Talk about the video of children being cows and horses.

Aunt Li was married for less than ten years, and her husband died young, leaving her and her daughter alone. Aunt Li, who was treated as a son by her parents since childhood, has always been strong. Although God added too much pain to her life, she never bowed her head. I thought that no matter what, I couldn't let the children suffer. At the same time, I am glad that I only have one daughter. If I add another child, I won't say how much the quality of life will decline. Will I be like my parents, with a flat bowl of water and limited economic conditions at home? In the face of children's choice to go to school, I first cut off my daughter's back road. Sooner or later, it's an outsider. Doing more work at home and making more money is the last word. Now I only have one daughter, everything belongs to her, and all the love belongs to her daughter, of course.

Aunt Li's ability is not built. She gets up at 3: 30 every morning on time, prepares all kinds of food for the breakfast stall, and arrives at the stall at 5: 00 on time, regardless of the severe winter or the hot summer. Usually breakfast is busy from 8: 30 to 9: 00, and she closes the stall on time. I rushed to my next job, a noodle restaurant. She mainly made pasta, rolled noodles, baked cakes and so on. Of course, if there are other busy people in the store, she will definitely reach out. The proprietress likes Aunt Li very much and gives her more money as a bonus every month.

Aunt Li has a high income. The money earned from the breakfast stand and the money earned by the pastry chef will come to 10 thousand yuan a month. With Aunt Li's all-out efforts, her daughter is fat and doesn't have to do anything. As long as she studies and asks for money, as long as the amount is not too excessive, she will give everything, eat as much as she can, and wear as much as she can. As long as her daughter likes it, she can afford it without saying anything. Even though I suffered a lot, I refused to let my daughter know.

For a long time, my daughter has been used to the days when clothes come to reach out and food comes to her mouth. Although she knows that her father is gone, the living conditions at home are not bad. Although my mother goes out early and comes back late, she says that these are all things she is willing to do, and of course she can enjoy them. Fortunately, my daughter was finally admitted to Normal University, which fulfilled Aunt Li's dream. Aunt Li's dream is still in the further future. After the daughter has a salary, she can have a good rest.

When I grow up, I will pay for my grandchildren.

Not long after my daughter went to college, she told her mother that she was seeing someone. Aunt Li was surprised. She didn't expect her daughter to be so old, nor did she expect her daughter to have a boyfriend. I can't help it It is natural that men should get married and women should get married. Aunt Li told her daughter that you should get along well. After four years in college, Aunt Li is counting on her daughter to get a scholarship or something to subsidize her. As a result, my daughter didn't get it once, and asked her for five or six thousand yuan a month as the expense of college life.

Aunt Li will suffer. In recent years, her fingers have been very painful. She hardly had time to walk out of the breakfast stall, but she never told her daughter about her pain because she was afraid of her daughter's worry. I can only count on the money for working in a restaurant, which is more than 6 thousand. I have little left except my daughter's expenses. Fortunately, I can have a meal in a restaurant.

The university finally came out. It costs money to find a job after graduation, and it costs money to marry the other half. But her husband's family didn't want to go out, and her daughter looked for her mother again and again. She thinks that her mother is a person with a vault and a treasure chest, and her money is inexhaustible. Aunt Li Can won't sell the house in the city and all the land in the country. The only thing left now is a small house in the country, which, in the villagers' words, is a barn at best.

I think my daughter has bought a new house and I can live there together. Of course, the daughter did not mention it, let alone the son-in-law. Aunt Li has a little understanding. She is still on her own. There is no way to make it stand earlier. The hotel work continued, and she lived in the dormitory assigned by the boss. So she can save180 thousand a year, thinking that it will be fine, at least there will be a guarantee in the future. However, at this time, my daughter came to call my mother. My daughter gave birth to a child, which was originally taken care of by her mother-in-law. But her daughter is too lazy. Going home and doing nothing, my mother-in-law ran away in a rage and never planned to come back.

In the eyes of her daughter, her mother will always be the one who serves her all the year round. Ask for money, get someone to come, wait for my daughter to come to me, wave. Mom can manage it, but she can't give money. Aunt Li sends her children to kindergarten during the day, and then goes to the restaurant to make pasta and wash dishes. The deformation of her fingers became more serious.

He was old in 2003 and was sent back to his hometown.

Aunt Li persisted until her granddaughter went to junior high school. Finally, I don't have to drive to and from school, but my hands and feet are not so neat. The hotel owner is almost seventy years old, so go home and enjoy his old age. Aunt Li really can't walk. She got sick when she was fine. The money didn't come in, but it flowed out. Seeing the pain in her eyes, the daughter said to her mother, "Mom, go back to our hometown house so that you can go to the local area for reimbursement when you are sick."

"Which have a house in the city? I sold it long ago. "

"What, how did you sell the house my dad worked so hard to buy without saying hello to me? Where is the money? Where to save? "

"Where is the money? Isn't it all about finding a job and buying a house for you? "

"How is it possible? Didn't you make a lot of money at work and breakfast stalls? Have you saved your own small vault? "

Aunt Li has never understood that she has suffered so much over the years. She lost everything for her daughter, but in order to make her live a comfortable life, she swallowed all the hardships herself and never mentioned them to her daughter. Now in her daughter's mouth, she has become selfish and embezzled property.

Of course, no matter how Aunt Li explained it, it didn't help. In the daughter's opinion, it is her mother who embezzles the house payment. Originally, I just wanted to go back to my hometown and have the new rural cooperative medical system, which can save her a lot of money. This strengthened my belief and sent it back to my old house. In this way, Aunt Li returned to the old house with trepidation.

Aunt Li is poor and her daughter has no conscience. But in this unbalanced mother-daughter world, what did Aunt Li do wrong? Let the daughter become a selfish, caring and considerate person.

It is certain that the daughter has no conscience, but what did the mother do wrong?

From the moment the child opened his eyes, he began to think that the world belongs to me, because it exists and exists for me. In the first two years, parents can be their servants willingly. But we must not make them angry. At the age of two or three, parents should change from the role of servants to authority. You can't do everything, you should learn to delegate a little power to your child, let him do it, adapt to the society, and learn to care for your parents, including others.

However, from the birth of the child to the adulthood of the child, Aunt Li has been conscientiously playing the role of a slave. After her husband's death, Aunt Li came and went at night and stopped without taking a few steps, while her daughter was pampered at home and kept her fingers off the water. Originally, Aunt Li's breakfast stall and the restaurant where she worked were close to home, but she never let her daughter see it or helped sell breakfast. In her words: "Even if I have eaten all the hardships in the world, I don't want my daughter to experience any difficulties." Aunt Li is a fat face, or she over-paints the beauty of life. As a result, she trained a person who didn't know what care was.

Montaigne, a French essayist, once said a very good sentence: "Children are like our stomachs, and we don't need to overfeed them." I think what he means is that food and love are the same, so don't overdo it.

Children need their parents' love, but at the same time parents also need their children's love. Don't think that you are doing her good, give her everything, give him all your love, and don't flaunt that I don't need anything in return. This will hurt the child instead. Remember that one-way love is coquetry, not unconditional love.

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