As a daughter-in-law, what should I do if I see my mother-in-law doting on her children too much?

As the saying goes, "Grandchildren are grandma's favorite", although this statement is a bit exaggerated, it can be seen that the love of elders for the next generation has reached the point where it cannot be copied.

It is understandable that your mother-in-law dotes on children, which fully shows that she likes children, but this behavior must be absolutely stopped, and the bad situation cannot be allowed to continue, which will affect the healthy growth of children. In this regard, I would like to make the following suggestions for your reference:

First, you should actively communicate with your mother-in-law. Talk to your husband in advance, and then talk to your mother-in-law after reaching an agreement. At the same time, in the process of communicating with my mother-in-law, I must first express my gratitude for her selfless dedication to her children and affirm her contribution.

Then the conversation changed, saying that although everyone loves children very much, they can't stay with him all their lives, and the children will definitely face the society independently in the future. So, when the child grows up, you and your wife decide to come over and discuss with her how to manage it and ask her for advice. Don't directly point out your dissatisfaction with your mother-in-law's doting on children, which will hurt your partner's heart.

In the process of discussion, you can naturally put forward your own views on children's discipline, and then the two sides reach a good way to manage and educate children. In addition, we should also show that we will urge each other in the future, and everyone should not violate this management model, otherwise it will only do harm to the growth of children, not good.

Secondly, after getting rid of her mother-in-law, she has to communicate with her children. We should tell our children to establish correct values and be a positive and energetic person. And especially remind children not to spoil in order to achieve some selfish goals in the process of getting along with grandma, which will lead to grandma's doting on him and is not conducive to his growth. (I want to say here that it is not all her responsibility for a mother-in-law to spoil her children, but also related to her blind demands and coquetry. Of course, normal coquetry is understandable)

My nephew is the most vivid example. Every time he wants something, as long as his parents don't buy it for him, he will go to grandma and shout "grandma" He also said that he should be filial to his grandmother and buy her a house and beautiful clothes when she grows up. Where can the old man resist the child's "offensive"? He will take him to buy toys and snacks soon.

Finally, I would like to say that we should not forget to give birth to our parents in the process of raising children. They not only worked hard for us, but also gave everything for our children. In life, we should spend as much time with them as possible, and let our children spend more time with their grandparents, communicate more when things go wrong, and make our families and talents flourish.