My brother and sister-in-law knelt down and begged me to donate their kidneys to my nephew. What should I do?

This is a dilemma. If you don't agree to donate a kidney to your nephew, your brother and sister-in-law will hate you to death. If you agree to donate, who will guarantee your future? It's best not to donate. You would rather your brother and sister-in-law hate you for the rest of your life than hate each other for the rest of your life.

There are patients with kidney disease in our family. Let me tell you my opinion: Kidney transplantation is not a one-time solution. If you donate a kidney to your nephew, no matter how high the match is, the lifespan of this kidney will only be 10- In 20 years, after some kidney disease patients around me received transplants, they would be fine if they could survive for seven or eight years. When this kidney dies, we need to look for another kidney source. In other words, losing a kidney is a lifelong thing for you, but it is only a temporary thing for your nephew to get this kidney.

As the saying goes, don’t get sick if you have anything, and don’t get kidney disease if you get any disease. This disease is a chronic disease that neither survives nor dies. It requires abundant funds and strict care to maintain life.

If it was just an ordinary family, your brother and sister-in-law might never be able to change their lives, so how could they have extra money and energy to compensate you? The damage done to you is lifelong. If you have a family of your own, life is equal to everyone, so be more careful!

Let’s talk about the kidney source again. Until a suitable kidney source is found, hemodialysis can be used to maintain life. The kidney source can be a cadaver kidney or a living kidney donated by others. The wait may take a long time. Some, but generally you can wait, it’s just a question of whether you’re willing to spend the money. So, taking a kidney from you might be the fastest, but it's not necessarily necessary.

Furthermore, your brother and sister-in-law are eager to save their son, so it is not easy to find a suitable kidney source. What's more, you are a biological uncle, and you will not care if they cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to give you a kidney. Being able to achieve multiple things with one stone is a huge temptation for their family, which is getting worse and worse. Not to mention kneeling down, even if it takes their lives, they think it's worth it. This is human nature and cannot be blamed on them. But after they calm down, you can tell them your thoughts calmly. As long as they don't lose their minds, they will usually understand.

If possible, please give them the greatest financial support and spiritual comfort, and help them obtain kidney sources through other channels. After all, if the things outside of you are gone, they will come back again. They are no better than asking for a kidney from you, and both sides will suffer in the end.

Finally, I wish the child to find a kidney source as soon as possible and recover as soon as possible.