How to get along with each other after breaking up?

1. Be in the same state as before, but change the previous shortcomings! Now that they are back together, they should stop having bad feelings and return to their old ways of getting along. However, when we get along, we should pay attention to changing the shortcomings of being willful and too clingy, otherwise it will end in tragedy. Because love itself can't solve any problems, after being reunited, we find that the other party is still the same as before, and the problems are not solved. There are many contradictions and barriers that should exist. I have the desire to love, but I don't have the ability to solve problems. When the patience runs out and the fantasy dissipates, the two will eventually break up (or repeat the above process and fall into an infinite cycle of separation and integration). 2. Learn to love yourself first. A person who doesn't know how to love himself doesn't know how to love others, and it is difficult to have a harmonious and happy intimate relationship. People who don't know themselves and love themselves can't perceive their inner emotions and feelings. It is very likely that they will always blame each other or blame themselves incorrectly. They can't look at the problems between two people in a correct way, and when they encounter problems, they are easily controlled by emotions. 3, more care is an eternal topic between people, and couples are no exception. Only when two people care about each other, both sides will feel warm and the relationship will be harmonious. For example, when it's cold, a girl knits a scarf for a boy, and a boy buys a pair of cotton boots for a girl, all of which can well show their concern for each other. 4, can contact each other at any time because of life, study and work, it is inevitable that two people often separate, and for us now, mobile phones should be our main contact tool. Don't turn off your phone when nothing happens, or don't take your phone. If the phone is dead, change the battery and charge it in time. I'm calling you not to supervise and check you, but to know that you are safe and you are fine now. So, please turn on the phone 24 hours a day. If you don't answer the phone for various reasons at that time, you must call back immediately afterwards and take the initiative to explain the reasons. 5. Don't take the existence of love for granted. Many of us have this common problem, and we will have all kinds of scruples when we first fall in love. However, after being together, you are unscrupulous, as if you think that the other person is good or patient with you for granted. In fact, whenever you feel that love is about to enter eternity for granted, it is actually the eve of the storm. Therefore, the most taboo thing for couples is to take the existence of love for granted. 6. Learning to manage emotions When you encounter problems, emotions usually appear the fastest, but the lethality of emotions may be great, and there are many possibilities for emotions. If you can't understand your emotions and manage your emotions effectively, you will be controlled by emotions and hurt by them, and your emotions will also hurt your loved ones. Therefore, we should know how to cultivate our ability to manage emotions, and gradually understand and control our emotions in emotional experiences again and again. 7. It is very important to have more trust and mutual trust, which is crucial for maintaining a harmonious relationship between couples. Because only trust can avoid many unnecessary arguments and noises. For example, a woman suspects the strange perfume smell of a man, but the man says that it's just a meeting that was "spoiled" by a female colleague sitting next to her. At this time, a woman should trust a man, and the man will be very moved. Can reconciliation go far after breaking up? Not necessarily, it depends on people. After reconciliation, the two must manage with care. When you have the idea of reconciliation in your mind, please think about it, and then make up after breaking up. How long is your shelf life? If it's just because you can't adapt to the single life for a while, make up. In fact, reconciliation is not shameful. It's just a sign of loving someone. Even if you think about it many years later, you will feel that you tried your best, but it's really no big deal that you are not together after all. Some couples break up because of their families, because of the economy, because they don't love each other, while some people break up just by saying it. They use it to test each other, not knowing that it hurts. When you are facing a person you love, when you are facing your feelings for many years, no matter whether you belong to the former or the latter, you must think twice before you get back together after breaking up. How to judge whether there is hope and reconciliation after breaking up? 1. What are you doing? After breaking up with your girlfriend, after a period of precipitation and vanishing, if you don't take the initiative to contact her, she will occasionally send a message asking you: What are you doing? Actually, she misses you. 2. be jealous. If she inadvertently finds out that you have had close contact with other women, she will be jealous and still feel that she is your girlfriend, but she won't admit it for the time being. 3. miss. If I haven't heard from you for a long time, she will try her best to find out about you, otherwise she will be driven out of her wits. 4. Remember important days. Including your birthday and the anniversary of your acquaintance, she will deeply remember it. Although she will not send you any more gifts, she will also send you a cordial greeting and blessing. 5. The title has never changed. After breaking up, she always used to call you when you were in love. She never changed her name to you, which proves that you have never gone far in her heart. 6. I like to recall the past. If there is an opportunity to contact you or chat with you, she will always bring up good memories in front of you, which shows that she has always kept your love in her heart. If so, you can bravely pursue it again and let love go back to the past. Differences between men and women after breaking up The state of girls and boys after breaking up is actually quite different. Girls will be depressed when they break up, and it is difficult to get out of the state, and Lacrimosa is getting thinner day by day. This state will last for more than a month, but boys are different. When they break up, they will feel very relaxed, because quarreling will make him physically and mentally exhausted in this relationship, and breaking up will make them feel relieved, and they should eat and drink as usual, but after this momentum, they begin to get used to being depressed. This is actually a kind of fate, and no one can take the initiative to control it. If the other party has you in mind, you will still be together, but if the other party has no intention, it will be useless for one party to force it. I suggest that if some contradictions can be solved, we should try. Don't always break up to test whether the other person loves you. How to get along after breaking up? 2 First of all, we should avoid the fatigue period after recovery. It is not too much to describe your redemption by "cutting through thorns". During the whole process, you challenged the impossible again and again and constantly defeated yourself. Now that you have succeeded, you enjoy the feeling of victory, but you are also quite tired. This kind of fatigue is manifested in getting along with each other after recovery. You completely take off your armor, go back to the past, let go of your tense heart before, let go of your changing psychology, start to pay no attention to your image, and start to work again, thinking that you are all one of our own, and there is no need to pretend again. Soon you will get over the scar and forget the pain, and you will look indifferent. Then continue to repeat the previous mode of getting along, which is the easiest time to repeat the same mistakes. There is such a set of data on the internet: the probability of two people getting back together after breaking up is 82%, but only 3% can go all the way to the end after getting back together, so 97% of the reasons for breaking up again are actually the same as the first time. Therefore, you must avoid these factors, as you did when you saved them, and pay more attention to solving the problems between you, so as to maintain this recovered relationship. Furniture and home appliances need to be maintained in order to be used better, not to mention feelings. So, how can we further maintain good feelings? 