"blind date with a room, but I became a despised girl", the better the conditions, the harder it is to find? Why?

In the blind date market, the better the conditions, the more popular the single young people are? For boys, this is the case in most cases, but for girls, "good conditions" sometimes not only can't help her find the other half smoothly, but also become an obstacle to love. A mother who searched for a blind date for her daughter many times said angrily, "Is it wrong to be a girl?" ! Nowadays, boys and their parents are so inferior and fragile! "In fact, is that really the case?

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"When dating, I have to be careful to reveal the richness of material conditions every time, because blx is a man now!" When it comes to blind date, Pan Xiao is so depressed that he wants to throw up.

Pan Xiao is the only child in a second-tier city. She is 27 years old and works in a media company. There are three suites in her family, and she is financially independent. It is said that this condition is a high-quality woman in the blind date market, but her blind date has been defeated repeatedly.

"Boys with poor conditions are prone to stress. They will think you have good material conditions. How can you be willing to fight with me? Those boys with better conditions than me are more inclined to look at the woman's face value and figure. Young and beautiful vases are their first choice for blind date. Now everyone is very busy, and blind date is also about efficiency. Your map value was not dominant for the first time, and it was immediately deleted from the contact list. "

Therefore, Pan Xiao can understand those parents who marry in Hangzhou. Some time ago, the old couple in Hangzhou helped their daughter find an object in the park and showed more than one house 10, which frightened many applicants. Parents bluntly have real estate at home, and the annual rent adds up to several million. Their daughter graduated from China on 1985 and got a master's degree in the United States. She is beautiful and cheerful. She works as a designer in an American company with an annual salary of 200,000. Everything is fine now, except a son-in-law carrying a bag. After the news of the marriage proposal spread, netizens talked about it in succession: "Since money is not bad, why should the other party have excellent conditions?" "How can you look at ordinary boys with such good material conditions?"

"You have good conditions, and men with general conditions will say that there is pressure; People with better conditions will disdain to choose to marry low and marry high; It is difficult to meet the same conditions, but also to question and even despise:' You have such good conditions and have all kinds of requirements and materials for the man!' "

In the face of the cold and cheerless blind date market, Pan Xiao also felt helpless.

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"Good conditions do not mean finding an object!"

Aunt Li has been planning a blind date for her daughter for a year and feels the same way. Aunt Li's daughter works as a researcher in a pharmaceutical company with a good income. Her family also bought real estate as a dowry early:

"One set is my daughter's name, and two sets are our names. The only child is naturally hers. My daughter has a good personality, looks and income. She is only 26 years old. Neighbors say that she has good conditions and is easy to find, but it is not easy! Some boys flinch at the sight of this condition, and some boys hear that your child is in good condition. The first time is: it must be difficult to' serve', and it must be the kind of person who is pampered and not suitable for taking photos with his family. "

Aunt Li said that the words of the blind date introducer are sometimes particularly harsh. Someone said, "Since the woman has good conditions, why do you ask the man to have money?" Some people also said: "The better the conditions, the harder it is to find, because people are afraid of you!" This makes Aunt Li particularly uncomfortable:

"In terms of material requirements, I mentioned that' there is an independent wedding room, a car to travel, and the annual salary is equivalent to my daughter'. Isn't that too much? Yes, with the conditions of our family, in fact, we don't care how much money the man has, as long as we are good to my girl. However, if a man has nothing, his mentality will easily change in the future marriage-we hope he can have full confidence and have his own space! "

"Young people always say that we are too materialistic and don't pay attention to feelings. We really don't understand the painstaking efforts of our old people! Marriage is not just about being in love with me, but living a real life. Right is king. "

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"In fact, it is not that their conditions are too good, but that they have a higher vision."

As an older single man who has been in the blind date market for many years, 32-year-old and unmarried, Dayang analyzes male psychology. He also met many girls with excellent conditions in the process of blind date, but in the end they all failed for various reasons:

"When a girl is rich in life and free in spirit, there are more requirements for the matching of soul and thought. They often think that I don't need your support, but I must understand me. But in the matter of falling in love,' knowing someone' is very rare, and the economic foundation determines the family status. If you don't have considerable material conditions to match, your future marriage life will have great problems. "

Therefore, Dayang understands that high-quality girls in the blind date market spit on men:

"The material difference cannot be too big, and it can last for a long time; Spiritual will not compromise for material conditions, so in comparison, the chances of high-quality girls being single are naturally greater. "

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"In the process of pursuing love, sincerity is more important than conditions."

Although many single men admit this, they admit that "there must be pressure" when the woman's conditions are excellent.

In fact, everyone is not perfect, and love itself is that two less perfect people meet and see a lot of light in each other, and then they get together to make each other better.

As the saying goes, "people in Sri Lanka are like rainbows, you won't know until you see them." Therefore, we don't need to make all kinds of rules and regulations, and then queue up to match-the rainbow is still in the future, so why not open an umbrella first.