The baby falls asleep on his own in 97 days —— A summary of our experience in gentle sleep guidance

On the occasion of 100 days, the baby sent the best gift to his parents, which surprised, gratified and moved the novice parents-the 97-day-old baby fell asleep by himself. I want to record our exercises while I still remember them.

I am a soft-hearted mother, and I hate to see my baby cry, so I haven't even tried the methods of crying immunity and Faber. I always think that the baby is not a machine and can't do exactly what you want, so give him company and patience. But I don't want to wait until the flowers bloom. What if they don't? The baby is two or three years old and still a sleeping scum. What if he refuses to go to an adult's bed every day?

So I took a gentle sleep guidance and cultivated my baby's work and rest habits step by step. Share my practice:

I have been paying attention to this since my baby was two months old. Although he didn't have any concept at that time, I firmly believe that habit is a terrible force. Once you have formed a good habit, you will naturally fall asleep.

Sleeping environment during the day: sleep in the crib, draw the shading curtain (not 100% shading, but very dark), do not control the temperature and humidity, have environmental noise, always turn on white noise, and wear a sleeping bag of 0.6/1.5 tog according to the temperature.

Ceremony before going to bed during the day: Say goodbye to toys, take the baby into the bedroom, put a sleeping bag on him, tell him softly that we are going to sleep, turn on the white noise and put him in the crib to sleep.

Night sleeping environment: Sleeping in a crib with shading curtains, the temperature is 24-26, the humidity is about 50%, and there is no environmental noise. Put out small stars in the first two hours, and wear a sleeping bag of 0.6/ 1.0/ 1.5 tog according to the temperature.

Rituals before going to bed at night: bathing, feeding and burping, wearing sleeping bags, drawing curtains, reading picture books, putting stars, turning off the lights, putting the bed, taking pictures or just taking pictures (you won't have this step when you are asleep).

When the baby was more than a month old, his flatulence was very serious. His father and I slept almost 24x7. At that time, I was also worried about whether I would get into the habit of hugging and sleeping and dig a hole for the future, but for his comfort and sleeping for a while, we kept hugging. When the baby was seven or eight weeks old, it didn't seem to be flatulence, so I began to ponder to appease the demotion, that is, to hold the sleep and not shoot. The difficulty is really difficult, there is no shortcut. Put it on the bed if you can, put it boldly, put it desperately, coax it when you wake up, and go back and forth. We sleep on adults, sleep on baby recliner/big bed when we are asleep (adults are always watching), sleep on small bed when we are asleep, sleep on small bed when we are confused, and sleep on small bed when we are awake. The degree of appeasement gradually decreased. At first, he walked around the room with his arms in his arms, shook it gently in place, then patted it on his body, put it on the bed, and then put it on the bed without a shot. Gradually, today's voice appeasement was removed. After being put on the bed, he left the battlefield, watched him twist and whine twice from the monitor, and then fell asleep peacefully. The whole journey took less than five minutes, without crying or making trouble.

If the sleeping environment and bedtime rituals are the basis of autonomous sleep, then regular work and rest is the trump card. We adults all have our own biological clocks, and we can stay energetic when we go to bed at eight o'clock and get up at eight o'clock every day, let alone be a baby. A week ago, I began to adjust my baby's work and rest, mainly fixing the point of drinking milk, and then following the four-hour easy cycle, that is, eating and sleeping cycle. On the fifth day of regular work and rest, the baby was sleepy when he arrived. As soon as we put him in the crib, we ushered in Xi's independent sleep. Today is the eighth day of regular work and rest, which happens to be the baby's hundredth day. At about 8: 45 in the morning, he couldn't help feeling suddenly sleepy. He put on his sleeping bag, closed the curtains, put him on the cot, and soon fell asleep.

Our timetable is as follows:

Breastfeeding: four times a day, once every four hours, no night milk, pure breast milk, mixed parental feeding and bottle feeding, bottle feeding twice in the morning and evening, and parental feeding twice during the day.

Parenting adds up to about 30 minutes at a time, and bottle feeding is about 220-250ml.

Drinking time: 7: 20 am/165438+0: 00 am/3: 00 pm/6: 40 pm.

Sleep time: basically sleep at 7: 00 pm, get up at 7: 00 am, sleep at 9: 00 am 1.5-2.5 hours, sleep at 1: 00 pm for 2-2.5 hours, and sleep at 5-6 pm for 20-40 minutes.

Activity time: After each relaxing cycle, you can do 1.5 hours of activities, including washing your ass and changing diapers, hugging, vertical burping 10 minute, and the time when you don't hug your body is about 1 hour. Try to let him play on his stomach. If he is unhappy, he will turn over and lie down or help him practice turning over and then turn over and lie down later. For this one-month-old baby, the best way to excrete is to play on your stomach, which is also helpful for burping and farting, and is more conducive to eliminating interference and having a good sleep.

