What does the unruly daughter-in-law not like her mother-in-law?

If you meet a daughter-in-law who is very unruly, then your mother-in-law must know that some things should not be too obvious in front of her, which is not conducive to family harmony. What does the mother-in-law do in front of her that the unruly daughter-in-law doesn't like? Let's see Bian Xiao!

First, when the daughter-in-law is away, she talks loudly with her son with a smile. The daughter-in-law came over and was silent.

At first, I wanted to be a wife. When I was a daughter-in-law, I naively thought that I would be a good daughter-in-law and treat my mother-in-law like my own. Sending packages, clothes and blessings in the New Year is better than my own mother, because I really want to be a good wife. As a result, one day, what my mother-in-law did gave me a great blow and destroyed my heart as my mother-in-law's daughter.

On a holiday, we went back to my in-laws' house, and they built their own two-story house. The first floor is the living room, kitchen and mahjong room, and the second floor is the bedroom. After taking a bath at night, I went directly to the bedroom on the second floor to rest, and my husband chatted with his in-laws in the living room downstairs. The room is very large, so the sound from the first floor can be directly transmitted to the second floor, and the conversation on the first floor can be clearly heard when the door is closed. I sat in bed reading and listening to my mother-in-law and her husband chatting downstairs. I forgot what we talked about.

But I clearly remember that half an hour later, I was thirsty and went downstairs to get a drink. As a result, my mother-in-law stopped talking immediately when she saw me go downstairs. My husband asked me, what's wrong? I said I was looking for water to drink. After drinking water, I went to the toilet again. During this time, my mother-in-law kept silent, but as soon as I went upstairs, I heard her extremely happy voice again. At that moment, I had an illusion that I was not a family but a complete outsider. From then on, whenever I encounter such a scene again, I will feel disgusted in my heart. Fortunately, because of work, we seldom go back to my in-laws' house, and I can stand it.

Second, say something in front of your wife.

I wonder if other people's mother-in-law has this habit. My mother-in-law can't stand this. Those strange words always make people angry. For example, during the long vacation, we will go back to our parents-in-law's house. Chatting, I learned that my husband's grandfather was picked up by my aunt and said that I would stay for a week. At that time, my parents-in-law and my husband were in the living room, and then my mother-in-law said to her husband, "Your grandfather has a daughter, and she will take over during the holiday." I'm sad that none of my daughters will take over. "I was so angry that I said half jokingly," What, you can't live with your son? "See her mother-in-law say so, she didn't speak. But I really don't like my mother-in-law's strange words. As soon as our house was decorated, I immediately gave my in-laws two keys, which means they can come whenever they want, but my mother-in-law actually said so, telling me how this little heart can bear it.

Third, interfere too much with the way daughters-in-law educate their children.

Another colleague's mother-in-law is a pungent and capable old man, who takes care of everything at home. Colleagues are very filial and basically endure their dissatisfaction. They are good wives in our eyes.

Recently, my colleague finally couldn't help complaining, saying that her mother-in-law was always dissatisfied with her way of educating her children and often pointed at her. She really can't understand. Mother-in-law may think that my colleague has enrolled too many extracurricular classes for her children, and she is afraid that her children will be tired, so she often finds fault and accuses her. My colleague said, I don't want to either, but now the social competition is so fierce that she has to do it.

In fact, I think at this time, for the sake of children's education, there is no need for conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because educating children is, after all, the responsibility and power of parents. You can give your opinion calmly, but if your daughter-in-law doesn't accept it, you are happy to be at leisure. How nice!

Fourth, despise the filial piety of the daughter-in-law.

One of my colleagues, the daughter-in-law is very filial. In order to please her mother-in-law, she often buys clothes, hats, shoes, cosmetics and other gifts for her mother-in-law at various festivals. However, what puzzles the daughter-in-law is that every time she gives a gift to her mother-in-law, she is not satisfied, either because of this or because of that. Said to take her to buy, her mother-in-law didn't want to go. Later, the daughter-in-law decided not to buy a gift for her mother-in-law. On holidays, she will give money directly, and her mother-in-law will buy whatever she likes, saving her from shopping. Instead of being moved, she got a lot of complaints and nagging.

However, unexpectedly, this result has caused another kind of worry. Every time a daughter-in-law puts on new clothes for her daughter, her mother-in-law will say, "Why does your mother always buy you new clothes? Why not buy it for me? " I wonder if my mother-in-law is joking or telling it to my daughter-in-law. However, I always say this anyway, leaving a bad impression on my children. I thought my mother was not filial to my grandmother. Alas, I can't help this mother-in-law

Fifth, in front of the daughter-in-law, I chanted about taking my children back to my hometown, but said nothing in front of my son.

My mother-in-law is not the only one. Everyone around me is like this. For example, one weekend, my mother-in-law came to see my baby after a break. At noon, when my baby and I were playing on the bed in the room, my mother-in-law came in and said to the baby, "Go, go back with grandma, and she will take you back." I thought I went to work at five in the morning and got off work at nine in the evening. Busier than me, deliberately saying this to my face. It didn't mean to make me angry. I didn't say anything, because I knew it didn't make any sense for my mother-in-law to say or not, and it didn't make any sense for me to refute it, which made everyone unhappy. But I wonder if she will say it in front of her husband. I waited and waited, until now, my mother-in-law never mentioned it in front of her husband. Just one day when chatting with a good friend, she mentioned that her mother-in-law had been chanting in front of her recently that she would take her baby back to her hometown to raise it. I asked her mother-in-law if she ever said this in front of her husband, and her answer was never. Finally we met and laughed. It turns out that the mother-in-law is the same. Does my mother-in-law think that our family is in charge, so she did this? But I am disgusted with this practice.