What are the basic criteria for a good boyfriend?

Most of the private messages I have received recently are asking me about relationship issues between men and women. Little A said that her boyfriend is an IT man and is very busy at work every day. He does not have good morning or good night every day, and he rarely actively contacts her during the lunch break. Sometimes he is too busy to pick her up after get off work. Anyway, just like his work attributes, he is very dull. This is where Little A complained to me about her boyfriend: not caring enough, not romantic enough, and not having time to spend with her. Little B said that her boyfriend was very kind to her, would go shopping with her, pick her up from get off work on time, and always keep in touch with her. But that boy was very unmotivated, didn't have many plans for the future, and didn't have any expectations for life development. He just stayed at his ordinary job every day and didn't have the habit of saving any money he earned. Carpe diem with Little B. Little B gradually began to feel that her boyfriend was unmotivated and had no plans. Little C's problem is much simpler. Her boyfriend's family situation is good, and the job arranged for him by his family is also very good. His boyfriend is also very good to her, and he is willing to spend money for her and spend time with her. But the boyfriend has too many female friends, and due to family reasons, the boyfriend always goes out to eat and drink with his brothers, and romance continues. Little C felt that her boyfriend was very careless about family, unsteady, and unsettled. This inevitably made me think: What does a good boyfriend look like? This is the answer they want to get from me and what I want to understand myself

/// 1 /// If you love me, you must know what I look like. I am the most beautiful. I have always been firm. Love is the first and most basic condition in a relationship. A good boyfriend must love his girlfriend and know how to appreciate her and know how good she is. Like ordinary idol dramas, the things that can touch us are probably because the male protagonist is infatuated with the girl. The boss is very good, the more senior one is like a domineering president. The reason why girls love idol dramas is also very simple. They either think the actors are good-looking, or they like or envy the plot. More often than not, they put themselves into the role and pretend that they are enjoying the favor of the male protagonist. Well, there is love in it. . Girls occasionally compare who has a better boyfriend. Most of the time, the first criterion is whether the boy treats them well and whether he loves them. And most of the people around me who are envious of other boyfriends say the same thing: So-and-so’s boyfriend is so good to her and loves her so much. It can be seen that in the hearts of girls, the most important condition for a good boyfriend is to love his girlfriend, love, pamper, and even dote on her. A more advanced requirement is that my boyfriend should know how to appreciate my strengths, know how good I am, and know that I am good to him. Of course, these are all derived from love. Most of the time, we have love because of appreciation and understanding of your goodness. /// 2 /// May you be someone else's refrigerator and my air conditioner. A good boyfriend understands responsibility, is responsible, and deserves your trust. His sense of responsibility and trust coexist.

Responsible boys are really cool. A boyfriend has a sense of responsibility. First of all, he will be responsible for you, for the relationship, and even for your family. You will think that he is very reliable and responsible. . He will not avoid problems, but will proactively find ways to solve them. Whether it is a problem in life or a problem in your relationship, a responsible boyfriend will always give you an explanation. As for trust, what I emphasize here is being able to make your girlfriend trust you, in other words, being loyal in the relationship. An excellent boyfriend will make his girlfriend trust him, because before the trust is developed, he must do some things to ensure that his girlfriend is at ease. He can make his girlfriend trust him and believe in the relationship. Take my favorite He Yichen as an example. He is very loyal to his relationship. After marriage, when someone asks him to have dinner or something, he always shirks it by saying, "My wife will be angry, and my wife is very strict." Even Zhao Mosheng doesn't do that. It's not like that. This later became a joke on the Internet, a typical example of a good man. /// 3 /// You have a plan for your life, and I am included in that plan. A good boyfriend is motivated and knows how to work hard. A good boyfriend needs to be self-motivated, have plans for the future, and work hard for your future. It's important to work hard.

As Little B mentioned above, her boyfriend is unmotivated. Firstly, such a boy can easily make girls lose confidence in him. Secondly, if he is unmotivated and does not plan for your future, it is easy for your girlfriend to look at him. Not until the future; The most important thing is that we all hope that life will get better and better in the future, but if your boyfriend doesn't work hard and just relies on you to struggle, I think it will be difficult to live a happy life. The male protagonists in idol dramas are usually very motivated, either have a good job, or are very hard-working. The good boys in our minds are the ones who know how to work hard. The boyfriend may also be the future pillar of the family, and their ambition and fighting spirit are more important to them. In real life, after all, we need both love and bread. If the bread is not that big, it doesn't matter. At least you are motivated and willing to work hard, so we can work together. /// 4 /// Be my life-long jokester. An excellent boyfriend must have a good temper, be funny and have a sense of humor. Temperament here refers to temperament and habits. A good boyfriend must have a good temper, know how to be considerate and tolerant of his girlfriend, be able to solve problems without getting anxious or angry, be patient with his girlfriend, and be able to tolerate her girlfriend's little tempers. The so-called humor means that he is an interesting person who can bring you happiness. From another perspective, it means that your boyfriend should be optimistic and lively. I have a female best friend. Every time she has a tantrum, her boyfriend is always able to patiently coax her and make her laugh with words. When he was in a bad mood, he would not take his anger out on his girlfriend. Instead, he would act like a baby and talk to his girlfriend about his troubles, and then work out a solution together. There were several times when we had dinner together, and we were always amused by the boy's humorous words during the meal. It seemed that we had never heard of a big quarrel between them, and every time there was a small conflict, the boyfriend would quickly resolve it with humor. It can be seen that it is really happy to find a boyfriend with a good temper and a sense of humor. /// 5 /// I also want to look up to you. An excellent boyfriend has high EQ and IQ, and is excellent enough to be admired by his girlfriend. If it is a bit too ideal to have a high EQ and IQ, then an excellent boyfriend at least has something that his girlfriend can admire. If a boyfriend can be admired by his girlfriend, then he must have his own advantages, and then the advantages are discovered by the girlfriend, and the girlfriend likes and admires him. This can satisfy the boyfriend's vanity as a boy, and can also make a relationship better. Complete. But I think a good boyfriend should also have both EQ and IQ. I have a good friend whose boyfriend has a very high emotional intelligence. To be precise, he is very good at dealing with others. One time, my friend and a couple were together, and the five of us had dinner together. During the period, the two couples were talking to themselves. I sat there and felt a little embarrassed, but after a while, my good friend came over to talk to me. She also secretly told me that her boyfriend asked her to accompany me so that I would not be embarrassed by myself. It wasn't the first time I met my friend's boyfriend, but since then I have had a very good impression of him, and I have said nice things about him several times in front of my best friends. Smart boyfriends will also add points to their own excellence /// 6 /// You all have the qualities I like. In fact, we all know that there are not so many rules for choosing a boyfriend, because all the rules are not given. Set by the person you love, when you fall in love with him, those rules have already been thrown behind you. But I still believe that the best love is when you make progress together. The most important characteristic of an excellent boyfriend is that his existence makes you the best version of yourself. Finally, I would like to share a point with you. Excellent boyfriends exist, but as human beings, they are always more or less There may be imperfections, and we girls must learn to tolerate them. To put it in a very popular way: If you fall in love with a Tibetan Mastiff, you can’t expect him to lay eggs for you like a chicken. As a boy, you have to experience, fight, work hard, temper yourself, and Improve yourselves and work hard to be an excellent boyfriend. And girls, I hope you can all fall in love with the person you want to love, and the boyfriend you have happens to be the best in your eyes.

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