I was inspired by a chat with a friend once. If I don't exercise enough, I may not sleep well and it is difficult to catch up with my sleep. So I began to practice lying down, looking up, turning over and doing passive exhaust exercises when the baby was awake. It really worked! Now he can easily fall asleep-falling asleep within 2 minutes during the day, falling asleep within 5 minutes at night, and it is not difficult to pick up the sleep-usually screaming a few times, not interfering, and going back to sleep within 3 minutes. If you really can't sleep, go into the room to pee three or five times, and then go back to sleep.

Letting go is the key to falling asleep. I always believe that the ability to sleep also needs to be learned. When human cubs are born, they really don't have many skills, but if you study and practice with him, he won't let you down. Maybe the baby's sleep ability will get better and better with the growth of the day, but if he has super sleep ability when he is young, he can sleep well and adults can relax. Why not?

Gentle sleep guidance will not have a bad influence on the baby, because we are always with you in this process. Once he can sleep by himself, he doesn't like hugging or patting. Even if you are in the room when he sleeps, it is a kind of interference for him. So from the day the baby started to sleep by himself, we began to let the baby practice by himself. Last night, the baby woke up two or three times at night, and the old father who worked at night didn't intervene, just lying in bed and listening quietly. As a result, in less than three minutes at a time, the baby fell asleep by himself. Therefore, autonomous sleep brings not only the improvement of sleep ability, but also the improvement of acceptance, that is, the overall improvement. What we can do is to let go and interfere less, so that they can improve themselves on the way to a good sleep and become a stable sleeping baby.

Our baby has never eaten pacifiers since he was a child. He couldn't love three or four, so we gave up.

His favorite is probably a piece of broken plastic paper. Once I opened a warm baby and found that the sound of rubbing wrapping paper had a miraculous effect on comforting him. I stopped crying for a second. So we put the torn plastic paper in the house and take it out to calm the crying when necessary. Of course, this piece of broken plastic paper also sleeps by itself after being unlocked.

Sometimes in the middle of the night, I can hear him eating his hand. There are still many disadvantages in eating hands, so we are going to introduce jellycat's soothing bunny instead of eating hands.

When flatulence occurs in February, the baby can only fall asleep comfortably on his stomach, so he has developed the habit of sleeping on his stomach. Later, after the experiment, we found that everyone sleeps on his back for a short time, and he wakes up in one cycle at most (30-45 minutes), but he can sleep for two cycles or more when he is asleep, so he is allowed to take a nap under the condition of ensuring safety. The security situation here refers to: wearing a sleeping bag, sleeping in a crib, not covering the quilt, there is nothing exposed on the bed, the mattress is Newton's asphyxiation-proof mattress, and adults are accompanied in the same room during the whole process of sleeping at night. The baby's head can rotate freely from left to right, and the direction of the head can be adjusted when sleeping.

We have also struggled with the relationship between SIDS and sleepiness, but the correlation is not equal to causality. After consulting professionals to confirm that our situation is safe, we will continue to sleep for him. Anyway, you can sleep as much as you want after turning over, and you can't spend the night. Once people fall asleep, we will start to turn it back for them. So on the premise of ensuring safety, let him go. After all, for the baby, it is really insecure to lie flat with big fonts. Sleeping on your stomach is the most secure and can relieve flatulence.

Two days before we started to work and rest regularly, the baby suddenly stopped drinking night milk himself. The specific performance is that the baby cries in the middle of the night, and the teammates pick up the baby to appease and warm the milk. Before the milk was hot, I found the baby asleep again. So I put it back to sleep. I woke up the next night and the third night, being coaxed and not feeding, and found that the baby could still sleep back. So I broke the night milk. During the days when the baby was weaned at night, he ate more during the day. It should be that he was adjusting the amount of milk. Later, four meals a day, the total milk volume is about stable at 1000 ml. So four or five or six meals doesn't matter. You don't have to struggle if you have enough milk.

Besides, you don't have to worry about the broken night milk. After the baby's sleeping ability is improved, he will let you know that you can sleep without night milk, because sleeping at that point is more comfortable than drinking milk. Then follow the baby and don't feed it any more.

Having said that, I would like to add that the so-called scientific parenting is really worrying. I am also a person who has stepped on many pits on the road of scientific parenting. So I want to say from the bottom of my heart, respect the baby's needs, whether it is the need to drink milk or sleep, the need to play or the need to hug. Give him enough love and patience, and he will give you more surprises and happiness. Don't be dogmatic, don't be anxious because of the ten or twenty minutes difference between work and rest, or the short-term chest tightness. Every family is different, and the method that suits your family is the best. Finally, I wish everyone's babies a happy and healthy growth!