What's the experience of marrying a family with two brothers?

A woman who marries two brothers is brave, because she has to face the situation that her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have sister-in-law love in the lives of three women. Women who marry two brothers are stupid, and their mother-in-law will always be partial to their two sons, so there is not much resentment. I want to marry a family with two brothers. If you ask me if I will ever marry such a family, my answer is "no".

Before I married my husband, my husband had a sister-in-law My husband respects this sister-in-law very much, because her mother-in-law has a big daughter-in-law and a big grandson, and she feels very satisfied. She doesn't care about her youngest son's marriage, and she doesn't want to give an engagement or a bride price. At that time, my sister-in-law took her children and her mother-in-law on vacation. In a rage, I called her directly and told her to ask her mother-in-law to break off her marriage, then turned off her cell phone and went out for a day and came back. When I turned on my cell phone, I saw many missed calls. When I got through to my husband, he asked me why I broke off my marriage without consulting. Maybe it's a little radical. Finally, my mother-in-law was dissatisfied with me and became close to my sister-in-law and alienated from me.

Mother-in-law is a very strong woman who loves to take care of everything at home. My eldest sister-in-law has better economic conditions than me, and my eldest brother is a unit cadre. My eldest sister-in-law is very talkative, so she always calls me stupid. Once, my mother-in-law was hospitalized, which happened to be physical therapy for low back pain. Obviously, my sister-in-law is at home, so I have to ask for leave to wait on her in the hospital. I couldn't get away from work. I went to the hospital to see my mother-in-law and prepared 2000 yuan for her. Later, my mother-in-law complained to her husband that I didn't respect them. I didn't expect such a move, and my husband believed it and had to apologize. Sister-in-law enjoyed it. My eldest brother's child had another birthday. It happened that my father was in hospital those days. I have to go to the hospital. Before that, I had bought birthday presents for my eldest brother's children. On the birthday, the whole family went to celebrate their children's birthdays. I went to the hospital and missed the birthday party. My husband slapped me and said I could do nothing. My mother-in-law found out and said that I didn't know good or bad without a tutor.

My mother-in-law likes her sister-in-law to help her eldest brother. She doesn't talk about helping her children. My father-in-law secretly gave money to her eldest brother. When we need help buying a car or a house, we say we have no money. Let's rely on ourselves. Once when I was transferred, I needed his help because of my eldest brother and sister-in-law. I didn't expect that she didn't take it seriously at all, which made me suffer a lot. Finally, I want to understand that this family is their own except for the children and husband, and the mother-in-law and sister-in-law are others after all. They will only make you stumble, find you something and watch your jokes. I have been married to my husband for many years, and the grievances I have suffered are that I went into the water without getting married.

It is reasonable to say that it can alleviate the pressure of two sons' old-age care. Mother-in-law wants to change a big room so that one of them can pay half of the expenses, and one of her two sons needs to be hospitalized. She also said that she was unbiased. My sister-in-law came to me and said that we should pay the money first and get it later. My sister-in-law didn't pay back the money she borrowed from us before, and there are still several houses and shops in my brother's house. Their economic situation is much better than ours, but they are still poor. My mother-in-law also made me listen to your sister-in-law. She has a mind for managing money. I think my sister-in-law is too clever.

The story goes on, but my heart is tired. I really don't want to play with a group of people like my husband until I get married. I realized that love and marriage are really two different things. If I went back in time, I would never have married my husband and such a family with two sons.

In this regard, I must say that I advise unmarried girls not to find two brothers' families. My husband is the boss, and we got married in love. I'm from the north and my husband is from the south. When getting married, my in-laws don't care about anything. I bought all the wedding beds, quilts and sheets myself. The bride price was not given at all. My mother-in-law said that money was tight at home, and I thought about it. I thought two people got married because they loved each other and didn't care so much. My parents didn't care that much.

My mother-in-law took care of me when I gave birth. The family is far away and can't take care of it. I brought the baby by myself. During the two years of taking care of children, my mother-in-law euphemistically said that one of us was not taking care of children, one was taking care of children, and the other was going out to work. My family advised me to let my mother-in-law take care of the children, saying that she had worked and made money, and took it in her own hands. I didn't listen, and I don't want to owe the old man a favor to take care of the children. Bring your own children. However, with more than two years of children, I have no job, and my husband does not earn much by himself. Even if my in-laws don't help me, I have to ask my husband for money. My father-in-law scolded my husband because he had no money to give. I am really speechless. Later, I gave my father-in-law the ten thousand I had just saved. We had no money then. A child is poor for three years, and we have a deep understanding.

