What is the psychology of a woman who doesn't want to go back to her husband's family or her mother's family?

I don't want to go back to my mother-in-law's house, because what her mother-in-law did makes people sad. Sometimes I can't bear it in my heart and want to be alone. I don't want to go back to my mother's house, because I'm afraid my mother will feel sorry for herself when she sees her unhappy face.

I had a deep understanding of this experience when I first got married. I don't think there is any place in the world where I can hide. Once I quarreled with my lover, I rode my bike out of the door. I fell down because I was in a bad mood. I don't want to go to my mother's place, so I walk aimlessly for fear that she will be sad. Because I was in a bad mood, I even lost my way and walked more than ten miles. Later, I went to my aunt's house.

When I first got married, there were many contradictions at once. Imagined marriage is very different from reality. If the husband doesn't defend himself, he really feels that he has no courage to live. If he doesn't say that marriage has a "seven-year itch", sometimes the day will come. When he has children and responsibilities, people will gradually mature a lot.

I just don't want to go back to my husband's house, and I don't want to go back to my mother's house ... in fact, it wasn't like this before. Before marriage, including when I first got married, I was very happy to go back to my husband's house or my parents' house. This change occurs from pregnancy to delivery.

I used to stay with my mother-in-law to see what they were busy with. As long as I go back, I will help and chat with them. I have always felt that I have a good relationship with my mother and mother-in-law.

But during pregnancy, especially one month before labor, the doctor told you that you can stay at home alone because there is too much amniotic fluid and pregnancy-induced hypertension. It is best to have one person at home to prevent the expected date of delivery from being advanced.

Here I want to say that during pregnancy, my mother-in-law didn't make a phone call, including knowing that we were moving, going to the hospital to queue up for a checkup and so on. She doesn't care at all. At that time, my mother called from time to time to ask. At this time, her attitude towards her mother-in-law changed a little and she was a little disappointed.

Later, she went to the hospital to have a baby, and her mother-in-law was finally called by her husband, but she never knew why. She can't coax the children, and even staying with her at night doesn't work ... During confinement, she only cares about sleeping by herself, and she doesn't care at all. You can imagine the relationship. No one can get along with her.

So later, she took care of the baby and was tired to death. She never cared. Who wants to go back in this situation?

Besides, my mother, a typical son preference, thinks that her daughter is married and should not take care of it, and her daughter can't compete with her son, so she is allowed to take care of the children without consultation, and she doesn't want to pay. It's silly to let her take care of the children, and the mothers-in-law are so happy.

Then people ask if they want to help their daughter with the children, and they will say very firmly, "How can I help her? I have a son. If the mother-in-law can't bring it, she will bring it herself ... "

It's really ... it's light to say that you are sad. You really don't want to talk to her about related topics, because you will only abuse yourself again and again.

So slowly, I would rather get together with my friends or stay at home than go back to my parents' home or my in-laws' home. I tormented myself on the road and went back to torment myself. Better not go back.

I am also a person who doesn't want to go to her husband's house, and I never thought about going back to my mother's house. I used to think so naively, but the truth is that I slapped myself. You treat them as relatives and people treat you as guests, so I'm relieved now, because I'm far away from my husband's family and haven't been there for several years. My husband said he would go back for the Spring Festival this year, and I don't want to go back. He didn't say anything about buying a ticket, and I didn't say anything. Stupid, I gave all my money to my parents, and later bought a house together, thinking that the family didn't care so much and lived happily together. I don't want to be together all day now. The house was hung up by the intermediary and was waiting to be sold. Buy a small one and live separately! This kind of life is really sad! Not all parents are good parents! I learned. I showed my sincerity to my parents, but in exchange, I was told to fuck off.

My cousin divorced and rented a house with her niece. She has a brother and a sister-in-law in her family, and she doesn't want to go back to her family. That is the reality. The married husband's family has a house bought by the man, with a monthly mortgage of 3000 yuan. It's still 10 year, and the man's salary is about 5000 a month. When the man got married, he said, you don't have to worry about paying your mortgage. Actually, he set you up from the beginning. Think about it, the monthly salary is about 5000. Pay back 3000. There are about 2000 left, usually smoking a cigarette or something, daily expenses, nothing left. The rest of the money, rice, oil and salt are paid by the woman. Then when I divorced, I said that I bought the house and I also paid the mortgage. Just one suite, parents want to live, and children want to live. Do you think this woman has something to do with divorce? Let's talk about property. There is no deposit and property to be divided.

