Real life is outside the circle of friends

The real life is outside the circle of friends

The real life is outside the circle of friends. Life has different aspirations for everyone. The real life It is difficult to see clearly in the eyes of many people, so for the real life, the following sharing is the real life outside the circle of friends. Real life is outside the circle of friends 1

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Eating hot pot with Jia Jia, a beautiful girl born in the 90s. The vegetables were being tossed in the pot. I was about to take the chopsticks, and she Take out your phone: Wait!

Start taking pictures, one on the left, one on the right. After taking the pictures, I have to spend more time selecting and retouching them. I finally posted them on Moments and wiped my forehead. With the sweat on her face, she scooped the food into the pot with her chopsticks and said "Wow, it's so delicious", revealing the boldness and cuteness of the little girl.

While I was having a good meal, I discussed with her, "Is it necessary to go through so much trouble to post a WeChat Moment?"

She waved her hand and said, "There is no way! Think about it, Most of my circle of friends are my classmates or colleagues, and there are also some really close friends, but most of them are social relationships. You see, all my old classmates or colleagues have a high quality of life. I bought a bag today and will go to the Maldives tomorrow. It looks beautiful even for work meals. If I post photos of a tomboy, that would be too shameful, right?! The circle of friends is like a small stage. You can appear on stage only by putting on make-up. Who can show off without makeup? Who dares to be laughed at?!"

Jiajia said that although everyone has their own troubles, everyone has their own troubles, their salary has not been increased, and they have not yet gotten married. I bought a house and had a cold war with my boyfriend for several days... But who would post these real-life stories on WeChat Moments for others to see? It looks too pitiful and low?!

Therefore, the selfies posted to Moments must be retouched and retouched, and the photos of daily life must be selected, selected, and taken again and again.

For many people, the circle of friends is a life lived for others to see.

And outside the circle of friends, is the real life.

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Occasionally I look through my own circle of friends.

Later I found that most of them were drinking tea, illustrating, reading, or watching some movies, any American TV series worth recommending, some touching thoughts, or photos of going out. .

If this was the circle of friends of someone I didn’t know, I would probably feel that “she” was living a carefree life like a god. After all, it seemed like she had fulfilled most of my dreams. Ah - I have time, fun, my own little hobbies, and leisurely travels. I feel so free.

But only I know that my circle of friends is probably only 1% of my life.

There are more passionate, passionate, unkempt, and haggard moments outside the circle of friends.

That is real life.

Sometimes, I will be so busy that I can only eat the only meal of the whole day at ten o'clock in the evening;

Sometimes, I will drive fast on the road, anxious, I am afraid of delaying meetings, appointments, and things, just like every office worker;

Even sometimes, I will be bored and daze alone, my mood will be extremely low, and I don’t know what to do for a long time.

At this moment, I don’t have the time or mood to post on Moments.

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However, I know that this is real life. It is these times of ups and downs and even bloodshed that gradually forged me into a real, Strong women who allow me to be me.

When I am very busy, I will suddenly feel very fulfilled, as if I have grown and gained again; when I encounter a problem and rack my brains to solve it, I feel that I am a little more powerful.

Every time I feel depressed, Mr. Clyde will always find ways to accompany me and chat with me, find ways to get me out of those emotional troubles, and inject a little strength into me - every time like this At that time, I had a deeper understanding of marriage and partners.

I rarely post on Moments at moments like this, but this is my real life and nourishes me.

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In the hit American TV series "Westworld", there was a lot of discussion about the virtual world:

This is a virtual world full of simulated robots. The robots are called "receptionists", and they play different roles here, welcoming humans to come here for "adventures" according to the storylines that programmers and creators have already arranged.

Human beings from the real world come here to relieve their boredom, explore, or broaden their horizons. 99% of them know that they come from the real world and this is a pastime. But there are also 1% of people who are addicted to this game and cannot extricate themselves. They not only harm others, but also hurt themselves.

William came here when he was young. He was once repelled and disgusted, but later he became addicted and could not extricate himself. He came here every year to explore, and even became a millionaire and spent huge sums of money to buy this company and become Boss: Everyone thinks he has a happy family and a successful career, but in fact his wife committed suicide and his daughter is a stranger to him. He is like a lonely ghost in the virtual world, continuing to play the role of a "lone hero".

He thought he was real, but in fact everyone knew he was fake.

Speaking of which, this is quite similar to our story in social networks.

Whether it is Westworld or social networks, most of it is virtual. Maybe some of it is real, but it is definitely not all, and it cannot be all of life.

It is understandable for us to reveal a little about our interests, hobbies, and the joys of life here; but it is best to just try it lightly and not get too deep into the drama. Otherwise, how can we make a circle of friends just for the sake of a circle of friends? It's quite sad to watch.

It is our nature to show others the beautiful side of life - we like to show off, even a little bit show off. No one wants to expose the dark side of human nature, and people don’t like people who always complain. This is human nature.

Don’t take your circle of friends too seriously, especially, don’t treat it as a show or stage.

Sending a luxury bag does not mean that your life is truly luxurious; sending out delicious food every day does not mean that you are always leisurely and comfortable; traveling and taking photos everywhere, but you don’t know the stories behind the photos... ...These fragments may just be the mood of a person at the time when they send them, but in the eyes of the person watching them, they outline a perfect virtual life.