The year before last, my brother-in-law found a wife. Because of her introverted personality, she has never been in love. It is equivalent to buying a wife. Spent 300 thousand. My mother-in-law was sick at that time, too. Heart disease is more serious. During the hospitalization, my brother-in-law's wife never went to see it. I have been to the hospital several times because I have to go to work. My mother-in-law stayed in the hospital for a month, and my husband paid for it. Later, when I was discharged from the hospital, I complained to my father-in-law in tears that I didn't wash her clothes. When she said she took care of me, she took good care of me. I just wanted her to take care of me when I was in confinement. Because mom's house is too far away. My husband retorted that a little daughter-in-law spent 300 thousand. The mother-in-law stopped talking.

My mother-in-law has been taking medicine until now, at least seven or eight thousand a month, almost two years, and my husband is paying the bill. At least it cost more than 100 thousand, and my brother-in-law didn't pay it. My sister-in-law told her mother-in-law one day that I was fine. It cost 300 thousand to find a wife for my youngest son, but I didn't spend any money and didn't complain. I heard from my mother-in-law that it doesn't matter what I do. I spent money on your big brother before. I listened to it in my heart and was furious. The money you spent on your son is for him and it was spent before we got married. As a daughter-in-law, I didn't get any bride price money from you. My mother-in-law is a long-winded person. She is in poor health and likes to take care of some things. So sometimes I don't like her, and she complains to her father-in-law that I don't respect her.

Up to now, the child is seven years old and still lives with his brother-in-law. A few times before, I told my husband to let my father-in-law sell the house, a house of 130 square meters, and the money was divided equally, and the two brothers bought another one. You can't live together forever. The child is also older. My father-in-law has never sold it. Or why. My husband said that he bought a house and didn't want his parents to pay. I really feel wronged. There is no bride price. The house should be completely unadorned. I really regret marrying two brothers' family.

I also married two brothers. We live together every day, opposite each other. Before that, my eldest brother was not at home. When I was pregnant at home, I helped to look after my sister-in-law's two children and taught them to do their homework. For about a year and a half, I treated them as my own children, giving them birthdays, buying gifts and toys. Later, when the child was born, my sister-in-law didn't even look at my child. At first, I thought it was a child. I didn't think much about it either. After all, I have my mother-in-law to help me Later, when my brother came back, I stopped teaching my children homework. My children grow up slowly. I heard her scold my children more than once and said they were disobedient, so I told my parents-in-law not to let them play in her hospital all the time. My sister-in-law seemed a little unhappy, so I let them play here. Once, I undressed my child at night, my child. I asked what I was crying about. The child said that the empress asked her to go home to find her grandmother today and wouldn't let her go to her brother's house to play. Grandma is not at home, so I have nowhere to go. Hearing this, I was very angry. I took my children to my parents-in-law, and my parents-in-law were very sad. After that, I stopped talking to my sister-in-law. When she comes to talk to me about anything, I won't talk. I don't listen to what my brother and parents-in-law tell me about her family.

What is written above is basically that the second-child family has been wronged. Let me tell you what we are, boss. As a sister-in-law, I can say how much I have paid for my husband's family.

For his brother's marriage, my husband and I are both for my parents-in-law, and all the pressure is on us. I want you to comment on what kind of rewards I have received for my efforts.

The down payment of the house is more than 80,000 yuan, the alcohol and tobacco 1.3 million yuan, the meeting 1.8 million yuan, the furniture is 7300 yuan, and the household appliances 1 10,000 yuan. There are many trivial things, so I won't count them.

Yes, we are catering workers. How much money can you earn in the countryside? Besides, I have three children. Although we took 60 thousand yuan from our parents-in-law when we opened the restaurant, we contracted all the wedding affairs. Can we be the boss?

We are in debt again for his brother's sake. Are we worth it?

I know very well in my heart, what will you do if my mother-in-law and father-in-law don't treat me as one of their own? My parents-in-law are from the countryside and don't have much savings. I am also very grateful to my parents-in-law for helping me raise my children. I also consider that my husband has only one younger brother, because I also have a younger brother. I understand my husband's difficulties. They all want the family to live in harmony.

Although this younger brother has been married for more than two years, they haven't helped us, and I won't care about them. Since you have paid, you don't want anything in return, just for this family and for harmony. I'm sure they understand. Although their parents-in-law don't have as many children as we have given them, they should know in their hearts, shouldn't they?

My husband and I will be married for nine years soon! I buy clothes and shoes for my parents-in-law every year. The child's aunt has been married for more than two years, and I haven't added some clothes to my parents-in-law. I understand that every family has its own problems, not to mention that people are different!

I just want to be myself, no matter what others say about us!