1. Relax your mind and don't mention the past. There are two kinds of wrong mentality: First, because of your face and all kinds of grievances in the process of redemption, you will ask the other party to express your determination to admit your mistake and ensure that you won't make it again in the future, and you will pose as if you were adamant in the past, so it is easy for the redeemed feelings to come to a deadlock again, and no one wants to talk to each other. If you want to get back to your old feelings, don't be so arrogant, embrace each other actively and enthusiastically, express your love and miss for him, and don't go back to the old road of failure because of your willfulness. What you want at this time is a more stable and lasting relationship with each other, so you should stop mentioning the past and only focus on the front. Don't complain and blame all the time, but get to the bottom of who is more wrong. Let's turn over all the unhappy things in the past! Don't always talk about it. It's really useless to struggle all the time. It's a scar. If you touch it, it will still hurt and hurt. There is no absolute right or wrong in feelings. To really forgive each other from the heart is also to forgive yourself. Second, although two people have resumed their love relationship, the estrangement left by the breakup will make the two sides become cautious when they get along, and they are always cautious when they get along, so they should think twice before speaking. Worried about saying the wrong thing, afraid that I didn't do well enough, which led to breaking up again. As a redeemer, you are more likely to "look at your face", thinking that you can win people's hearts by being passive in Nuo Nuo and infinite tolerance, but this has caused you to put yourself in a low emotional position after redefining your relationship, so you are looked down upon by the other party again, and breaking up is an inevitable result. We all know "Murphy's Law", and there is such a advice: If you are worried about something happening, it is more likely to happen. Therefore, when you are walking on thin ice and are worried about doing something wrong again, you will be very nervous and uneasy when you get along with each other, and you will be very concerned about each other's every move. The slightest sign of trouble will make you alert and nervous. In the long run, the other party will feel at a loss because of your worries. Not only you, but also the other party will be exhausted. How far can a relationship that is uncomfortable and uncomfortable with each other go? Feelings are a very beautiful thing, even if it has been flawed, but when you decide to renew the frontier and get together again, it shows that you still have love and feelings for each other. The past has become the past, remember that you are facing a new life and a new beginning. There is no need to be nervous and worried at all. It is the most important thing to relax and get along with each other freely. 2. Change yourself and create a new mode of getting along. In other words, one thing you can't forget in the past is your mode of getting along. Perhaps this is the reason why you broke up. You must find a way to change it, or if the old problem breaks out, it will still be the same rhythm. The recovery was successful, but the feelings still need to be constantly repaired, and the mode of getting along with each other. It also needs further updating and improvement. For example, communication: learn to communicate peacefully, face problems positively, use emotional intelligence to resolve contradictions, and avoid being adamant or passively escaping. Contradictions will not disappear on their own, and it is easy to drop water and wear them out if they are not handled properly. For example, get along: If you used to be a stubborn, headstrong and unreasonable person, now you need to keep your image of being sensible, gentle and considerate. If you were always clingy and had no ego before, now you also need to keep your independence and self-confidence, grasp the distance with each other, give each other personal space and create the comfort of getting along. The most direct way to change the mode of getting along is to change yourself. Your promotion and change at the time of redemption should not be just a temporary expedient, but a real and essential change. After redemption is successful, you can establish a new comfortable mode of getting along with each other as soon as possible, so that you can always keep fresh. You and your feelings need to be preserved. 3, lower expectations, and guide the pay. Perhaps because of this complicated relationship, I have worked hard to recover it, so there will be some psychological compensation who think that the other party should be better to you, even better than before. However, the fact is often that you can only be disappointed and complain. Now he is not as good to himself as before, and there are still many old problems. That's because you experienced a breakup, which made him feel alienated psychologically. This is a normal phenomenon. You should understand these psychology and know how to manage your expectations of him and his feelings. Don't ask each other with old eyes and standards, give him time and slowly integrate. In fact, some of his shortcomings come from long-term living habits, and it is impossible to get rid of them for a while. If you hold on to it, keep nagging and ask for correction, it will only make the other party bored, and then a serious conflict will break out. Now that you have decided to go on with each other, learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings and change him subtly in a gentle way. And guiding the other party to pay is the best way to change. He is too lazy. You can ask him to do a little favor, sweep the floor, clean the table, choose a dish and so on when doing housework. He is too careless with you, you can ask him to buy you a snack on the way and so on. Of course, you can also buy him a small gift that he likes, or send him a cup of hot tea at the right time when he is busy. Remember one thing, ask him for help. First, don't use the blunt tone of command. Gentleness and coquetry are women's best killers. If you don't learn to use them, should you leave them to other women? Secondly, at the beginning, it is best to do small things easily, and then step by step, with little help again and again, the other party has been paying constantly and will gradually become a habit. He will value and cherish you and this relationship only when he has a sense of being needed. Looking back is not a simple restart. Only by changing can you meet a better self and enjoy a loving hug with him you love.