Stop posting negative comments in your circle of friends

A few days ago, I encountered something that didn’t go my way. I rarely complain, so I complained about it in the circle of friends. Later, a friend saw it and tweeted to me. "Sister, you are a kind and generous person, how can you be so angry and tarnish your image?" I also defended myself and said: "I am a human being, not a god. This has touched my bottom line. I only do this to protect my self-esteem." I was angry." Afterwards, I felt that what my friend said made sense, and when I calmed down, I deleted the comment. Think about how to solve problems face to face. Posting on WeChat Moments will not solve the problem, it can only increase your grievances.

It occurred to me that people in the circle of friends often post negative comments. Friend A is also a working girl. She has been my WeChat friend for more than a year, and she always sees those posts. How are men doing? What holiday is today? Let’s see who can be the first to send out a red envelope. What does 1.88 mean, what does 108.88 mean, what does 520 mean, what does 1314 mean, and what does 999 mean. Almost every festival will be flooded with her so-called expressions. I couldn't help but feel bored. It feels like she is a high-level beggar, and she still places her hopes on others.

Friend B’s circle of friends is always full of complaints and resentment. When things go wrong at work, he starts complaining about his boss's incompetence, messy management, and unreasonable attitude. When I encounter a slight setback, I start to complain about the injustice of God and lament that life is not easy. He uttered dirty words and wanted to swing a broom and sweep away everyone in front of him. Especially at night, B's negative energy reaches the extreme, making people feel a little nervous.

One day I finally couldn't help but ask B, "Is your life really that tiring?" B looked at me, smiled awkwardly and said, "It's okay." "Then why are you looking at your friends circle?" , I think your life is so tiring. ""Whenever I feel unhappy, I can't help but complain on WeChat." In fact, there are many people like B. Their real life is ordinary, although they occasionally have sad moments. But generally it's pretty passable. But they don't know whether it's because they have too many pretentious cells or because they are born with resentment. They are always lingering in negative emotions and never come out of it for a long time. Unrestrainedly vent your negative emotions.

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There is nothing wrong with occasionally posting negative things in your circle of friends. Occasionally venting your emotions and having a few friends care about you can relieve the stress in your heart, but often venting negative emotions in your circle of friends will not only fail to solve the problem, but will make your mood worse. Emotions are like viruses, they are contagious. Like second-hand smoke, it damages the liver and lungs. Cause secondary damage.

There is a friend C who has a good marriage, but she always says in the circle of friends that her husband is irresponsible, has no responsibility, and cannot make money. Get away as far as her husband goes. One day, I asked her: "You said this is not good for your husband, and that is not good. Have you ever thought of separating from your husband?" She said: "If you don't have this idea, it means that his salary is low and he is incompetent. Others That’s right, don’t go out to play cards or make friends to have fun.” I said, “Just be content, cherish the people around you, learn to praise, don’t learn to complain, I believe you will have different gains in life.” My friend listened. As a result of my words, she never sent negative messages again, and her life became warmer. One day, she even invited me to dinner as a thank you for exorcising her inner demons.

The circle of friends is a mirror of you. If you smile at her, she will smile at you; if you cry at her, she will cry at you. Because there are hundreds of pairs of eyes looking at you in the circle, you often post negative links and comments in the circle of friends, leaving both familiar and unfamiliar friends to dislike you. It makes people think that you are not a person who is not positive and does not love life.

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If you post negative things in your circle of friends for a long time and people think you are a person full of negative energy, you will miss a lot of opportunities. Last year, my work unit organized a trip to Xiamen and provided eight or nine people with quotas. My name was included, and my boss asked me and another manager to determine the candidates for those quotas. Then we thought of B

But I just finished telling my boss. She immediately rejected A.

"Look at what she posts in her circle of friends every day. She acts like everyone in the world owes her all day long. She has no ambition at all. She doesn't agree with him to go. His bad mood will bring an unpleasant atmosphere to the journey. ." Friend B missed this opportunity. He was still in the dark and didn't know that it was her negative energy that had harmed him.

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Life is not easy, and the reality is floating around. But when you encounter something that doesn’t go your way, calm down, face it, and solve it. Don’t be like Mrs. Xianglin who just says to everyone, don’t Be a resentful woman, complain in the circle of friends, influence other people's emotions, put down your mobile phone, and get closer to the beauty of life.

Friends, let’s talk more with positive energy and less negative energy, and your life will be more colorful.