Some people think we are stupid, but we don't know that a family should be happy. Maybe one day we are in trouble, and I believe they will also lend a helping hand, right? Why should I pay immediately?

I'm sure they will understand me one day, won't they?

Pity my suffering and tiredness in recent years is beyond the ability of ordinary people. If I had money, I wouldn't say anything.

It's not easy for me to earn this hard money. Do you know how many things I have to do in this shop? Mix cold dishes, serve hot dishes, clean tables, pull dishes, sweep the floor, mop the floor and then wash dishes. If I earn a lot of money, won't I find a regular waiter?

So there are some things that we should not only look at the present, but also think about the future. Wouldn't it be nice for the two brothers to get along well? Besides, isn't this what the old man wants to see in his life?

Maybe it's because I've experienced too much and really know what's more important, so I don't care about trivial matters, but I still have to discuss it with the two families. For the sake of children's future life, adults should also set an example for their children. They will get along well, won't they?

Just be happy and be yourself Don't think about things that don't change, just do your own thing, become filial and help, I'm thirty, I feel young, and I still have a lot of time to struggle! Thinking of this, I think it's worth paying. At the age of 30, being able to do great things for your family is also your own success, isn't it?

I have the most right to answer this! Because I am from the countryside, I married two brothers' dicks. I can't stop talking about it. I've had enough of bullying for more than ten years, and I'm as angry as Sister Xianglin, telling everyone I see. Knowing that it is useless will only become the talk and joke of the villagers after dinner, but I still can't help but want to say it. Looking back now, I can think that there was a mental problem at that time!

Because of the general conditions at home, I went to Zhengzhou to work after graduating from high school. As I get older, my parents have been urging me to get married. I went home and met several people, but I was not very satisfied. At this time, some people said that her husband was quite satisfied with the meeting. That is, the other party is divorced. At that time, I thought that I had stayed in a big city for several years and I wouldn't care about it like my family. At that time, the matchmaker said that he was a barrister and his mother was fierce. It was his mother who made him divorce. I think I'll call my mother as soon as I open my mouth and let her eat first. It should be no problem. Now think about not listening to the old man, and you will suffer.

The first year of marriage, Chinese New Year. Came to our house and asked for money to buy clothes, and we gave it. After a while, the old people asked us if we had given them any money. I said yes, and the old people said that they went to their house early in the morning to ask for money, and their house had no clothes! He also said that we gave it to Lao Fu and deliberately took advantage of her! But you can't have it if you have already given it! A few days later, the curtains hanging in front of the old man and my house broke. Everyone and the children went to school, and people played cards at home. The old man helped the old people mend the curtains on the stone table next to him. I quickly said, "Mom, you should take care of us, too." Who knows people say, "She repairs things well, but yours can't. There is a car in front and a road behind. I didn't fix it for everyone, and I won't fix it for you. " I'm so angry! "Ask" there is a car in front, there is a retreat behind. You didn't ask the old man for money, so why did you take my money? She said that the old people gave 500 yuan to make you angry!

Our door has never been locked. Because only the three of us have refrigerators in a hospital, we are afraid that we will not be at home and others will get nothing after cooking. But the old man and his house are locked. The old man's house is locked, and sometimes he can't take out cooking. We don't have the key to our house either, so we can only climb over the wall from others' house when there is no one at home.

Have a baby and let her go. She said go back. Never come again. After giving birth, relatives said to go back and have some chicken soup. My husband may be afraid to tell his mother to reduce it to a chicken leg, so the old man automatically reduced it to a chicken rack for me. In this way, I ate a chicken rack she gave me last month!

Both husband and sister-in-law praised the old man for taking good care of his children. But she didn't bring my children. She said I couldn't "bake" and eat with her. I ate separately from her.

Eat separately and let her watch for a while. She doesn't even look. Resolutely do not talk to her. So the point now is that she used to be bad to her sister-in-law, but now she is especially good to others. Cooking oil cakes and noodles makes people stutter. I deliberately sit in the hospital and eat them so that my husband can eat them, but I can't feed them. Don't make me eat it myself! Anyway, I took care of her myself. The old people gave birth to three more children, and she was also taking care of food and clothing. I was angry, too, but I moved out because I was afraid I would get sick. I won't look at you face to face or face to face. I haven't left you for more than ten years, and I'm doing well now.

So the two brothers, plus their parents, are not sure, don't marry the middle person. Otherwise, it is not good to vent internal injuries.

Xiaojing got married to a family named Zhong in the neighboring village.