Even if the woman pays half the money to buy this house, there will still be children and girls at the time of divorce. The man takes his son and the woman takes her daughter. I can't fight for that property, and I ask the house to be left to my son at most.

I think it's terrible, what it means for a woman to get married. Life is not easy, people will change and their hearts will be cold. It is better to be selfish and leave yourself a way out.

Does this verify a sentence that the in-laws who can't get in can't go back to their parents' home? Poor thing. I am one of them.

I was fine when I first got married, and I feel at home when I go back to my husband's house. I didn't feel sick either. Anyway, I tried my best and my family was poor. I'll try my best to help if I can.

But it's sad to be pregnant. I have always been prepared, and I have to rely on myself during pregnancy, so it really feels good to have no one to take care of me. After all, I am still young. However, during the whole pregnancy, there was no phone call at my husband's house. Even though she was pregnant for seven months, she was with her husband once. After the mother-in-law called to chat with her husband, the husband said that I was next to her and asked her to chat with me. Then my mother-in-law said she had nothing to say to me and hung up the phone. To tell the truth, the loss and heartache of that meeting are still vivid. I think it is appropriate to say something warm or comforting to a pregnant daughter-in-law who is pregnant for seven months, even if it is just a scene. That's why I realized from that moment that my mother-in-law would never be my mother.

Speaking of my own mother, in fact, I have never felt that there is a preference for boys at home. I have always thought that my mother is a thick-skinned person and will not express her love for her daughter. My mother came here a month before the due date. When she arrived, she didn't say she would help with cooking. My husband gets up at six every morning to make breakfast, and my mother doesn't open the door until eight. At that time, we rented a farmer's house with particularly poor sound insulation. My husband will definitely know when he gets up. And I know my mother used to get up after five o'clock all year round. I cried in my arms several times that month. When the baby comes home from the hospital, my mother still goes to bed at eight every night. From eight o'clock in the morning, no matter how the baby cries or makes noise, she won't give me a look. I remember one time, I went to take a shower and felt the baby crying, thinking it was an illusion. As a result, the child came out of the shower and really cried all over the face. My mother didn't even open the door. At that time, I felt really hard. My brother got married before me, and his children have always been brought up by my mother. Only then did I realize how pathetic and pitiful I was.

Later, I gave birth to a second child. Because of my first experience, I found a new moon in advance. When the second child is almost half a year old, catch up with the Chinese New Year. My mother said that she would come to see me. At that time, the boss had just turned three years old and the second was half a year old. I can't drive. It's really difficult to take two children out together. But a few days after my mother came, she began to say that I would buy her clothes. When she came from her hometown, her sister-in-law had said a lot about me helping her buy clothes. This is really the kind of thing she would say when she is free. To tell the truth, every time I go back to my hometown, I give her money. I have to bear everything at home before giving birth, so even if she doesn't say anything, I will definitely take her to buy it. I just want to wait until Mr. Weekend has a rest before taking her. Later, it really meant that I couldn't do it. I took two children with me, pushing a stroller to accompany her to buy clothes. This matter is over.

Then the baby was a little older, and my mother often called me to take two children back to my hometown, because my hometown was an old house in the countryside, and a big hole was dug in the yard in the cesspit, and then a dog and a cat were raised at home, and the second child just learned to walk, and the ground was bumpy. I'm always worried that my children are not safe. I'm never ready to go back. Later, I kept urging, and then my husband sent us back. When I got home, I thought she would pity me and let me have a rest, because I took my second child after the full moon. As a result, after returning home, she went out after breakfast every day and didn't come back to cook lunch. Then I took care of two children by myself and didn't even have time to go to the bathroom. I have to spend time cooking for a large family. Later, I really couldn't help quarreling, which was better.

