Why do so many people want a second child now? Are two children really better than one?

Let me talk about this experience. I have a brother who is not in good health. I took care of him more since I was a child. Now that we are all grown up, we didn't feel much benefit from being sisters. Since my father was ill this time, I really realized the benefits of having more brothers and sisters.

Although we are two brothers and sisters, we can infer the difference between a first child, a second child and many sisters from family affairs.

My father's illness is very serious. Materially, my father pays part of it himself. Without it, my sisters can share it, and the only child will have great financial pressure. In terms of caring for the elderly, children can take turns to take care of them, there are treatment plans that can be discussed with each other, and one more family can help share the pressure. Children with one child really have to bear all this alone.

No matter how filial you are, the old people need to be accompanied, but if you have a family and children, you have to take care of your small family and care about the old people. Everything still costs money. You can't give up your job. The whole chain will really make you breathless, and you will be very painful. The reality is so cruel.

I used to have Dink's idea, but after so many things, I found it really important to have several children under my knee, whether it's a first child, a second child or a third child. I just hope that when we get old, we won't be a burden to them. After we leave, they can have a family of brothers and sisters who care about each other and won't even have someone to share and discuss things with.

A little personal words are for reference only.

Personally, I think that two children are better than one, because when they grow up, they can take care of each other and are not alone. It is easier to support the elderly than one child, and it also reduces the burden on the children. I think two children are better.

It's hard to say whether one is good or two. It's better to give birth to one and cultivate it well than to give birth to a bunch!

having one or two children mainly depends on parents' wishes. Now everyone is chasing after having a second child mainly for the following reasons:

1. They have confidence in their own economic conditions. Every family has different economic conditions, but everyone has different economic requirements. Of course, those who have money have no worries. Those who have no money think that I am still young and can earn money, and I don't have too many demands on life. I feel that I am completely enough. So we don't have to question anything.

2, trying to spell a good word. This is the idea of most parents who are chasing a second child! It's not that you have to have a boy, but those who are reborn to have a boy are also born. Everyone still wants to have both children! Yes, things don't work out as expected. People who have a second child around me, including myself, are either daughters or sons.

3, parents' wishes. Many parents in the 198s and 199s are only children, and parents often hope that they can have two children, regardless of whether a man or a woman have the same surname, which is quite common in southern Jiangsu. There is also a pure preference for boys, and the first child is a daughter who has to force a son. This is really not pleasant!

4. Worries about the future. The plight of the only child is increasingly exposed, not just the problem of supporting four old people, but the sudden death of the only child, which parents really can't bear. I feel so worried after reading such reports. I am also worried that my children will grow up, my parents will be old, and there will be no relatives around me. The first generation of only children at least have cousins, and the second generation is really alone, having to carry everything by themselves.

Because the family planning policy has been implemented for more than 3 years, now the policy has liberalized the second child, and many people who can catch up with the second child have a second child. Having a second child is good for the mother's health, and there is little chance for women to get fibroids every time they have more children. It is beneficial to children's growth. When two children grow up, the older children know how to take care of and move the younger children. The two children are still playmates, and their childhood is also very happy, which is very beneficial to children's psychological growth and personality growth.

When parents are getting old and need to take care of them, the two children can take care of the life of the elderly together, and the children's families can also help. The two families can take turns to take care of them without affecting their work and life, and they can help each other if something happens. Two children are better than one, so many people want a second child.

friends! A child is definitely not good, and the relatives in a child's family will be spoiled, which is very unfavorable for the healthy growth of the child. How to write a good word half-child and half-female? Why? This is to tell you that only children can applaud. A child is lonely at home and has no companions to play with. If a child has big things to discuss with, if there are two children at home, parents can take care of them for a month, and he can take care of them for a month, so that the burden on the children is less, and the family with two children will have laughter every day. People who want to have two children are very correct. Having two children at home is good for the family, the society and the children.

The problem caused by the only child is more serious. Take the Internet for example, in the past two years, there have been many conflicts between the subway and the old people dancing in the square dance because they don't give up their seats. In the restaurant, they screamed and rushed to kick their children because they were suspected of others' three-or four-year-old children. On the Internet, they complained that their parents gave birth to a second child without asking for their own opinions. All of them were born after 199 or even after zero, and they were all only children. The most typical performance is not respecting the old, not loving the young, and lacking basic tolerance and understanding of others.

