Are those who betray their marriages really all at fault?

What do you think you are most afraid of in a marriage? I think what I fear most is self-righteousness.

I always feel that the other person should revolve around me, and I am always right. Even if there is a problem between two people, they should all blame it on the other person.

Once, twice, countless times, it will only make the other party’s heart to leave more determined.

Sometimes, people who betray their feelings actually just don’t want to continue the life that they couldn’t see before.

Maybe the other party has never given you what you want, and has no attitude of wanting to go on seriously. Therefore, people who betray their feelings may not want to treat themselves badly.

Of course, no matter how bad the other party is, betrayal is definitely wrong. If you want to pursue the love you want, you must say goodbye to a relationship.

I have seen many people like this, who always say that he is sorry for me and that he betrayed our marriage. Then he started to say all sorts of bad things about the other person, and when it came to himself, he was full of grievances.

But in fact, are these people really perfect wives or husbands? Not necessarily.

Of course, betrayal and deception are the most unforgivable things, but if we keep focusing on the other person’s fault, do not reflect on ourselves, and self-righteously feel that we have nothing wrong, then we will only Such mistakes will be carried over to the next relationship.

Divorce is not terrible. What is terrible is that after divorce, you still don’t know what you did wrong and continue to “be yourself” as always.

I have a good brother who is a bachelor. Why does he think this way? Freedom!

Everyone around me has strict wife control, and I have to go home before ten o'clock if I go out to drink. I never have a few dollars on me, which is so sad.

So he drank happily and vomited next to the toilet alone when he got home.

Hmm, the sad thing seems to be that he is a single dog.

So he met his ex and she was very nice to him. He thought he would make do with it, at least there would be someone to accompany him to vomit next to the toilet.

So, he began his love affair. The two of them can make do with each other.

Looking back, he was indeed not good to her. She put her whole heart into my brother. He felt that no matter how hard he tried to commit suicide, she would always be by his side.

With this idea in mind, he goes out early and comes back late every day. It's not for work, it's for hanging out with friends.

Later, due to her work reasons, they moved away from each other.

It doesn't matter if he's in a different place. He believes that his girlfriend loves him so much that she won't leave him.

When his girlfriend called him, he was either playing games or drinking. But gradually he discovered that she didn't seem to contact him much anymore.

When he wants to find her, she doesn’t seem to need me anymore.

This is how people are, only after losing something do they learn to cherish it. Later, he discovered that he had been cheated on.

Well, that’s it. When he was very angry and questioned his girlfriend (who can now be called his ex-girlfriend), she only said one sentence, "I don't want to treat myself badly anymore."

Yes, why should she treat herself badly?

How lonely it must be for her to work alone in a foreign country. How sad it must be to have such an unknown partner...

If that man doesn't appear, there will be another one. My good brother will not grow up, she must grow up.

Even if you are a friend, if you don’t get the response you deserve for a long time, you will find someone to talk to.

Even if she betrayed this relationship in the end, my brother should be more at fault.

When many couples quarrel, they will say: "Just leave, if you can, don't come back."

I used to do this when I fell in love and broke up. , later, the other party left and really never came back.

One day, when I let go of this inexplicable self-righteousness, I discovered that a person who always feels that others must rely on you is really a feudal tyrant in love.

Until after the divorce, I still felt that I was not wrong.

I think such people are very lucky because they have a partner who loves them and gives them the capital to be blindly confident. After all, there are not many fools in this society who like to treat themselves badly. Every time we meet, it must be a lot of luck.

But I don’t want such people to be lucky forever.

Respect and dignity are two different things. Loving someone requires respect and even more dignity.

Dong Jie said in a talk show: "I'm just cold, not that cold." It's really surprising that Dong Jie fell in love with a man who was completely blind.

We can say that she disrespected her husband because she did betray the marriage.

As for her husband, people familiar with the matter said that he is a gambler, a romantic, and does not care about his family.

In such a marriage, I believe both people are at fault. And Dong Jie no longer loves him, I think she does it for her own dignity.

No one needs to be humble and submissive on the outside and in the inside.

A relationship cannot give me happiness, and I meet another person who is willing to give everything. I think in this relationship, both parties have made mistakes.

No one will rely on you unconditionally. It is also a mistake for you not to give the other person love and care, and not to give the other person the happiness they want.

And those who think that the other party betrays them and they have no problem are themselves a tragedy of being complacent.

Relationships require joint efforts. One person can never support the happiness of two people.

I have a colleague whose ex-wife left the house after the divorce, and he still stalks her. The reason is simple: it was the ex-wife who betrayed the relationship first. He was right, he deserved this. I know what this colleague is like. When you go to work, you make up for it by playing tricks, and when you get off work, you let yourself go. He came home drunk all day long, and I didn't see him getting any better.

After his ex-wife divorced him, she knew that she was in the wrong and gave up all her property. He told me that when he saw his ex-wife again, the man helped her carry her bag, and the two of them held hands sweetly. He was so angry that he rushed forward and beat him again.

I told him that since we were separated, he should let it go. Wouldn't it be better for each of us to start our own lives?

And he really thought that he was right, and he had a happy marriage. It was all because of that man's betrayal of his wife that he ended up like this.

Oh, I forgot to tell you. His ex-wife is married and has children. And he had been on many dates and had romances. However, his chaotic life eventually came to an end.

Love is accumulated day by day, and so is not loving. I believe everyone gets married to pursue happiness. When a person feels that he cannot see happiness, he may leave.

Those self-righteous people are wrong because they think they are right. Divorce is not terrible. What is terrible is that you are divorced and you continue to think so.

Emotions and marriage are a matter of two people. Everyone hopes that their affection will be responded to and their pursuit will have an end. Marriage does not need to be self-righteous, it needs the support of the same love between two people. Remember, no one wants to treat themselves badly, nor does anyone want to face someone who doesn't know they are wrong.