This Zhong Jiayu has two sons. After graduating from a university in Beijing, the boss was admitted to graduate school. After finishing graduate school, he stayed in the university to engage in scientific research. He is very busy, with an annual salary of about 200,000. After being introduced to Xiao Jing, a fellow countryman, they hit it off very well. Although the age difference is a little big, but the difference is seven years old, the 32-year-old boss looks very tender and not old at all, which is quite suitable for Xiao Jing. With the help of two elders, he got married soon.

The second child also graduated from college. Because of campus love, he got married as soon as he graduated and has given birth to two children. In recent years, my parents have put down their fields at home and have been taking care of their children in Fuzhou's second child's home. The second daughter-in-law works in Fuzhou and goes home for dinner every day. The second daughter works in Ningde and can only go home once a week.

Last winter, Xiao Jing also gave birth to a child, but her mother-in-law was unable to go to Fuzhou to take care of her eldest daughter-in-law in Beijing. Xiao Jing had to let her mother in the country go to Beijing to take care of herself. After the full moon, she returned to her hometown in the country with her child in her arms. A few months of maternity leave was also spent at her parents' home, and parents naturally took care of her and her children.

Maternity leave is coming to an end, but Xiao Jing is frowning. I'm worried about taking care of the children. My parents opened a small shop in the country, and they can't live without people. Moreover, it is not a problem that the married daughter is taken care of by her grandmother for a long time, and she is still breastfeeding, which is far from weaning. Everyone will say, let your mother-in-law take care of it. Fuzhou does not need two people to take care of it. The eldest son of the second child is five years old and can go to kindergarten. It's okay for my father-in-law to take care of my three-year-old granddaughter!

But it's not that simple, the second daughter-in-law doesn't agree! She said it was inconvenient for her father-in-law to stay in Fuzhou because her husband was not around! She suggested that her parents-in-law take their 3-year-old daughter to Beijing, so that they can take care of Xiao Jing's children and their own daughters, and the 5-year-old son can pick up and drop off at work.

Now, Xiao Jing feels that her head is big. In order to look after the children, she suddenly needs to add three people, find a big house and increase the food expenses for three people. What a lot of pressure! Xiaojing said gloomily, if you bring it yourself, your mother-in-law won't have to go out. But I can't bear to part with my job, although it's only five or six thousand yuan a month.

Marrying a family with two sons, there are really many problems. Every family has its own problems, that's right.

I think everyone is telling other people's stories, so I'll tell one of my own.

I just married a woman with two brothers!

1. What's the life experience of having two brothers?

My husband's family is from Hunan and I'm from Sichuan. First of all, my husband is the eldest son of the family. Our career has gone from Guangdong to Jiangxi. Now I can say that I have settled in Jiangxi. At present, I still rent a house and bought a real estate in Jiangxi. Husband means that my baby will go to Jiangxi to study in the future, although I hate Jiangxi very much. The winter here is too cold, which is the biggest reason why I don't like it.

The mother-in-law's second son bought a house in Changsha, Hunan and settled down. My mother-in-law lives in the house we bought in Hunan county most of the time. In a few days, she will clean and take care of the elderly in her hometown. I will come to Nanchang for a while. Anyway, there is no fixed residence, and many houses are unoccupied and have not been cleaned.

That is to say, the husband and wife are in different cities, and we don't live together, so there is not much contradiction, and no clear problems have been found. If you live together, there must be contradictions.

Mother-in-law's two sons can be said to be very dependent on her mother, because her mother-in-law is a full-time housewife who cooks and does housework all her life. Everyone in the family likes to eat her cooking, so her mother-in-law is welcome wherever she goes. But my mother-in-law is in poor health. It hurts here or there. In her later years, she had many problems and was very painful. But in order to cook for her son, every mother is willing, so there is no complaint.

The problem is that the two sons are in different places. Both sons have their own homes and children, and both need their mothers to help them cook, but there is only one old woman. How to divide it? Now an old maid can cook, which is a hot commodity. If she can't walk or do anything in a few years, she will become an old woman who can't take care of herself, but needs someone to take care of her. Who will take over? Do you want to leave the old woman alone in her hometown?

As a wife, I'm worried. I think my mother-in-law has worked hard all her life and I welcome her as long as she wants to come. But the old people need someone to take care of them, and our husband and wife are both very busy at work. My own parents have to help me with my children, which is quite stressful. I wonder what my husband will think in the future.

My request to my parents is, don't think about making money, leave it to us young people, as long as we don't get sick or have an accident, and don't give us trouble is the greatest support. But my family has an 80-year-old grandmother, and now my mother has limited time. She has to take care of her mother-in-law, which means I have to take care of the children.

My grandmother is also difficult to get along with. She is old and confused, which can be said to be unreasonable. She often makes trouble, but I can bear it, because I'm not her daughter-in-law, but my mother is very annoying.