The reason is very simple, because in the future, a child, the adults of the whole family are bound to be pampered, spoiled and given whatever they want. They are used to being pampered and let me go all over the world, instead of thinking about themselves in social life, and often have to let others go a little.

by contrast, two children are much better. I knew from an early age that toys, food and parents' love are not exclusive to me, so I should share them with my brothers and sisters. Children who grow up in this way are much more sound in personality.

So, I advise you to have a second child or one.

I gave birth to the numbness of Erbao. Let me talk about my personal experience. Without Erbao, I have my own circle of friends. Dabao has grown up, so I just need my father to make a meal. Every year, I come to the venue to say that I have a trip. Since I have Erbao, everything has changed. I have been around my children all day, and Dabao's study has been neglected and dropped. I bought what I originally wanted without hesitation. Although Erbao is particularly cute and smart, if I have time to do it again, I will definitely not have a second child. Directly lowered the standard of living, and entered the ranks of providing for the aged ahead of schedule. All day long, the kindergarten in the home square is 3: 1. < P > The plot of "Family with Children" is deceptive. After 198, my brother was not in the countryside after 199. Most of my friends are brothers like me. To tell the truth, the conditions are similar to those of people now. When I go to school, I don't talk about holding hands with big hands on TV. When I play, I also find my own classmates. Now that we are all adults, let's just say that my brother and I can't say five words in a week. We live in a community, and my friend and his brother meet less than once a month. They live in the same unit. It feels like two only children. It's all a trick to give birth to a companion for the boss. If you don't believe me, try it. The boss and the second child don't want to fight pesticides together.

I often see online comparisons between the experiences before and after giving birth to a baby, and it's bitter to have one? We haven't spit out the baby yet! We are not silent! I'm already too tired to tell, okay? ! ! What is a life like hell? Please allow me to explain ...

1. If you cut off the first one, you must cut off the poor person of the second one.

2. Stay up all night

If you keep a baby for three years, you can't sleep well, and it will get worse after another.

3. Fortunately, there are old people to help you. It's really my blessing to see one on each side, but I usually live separately, and I can only see the boss on weekends, which is also a bitter taste.

4. Life is endless and I lose weight.

When I was pregnant with the first one, I gained 18 pounds, and I finally lost weight to a normal level and got pregnant again. I tried my best to fight my maternal instinct for the sake of my children. Make me fat like a hippopotamus

5. Traveling means going to war.

Taking a child to travel is no different from moving. When two children travel, there are more things. People who look after the children must be neat as standard, carry them, look after the children and watch the road ... Children are having a good time, and adults are simply suffering!

6. Those expenses

to raise a child are money shredders. I have never touched the money for raising two children ... I haven't got it yet ...

Besides, my family is two boys, and you know ...

You can knock down that kind of thing with a sigh ...

7. Play. When the two children don't stop, they cry and scream for a while, and cry n times a day, and the room is full of crying, shouting and yelling all day ...

8. Parents who do homework

are always hospitalized and angry. All I can say is ... If you want to have a second child, you must calculate the age difference, and you will have to wait until the boss goes to primary school. That must be returned to milk! Identification is complete!

Yes, this is my daily image. I tried my best to lion roars, and then exploded in the same place day by day. But if you ask me, do you regret having two children? Are you kidding? That's my own son! Even if they fall out and make me tinnitus and deaf, I will not regret it! Being a mother is strong. It's just a natural law. Do you think which mother who is complaining bitterly really threw her child away? Of course, my own children hurt! Every little fuss is a truce, and there are times when you are clever and coquetry. I am willing to have two babies, and I am willing to suffer a little.

Let me talk about our family. My mother-in-law is an only child, but she gave birth to two sons, one in Beijing, the other in her hometown, and a 9-year-old mother at home. This year, the eldest son just gave birth to a baby. They bought a house in Beijing, and they were under great pressure. My mother-in-law went to see the children, and my father-in-law took care of her at home. My husband's grandmother was hospitalized because she was the only one. Grandma's grandfather was gone when she was young. It's not easy to bring up her mother-in-law by herself. Where did you get the money? My children are married and have their own jobs, and they have to pay off their car loans and mortgages. Not going to work means no income, so my children all come back to see that grandma has gone back to work. My sister-in-law's family is exactly the same as my mother-in-law's. They are all only children, and they all have a grandmother and sister-in-law. Someone in their family is sick. My mother-in-law said, there must be two. At least someone will replace you when your parents are sick. If you don't have someone to replace you, you have to hire a nurse, but you still have money, and the woman's parents can't get sick, otherwise it will be terrible to think about it. I'm not saying that you should have a second child. Of course, one after another has advantages. You can think about it yourself.