To tell the truth, I have always been a very independent person. Before I gave birth, I knew that no one would take care of me, and I was ready to take care of myself. So I never complained about how much my children and I ate, but my mother's attitude towards me really made me super sad. Since that incident, my relationship with her has really faded a lot. When the family needs money, our brothers and sisters share it equally. I will never carry it myself again. I will not buy less clothes and food, but I have never been able to kiss them. She will still complain that I don't care much about her, and I will only smile and wear it, without distinguishing or explaining it. It doesn't matter.

There is no woman who doesn't love her family, just because her heart is broken. So it won't be long before I really go back to my mother-in-law's house, knowing that it's not my home.

One is lazy and unwilling to go home to work, and the other is that people are not as good as people and do not want to see their families.

0 1 Laziness makes women reluctant to go back to their in-laws and parents' homes.

I know a woman who can't do housework, doesn't want to study, can't cook and has poor eyesight. As the saying goes, she has no job in her eyes.

On holidays, it was not popular to go to restaurants at that time, and there were many adults at home. She is most afraid of going back to the old people on both sides. It is a matter of course to go back to her husband's house. How can you not go back to your husband's house during the Spring Festival? But she refused to go back to her husband's house under various excuses, because her mother-in-law needed her daughter-in-law's help, but she couldn't, so she didn't want to help. Therefore, the mother-in-law complained, and her husband disliked it, leading to divorce.

When I go back to my mother's house, although I am visiting relatives, as the saying goes: married women pour water. When you go home, you become relatives, so you have to bring gifts. If you have a young aunt, you should be more diligent, but she has no job in her eyes. All she can say is she won't do it. For a long time, her sister-in-law and her sister-in-law both had opinions about her, and unlovable people were not welcome anywhere.

Unhappy women don't want to go back to their in-laws and parents' homes.

I'm unlucky and I can't be flexible. When I go back to my mother-in-law's house, if my sister-in-law gets along well and keeps up with the competition, I won't get along well, and I don't want to hear that my parents are short-lived. If I am unhappy, I will resist the idea of going back to my mother-in-law's house. Some women don't get along well with their mother-in-law.

Besides, there are brothers and sisters in the bride's family. Although a mother is closer, sisters who can kiss again sometimes have high eyebrows. If they look down on you because you have no money, don't marry well, and can't help your family, they will naturally look down on you, and if you are unhappy, you won't get along well. If they don't go back to their parents, it will be heartbreaking.

Husband and wife have bad feelings, they can't reach an agreement, and they are not in the mood to go back to their husband's house.

The old people on both sides are far away, and their feelings are too weak to return.

Some women get married and start a family outside, without any support from their in-laws and parents. Even they have to take care of their children on their own. They complain about their in-laws and parents and family in their hearts, but they can't get help when they encounter difficulties. When they can't count on it, their hearts are cold and their feelings are cold. Anyway, they can't quench their thirst, and they can't go back to their parents' home on holidays. This kind of woman is generally psychologically hurt.

I am also a person who doesn't want to go back to her mother's family and her husband's family. Not unfilial, but chilling! Mom's family will always be a married daughter, splash water! Honey, no matter how sensible you are, you can't get into that circle. Since I have a car and a house, I still feel that I don't have my own home. At that time, I was building a house, and my father-in-law said that his name was written on the real estate license, and I didn't care. Later, when I bought a house in the county, I had to pay money. I wanted to borrow some money from my husband's family and said no! I said that my father-in-law's name was written on the property certificate, and I refused to borrow it. I'm relieved again. But a few months ago, my sister bought a second suite. She has a work unit, and my husband and I just work. My father-in-law borrowed tens of thousands. We come from the countryside. To me, it's astronomical! I am helpless and have to let go! But I can't live in my heart anymore! Think about it. Both children were delivered by caesarean section. The saddest thing is that my son dug it up in the morning and my mother-in-law said she would go home to do farm work in the afternoon! When my son cried, I dragged the catheter to change his diaper. His father fell asleep and didn't bother to wake him up! But within a few months, my sister-in-law also gave birth to a child, and my mother-in-law was free to go to the hospital to take care of her every day. Indeed, it was winter and there was not so much farm work to do, so I can understand! What I can't let go is that when my sister-in-law was discharged from the hospital, one of them had already left. 1 1 came back after midnight, and I thought I would cook at home, because I took two children, one just ran and the other was only six months old. Either I take it or I take it. But my mother-in-law didn't come back for a while, and said that she wanted her son-in-law to take her to his house for dinner. It was a custom, and I didn't quite understand it! At that time, the older children chased out, and I only heard my mother-in-law say, drive faster and catch up. I cried at that time and brought the child back. I wanted to talk to my mother-in-law at night, but I didn't expect her to do it first. I stepped back and shouted, I won't argue with you. Later, the father pushed me and hit me on the forehead! Crying all the time, calling my parents to answer it. Really sad! At that time, my parents didn't hear what they said. They just said what they chose and hung up. Although it has been nine years, I really can't forget that scene. Very helpless! I got on the bus the next morning and didn't know where to go. Finally, I took the children back to my husband's house. I'm at work now, with two children, and I'm going to start school soon, ready to board. Without personal experience, how can you feel the same? Don't say who is right or wrong, son, give birth to yourself and raise yourself!

