Why do people always find it difficult to talk to me?

Hello! I am a psychologist. There are obstacles in communication between people for various reasons. Sometimes people get angry because it is meaningless to explain a problem to us. I think everyone has met it, but in fact no one is wrong. Just everyone's thoughts, personalities, ideas, standards, levels, experiences, positions and so on. Is different, the shortcomings of human nature are the same.

First, the idea is different.

Thinking is the way of thinking. There are more than 160 modes of human thinking, and the more you understand, the better. There are six kinds of common thinking: intuitive thinking, reverse thinking, associative thinking, lateral thinking, jump thinking and subjective thinking.

situation

Intuitive thinking guest A, lateral thinking clerk B, jump thinking clerk C ..

Guest A: Hello! Excuse me, how can I get to your shop?

C: Downstairs in RT Mart!

Guest A: Where is RT Mart?

C: I have no idea. Ask anyone on the side of the road!

Guest A: Uh ~ ~

Shop assistant B: (holding the phone) Hello, where are you now or what can you see?

Guest A: Oh! I'm on Lujun Road, and there's a drugstore on the right.

Shop assistant B: Yes, there is a drugstore over there. Now you turn around and face the drugstore, then go straight to the right lane150m, and then turn left100m. Our shop is on your right.

Guest A: OK, I see!

This kind of situation is very common in reality, not that the clerk C is wrong, but that it is more acceptable for intuitive guests to think laterally. If it is too complicated for the guests with jumping thinking mode, a person who is proficient in various thinking modes will match and solve the problem in various ways.

Second, different personalities.

As the saying goes, some people are stubborn. When you encounter a wrong problem, you still feel that you are right, others are wrong or the problem itself is wrong, and you insist on self-concept from beginning to end, which is a manifestation of not breaking the shortcomings of human nature. Of course, there are many reasons, including self-confidence, good face and obsessive-compulsive disorder. For example, to untie the rope tied to the bucket, he knew how to use it, but forced him not to use it and insisted on pulling the rope away. If it doesn't open, he gets angry and breaks the bucket. Such people are most afraid of trouble, and they don't beat around the bush when communicating with others. The offender doesn't know yet.

situation

Where do you eat?

B: Xiaoyang Road Shaxian snack bar.

A: I'm already at Shaxian snack bar on Xiaoyang Road. Why didn't I see you?

B: Are you sure it's in Shaxian snack bar on Xiaoyang Road? Why didn't I see you? Are you going the wrong way?

A: Impossible!

Two people are blushing. In fact, this is caused by their mindset. Both of them think they are right, but the other is wrong. They didn't know there were two Shaxian snack bars on Xiaoyang Road until they died, so it's not what I said right, it may be the third possibility besides the two.

Third, the standards are different.

How to get to your shop?

B: It's on the left of Wanjia Convenience Store.

Time is long ~ ~

B: Why haven't you arrived yet?

You lied to me? It's obviously on the right, which makes me go backwards.

In fact, no one is wrong, but their standards are different.

A means Wanjia convenience store is the coordinate, on the left of Wanjia; B stands for facing Wanjia convenience store, on your left.