Facing a husband who is not self-motivated, what can be done to change him?

My husband is a person who is not very motivated, but he still cares about his family, which makes me like it better. If he is not motivated, then you can choose to praise him more and give him a little confidence. At the same time, you can also choose to study with him and help him make progress together, so that you can change him.

My husband is an employee of a state-owned enterprise. Before that, he didn't want to make progress. After coming home every day, he just wants to do housework and then play games and so on. At first I thought he was very considerate. But after a long time, I think a big boy should not be so enterprising and only care about his family. He has a broader future. He should work hard in his prime. I had a serious talk with him. I hope he doesn't just play games every time he comes home, but should read more books. For example, he wants to jump out of this state-owned enterprise system and can take an examination of civil servants and so on. After all, although his work in this unit is relatively stable, there is not much room for growth and his salary is not too high.

But I don't think preaching alone can change a person, so I intend to cooperate with him. So I bought a book to test civil servants and studied with him. The two of us will also play together. Whoever does the problem quickly and well, whenever he performs well, I will praise him for his cleverness and think that he must have the potential to be admitted to his favorite position.

It really worked. My husband doesn't play games much when he comes home now. He just helps me with the housework every day, and then we start studying together. In this process, we found that the relationship between the two of us became closer, and there were no disputes over some trivial matters. At the same time, my husband also found many advantages of me, and I also found many advantages of my husband, which is conducive to promoting the feelings between husband and wife.