Suddenly I feel that being old is particularly boring, and my own pain also makes young people suffer. It's particularly troublesome anyway.

If I am still disobedient and sick when I am old, I will eat euthanasia directly.

A little negative. Don't say that.

I also married a family with two sons. My married husband gave us 20 thousand bride price, and my mother gave it back to us. My husband's parents gave us 200,000 yuan, and we paid the down payment. My mother gave 50 thousand, and we added some money to decorate. His brother has no girlfriend yet. He goes back to blind date every year. When they got married, it was agreed that no matter which in-laws bought a house, they would pay 200 thousand. But I know that it is impossible for his brother to get married for only 200 thousand. I wonder how much people want as a bride price, not counting drinks. I got married in a small restaurant, regardless of anything. I said I couldn't find a hotel. I don't know if it's a lie or if I really can't find a hotel. Now I've figured it out, even if his brother's marriage costs his parents 300 thousand 400 thousand, I won't care. I also have two sons, and my parents are heartbroken and weak children! Care about these ruined brotherhood and set a bad example for children! It is said that your parents will accompany you for the first half of your life, your partner will accompany you for the second half, and only brothers and sisters can accompany you for a lifetime.

Eldest brother chose to buy a house in the county. My husband and I built a three-story house in the country under the oppression of the elderly at home. Now all the young people come back to live with me (my parents-in-law, my eldest brother's family of four, my husband's uncle, grandmother and ourselves). During the Spring Festival, everyone is here, and the room is enough to sleep, but there are also many problems. Anyway, I think my father-in-law loves face-saving, and I'm too lazy to say that we came back for the New Year, so the contradiction didn't arise.

My second treasure was born last year, and the original balance was completely broken. My mother-in-law has been helping my sister-in-law take care of the children. Now I'm fourteen and nine years old, and I've been with my mother-in-law for several months. When I was confined, my mother-in-law had to send my niece to school in the morning and come back from school in the afternoon, sometimes she didn't come back at all. My mother-in-law usually puts a bone or a pot of chicken in the pot in the morning and leaves. Sometimes there is no salt. Several times, when I was hungry, I peeled peanuts and cooked them myself, not to mention the children. My husband and I are in charge of inspection and preparation. Except for those two days when I couldn't move, I took care of the children day and night.

I remember the first day and the second day after cesarean section, the doctor told my mother-in-law not to eat anything except soup before farting. She always advised me to eat meat with soup and dregs. My husband said that I didn't eat enough now, so I'll tell her when I can eat. But somehow she always makes me eat it. I'm hungry, and I really want to eat. Just trying to seduce me. Then on the third day, she was told that she could eat. Instead, I took the soup that I couldn't see even a piece of meat residue every day until I sent my niece to school, and at noon the next day. In the afternoon, I was hungry and bloated, and I felt really full of soup. I scolded my husband for helping me buy steamed buns, and bought a corn jiaozi, two barbecued buns, a steamed bread and a white rice porridge, all of which were put into my stomach, filling my stomach that I hadn't eaten since the day before I gave birth.

Just like now, my mother-in-law is mainly a child with a big brother, and my child has to take care of herself. My father-in-law also asked me for money to buy a car, saying that the two brothers each bought him an electric car at 15000 and asked her mother-in-law to pick up the children. I returned it on the spot. I have no money. One of my children takes one at home and one at home. This is a shameless reason. Eldest brother sometimes wins or loses thousands of mahjong games a day, and the children help him. Why do you want me to come out and buy a ride for the children? I am now a stay-at-home mom with no income.

I never cared about anything before. Others say that it is not good for two brothers to get married, but I don't believe it. Now I know it's really kind!

Let's talk about a family around me, two brothers, who got married in the same year, but the mother-in-law obviously treated the two daughters-in-law differently. The eldest daughter-in-law, unable to speak, is a straight man. Soon after getting married, she completely offended her mother-in-law. As a result, the children of the eldest son's family have never been taken care of by their mother-in-law, and even the children of the younger son's family have been quietly stuffed with food.

The eldest daughter-in-law also cried and rowed, and in exchange for her mother-in-law's scolding, the man did not understand. Later, she stopped making trouble and just ignored her mother-in-law and did what she wanted to do. Now that her mother-in-law is old, it's her turn to wait on her. The eldest daughter-in-law refused to answer, and now the two families are quarrelling.

If there are two brothers in the family, if you can meet a reasonable and impartial old man, you will definitely be very happy. But if you meet an eccentric mother-in-law, the two brothers will turn against each other. Either way, life is going to pass, so it is better to choose a happy way.