What kind of torture experience is it to have a thrifty and stingy horsehair husband?

We say that thrift is a person's excellent moral character, frugality and simplicity, which is worth promoting; Being stingy is a character problem, which shows that this person is too selfish and extremely stingy.

Many times, a person is frugal or stingy. For himself, he may not realize that if he thinks he is frugal, he will live. But in the eyes of others, he is not a question of frugality, but how stingy he is. So the difference of ideas leads to emotional problems.

In the emotional world of men and women, or in marriage, whether men and women are frugal or too stingy sometimes directly affects the relationship between men and women. Some people are deeply troubled by this problem.

What kind of torture experience is it to have a thrifty and stingy "Ma Baonan" husband? Perhaps, only experienced people understand!

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Yu Ting, 29, is troubled by this problem and doesn't know how to face and solve it.

Yu Ting said that after three years of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife has reached the brink of collapse. Her husband is mother-in-law. He listens to his parents for everything, and always discusses big and small issues with them, completely ignoring her existence. This made Yu Ting very sad and desperate.

To Yu Ting's despair, her husband yelled at her because a little thing went wrong. Many times, she feels that her husband no longer loves her. So the more I think about it, the sadder I feel, and the more hopeless I feel.

Think about the past few years of marriage, but also grievances and dissatisfaction. Married for three years, the eldest daughter is two years old, and now she is pregnant with a second child, which has been several months. When I first got married, I was almost naked, no wedding photos, no marriage certificate, no wedding. It was she who married a poor man despite everyone's opposition. She thought she could live a good life through her own efforts, but the reality is that he is getting lazy, stingy and stingy.

After several years of marriage, he never gave her money. Sometimes, he was forced to give it. And he is even more haggle over every ounce, and a penny can be spent twice.

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Now that I think about it, my ex-husband, who she thought was a very good person, found him stingy after marriage. I thought he was a man who couldn't live, but I didn't expect him to be a man who didn't know how to live.

Now, Yu Ting is pregnant and wants to take care of the children by herself. Although I don't go to work, I do laundry and mop the floor at home, buy food and cook, and take care of their family. The whole family is very frugal, saving to the point of meanness. After buying some food to improve her life, her mother-in-law became fierce and said that she was no longer alive, so she was compared with others. Comparing with others means that people will live. She is a loser.

The husband is an only child, and his monthly salary is paid to his in-laws, who are responsible for management. Yu Ting is basically responsible for the living expenses at home. Although she has two sisters, she is at school and doesn't do housework when she comes back from school. In this family, it seems that Yu Ting is the only one who is busy. Moreover, in-laws and husbands never give money to people who buy this and that.

Children need something. As soon as he asks for it, give him one or two hundred dollars. If it's not enough, so be it. When he runs out, he needs it again. I'll get bored if I have to go a few more times. I have to check with her and ask her how she spent the money. She was cold to despair, too.

Yu Ting wants a divorce, but she can't leave now. What should I do?

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In marriage, both husband and wife have the obligation to support each other, and they need financial support and help in life.

It is understandable if the husband and wife are saved because of poor living conditions. If you are stingy because of your habits and ideas, you are unwilling to spend money on your partner, or you don't spend some necessary money on your partner, that is stingy.

Being stingy means not loving enough. Without love and affection, such a marriage would not be too harmonious.

Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish whether morality is too good, and then make a choice. If you really can't accept it, you can't live any longer, your life is unhappy, and you don't agree with the three views, then you have to let go!