Sadly, there are still people who live by referring to other people’s friend circles, or even peek into other people’s lives and become mentally unbalanced. This is really not worth it.

Because what you see may be selected and whitewashed, and it is not the real life.

However, your true emotions and loss of control will really affect your life and even make you less happy. Why bother?

What we need is Friends are real life, not just a circle of friends.

Author: The real life is outside the circle of friends 2

Live the life you really want

1. When you meet the right person People can integrate into each other's lives. No matter whether it is simple or complex, don't hesitate. Between hesitation, he or she may become her or his person. Don't covet material enjoyment, nor do you covet spiritual nobility. There are no perfect people in the world, and there is no perfect life. Just be happy if you are poor or lowly, rich or noble.

2. Happiness is to find a warm person to live your life.

3. I want to hug you so much, and then I don’t let go, thinking that this will be forever.

4. I like the warmth of your embrace in my memory. I like your thoughtful words in my memory. I like the shoulders you gave me to lean on in my memory.

5. Those things I don’t want to admit: 1. I talk less and less and laugh less and less; 2. My parents are getting older and like to make trouble unreasonably, but they are also becoming more and more obedient. 3. The balance point in my heart gradually decreases; 4. I want to get married; 5. It is possible to miss someone to the point of bursting into tears; 6. The older I grow, the darker side of my heart becomes bigger; 7. I am getting older, but I am still naive; 8. I no longer pretend to be strong.

6. What is romance? Sending flowers? Walking in the rain? Are you standing in front of the building? If two people are deeply in love with each other, they will feel romantic if they do nothing and just look at each other quietly. Otherwise, even if two people sit on the moon and date, they will not feel romantic. Romance is the feeling you get when you are with the person you love.

7. When you meet the right person, you can integrate each other's life. No matter it is simple or complex, don't hesitate. Between hesitation, he or she may become her or him. . Don't covet material enjoyment, nor do you covet spiritual nobility. There are no perfect people in the world, and there is no perfect life. Just be happy if you are poor or lowly, rich or noble.

8. While we are all still young, take a few more steps and appreciate the scenery along the way. Don’t rush to reach the destination and miss the warm people and things in the passing years; while we are all still young, Say more romantic words, do more childish things, don't be too embarrassed to miss the most beautiful moments and occasions in life; while we are still young, shorten the distance and extend the time. Do more of whatever we want to do while we're still young.

9. There are some things that we know are wrong, but we still have to persist because we are not willing to give up; there are some people that we know we love, but we have to give up because there is no ending; sometimes, We know there is no way, but we are still moving forward because we are used to it. Life is like a book. If you read it carelessly, you will miss the fairy tale; if you read it too carefully, you will not be able to sort it out. A grievance that can be expressed is not a grievance; a lover that can be snatched away is not a lover.

10. Don’t think that there will be something better later, because what you have now is the best; don’t think that you can get married later when you are still young, love does not vary by age; don’t give up because the distance is too far , love can take the train with you; don't give up because the other person is not rich, as long as they are not incompetent, encouraging each other can make you rich; don't give up because of the opposition of outsiders, happiness is felt in your own heart.

11. Time will gradually settle, and some people will gradually become blurred in your heart. Learn to let go, your happiness needs your own success.

12. I don’t know when I became so sad. I always keep asking myself why I live so tiredly and sometimes I can’t face this. I repeat the same life every day. I often stay alone in the house. I don’t know when I will get used to being alone. Have I changed? Maybe time has changed. I always thought that I was a very strong person. However, he forgot that he was also a child who was afraid of the dark.

13. Whether you appreciate it or not, whether you like it or not, I am still me. As always, I walked with my head down, earphones plugged into my ears, unable to see the passing crowds, and still passed through them quickly. Even if I am praised by others, I am still low-key, shy and arrogant.

14. I want you to know that there is always someone waiting for you in this world. No matter when or where you are, you know that there is always such a person.

15. Sometimes, I feel inexplicably uncomfortable, but I don’t know why. Sometimes, while chatting and laughing with the people around me, I feel extremely lonely and alone. Sometimes, when I look out the window quietly, I feel that I am a person who is easily forgotten. Sometimes, I watch the people around me making noises with cold eyes. Sometimes, I feel that this world is really fake and hypocritical. Sometimes, I really want to disappear from this world.

16. If there is an afterlife, be a tree and stand forever, without a sad posture: half peaceful in the dust, half flying in the air; half scattered in the shade, half bathed in the sun. Very silent and very proud, never relying on and never looking for anything.

17. Mom said that as long as I admit my mistakes, I will hold my hand again; you said that if I admit my mistakes sometimes, we can hold hands again. Relatives will always forgive you because you are their child; lovers will always find it difficult to forgive because we are all children.

18. Life is only once in a while. It’s a hurried trip into this world. It’s always a bit unwilling to have a goal to strive for, and it’s not a problem to be confused all day long. If we have struggled and fought hard but still cannot get what we want, after all we have tried hard and experienced it. In life, there are many dreams that are difficult for us to realize, and there are many goals that we cannot achieve.

In fact, experiencing it is a kind of gain!

19. What you see is just your imagination. What you think is yours is just an accident. The tighter the grip, the more futile it becomes.

20. You think it takes courage to take on the burden of life, but actually it takes more courage to live the life you really want.