on doing, but occasionally. Suddenly I want to cherish it seriously, but the result is not satisfactory.

If you don't cherish it seriously, it may lead to the following emotional problems:

People's feelings are mutual. If you are kind to me, I will treat you with the same feelings. If you don't care, don't take it seriously, and don't cherish it, then I will treat you lightly.

If the other person doesn't feel your serious attitude towards feelings, he will treat you as a cold, selfish and heartless person, except those infatuated fools, who are basically discouraged from you.

Cherish is to value and cherish, just like treating rare treasures. Your attention and concern can be fully reflected by your behavior, language and what you do. Don't think that only you are the cleverest and everyone else is a fool; Don't even think that the other person should pay, your pay is a gift. It doesn't matter if you don't value it or cherish it. After a long time, the other person doesn't care about you.

Before you want to cherish it seriously, the other party has been extremely disappointed in you, but didn't tell you directly. When you want to cherish it, this feeling has left you, but you can see the final result: not only can't keep each other's feelings, but it is still cold in front of you. You suddenly find out: what? I want to pay attention to you from now on. My concern is a big gift for you. Are you ungrateful?

Caicai has some suggestions:

Life is full of drama.

Maybe you used to study well, have a good family, have a good personality, have been admitted to a good university and have a good job. Everything in others' eyes is so smooth.

However, it happened that you did not marry well. The female classmate who didn't study well, was worse than you, and even went to work after graduating from junior high school, dramatically married the big boss and started the life of a rich woman and husband after marriage.