There are still many people who don't want to go back to their parents' home. Think about how selfish people are now. I used to like going back to my parents' house because I felt that my family needed me very much. After a busy year outside, I took a few days off for the New Year. Back to my parents' house, I have been helping my mother-in-law cook, wash dishes and take care of relatives and friends. Because it's my second marriage, they always compare me with the lazy but sweet-mouthed daughter-in-law in front. I am diligent and honest. I'm really upset to hear that. I haven't been back to my husband's house for years. I feel bored. I feel more and more bullied by my husband's family, including me and my mother's family. I feel that the more money I have these days, the colder my heart is. I used to earn less money, but life is very sweet. I think it's time to enjoy the hard life, but it's more bitter and sad than before. So the pain of not wanting to go home is somewhat unspeakable.

That's what I am. When I first got married, I was very happy to think that I had four parents who loved me later, but I gradually found out that this was not the case. When I went back to my parents' house, I thought I was married. When I am not needed, I am "someone else's", and when I am used, I am my own daughter. This is my parents' convention, and the decent meals I eat there all the year round are only available on the second day of New Year's Day. Usually it used to be leftovers, or what I made for my brother, including since I was pregnant for seven months. My parents never called to say that they cooked food specially for you, and they cooked at home alone. Let's talk about in-laws My in-laws are very kind to her husband, who is an only child, and her mother-in-law is used to being arbitrary. After marriage, we didn't live together. I once quarreled with my husband. As an elder, she rushed to lock our child's room and jumped up and said I bullied her. It means that she is in charge of this family, she is in charge, and her son is in charge. The minor difficulties during the period are not worth mentioning, but after this incident broke out, it can no longer be tolerated. I decisively changed the lock, and only my husband and I have the key. Since then, my husband's house has rarely been there. What about the married daughter? I only have my husband, who is my home for life. Now seven months pregnant, take care of yourself. I don't blame them for not taking care of me. People are mutual, but without the home I once hoped for, every time I see other people's parents treat their children, I silently swallow the bitter water.

It depends on the personal family situation, as the saying goes: the water spilled by the married daughter! I think this sentence is correct. 17 was pregnant for one month, and she went back to her parents' house in a rage because she was in conflict with her husband. My brother and sister-in-law were not at home, only my mother and my niece were at home, because the pregnancy reaction was strong, my appetite was not very good, and I was in a bad mood. My mother likes playing more. She goes to the mahjong place to eat with her every day, and she has to endure losing money at cards and losing her temper with my little niece, so she has to make do with her meals every day.

Then my father came back from work and stayed for a few days. Every day he asks me what I like to eat and buys me big bags in town. He doesn't want it. Later, I thought that my father was good to me when I was sad. He is usually taciturn and always worried that his daughter is in a bad mood and can't eat well …

My husband came back to pick me up. At that time, I was glad that my husband and family were all kind to me (I was pregnant and took care of myself, and my mother-in-law worked in other places). I hurried back with my husband. I just lived for a month. When I left, I gave my mother 1000 yuan, which was her living expenses for one month. I wanted to give more, but I'll think about it later.

After returning to China, I am not angry or contradictory. I cook by myself every day. My husband asked me how I changed so much.