Why do children have conflicts together?

When children play games together, some conflicts are inevitable. At this time, many parents adopted a "more traditional" education method: quickly pull their children over and scold them. If your child is older, you must make way for the younger child, regardless of the cause and effect of the contradiction, which sometimes makes the reasonable child feel wronged.

Narrator: "Why should I apologize even if I am not wrong?"

After the home network class, Xiaomei, a fourth-grade student, goes downstairs to play with her friends every day. After a period of time and a few things, Xiaomei is not so willing to go downstairs to play.

Xiaomei said: "There are seven or eight small partners who often play together in the community. Most of them are children in the second and third grades. I am one of the sisters. Some of these friends are easy-going and some are competitive. When things don't agree, they shout and lose their temper. Once, a sophomore girl lost a game and suddenly became very angry. She thought I was older than her and wouldn't let her go, crying and making noise. It happened that my mother was downstairs, too. As soon as I saw it, I immediately comforted the child, apologized to her, and let me play the game with some partners again. I didn't want to do this at all in my heart, but my mother still pressed me with the words' you are a big child, you have to let your brother and sister'. I feel particularly wronged in my heart. I have encountered this kind of thing several times, and I have to apologize if there is nothing wrong with it. I don't know if I will go downstairs to play with my friends in the future. "

Suggestion: Let children talk about their inner feelings and judgments.

12355 Teacher Dong Yulin, the chief psychologist of Tianjin Youth Psychological Counseling Hotline, said that when children have conflicts, parents should not use self-righteous standards to ask their children how to solve problems, which will make them lose their judgment on things and even ignore their inner feelings. In the long run, children will be confused when judging whether something is right or wrong, and will be at a loss when dealing with conflicts with neighbors, partners and classmates, and will not express their ideas correctly. This will greatly reduce the child's future viability.