what is love ?

I've been thinking, if Prince Charles is just an ordinary person, will Diana of 19 still marry him when she knows that he has another love? In an open tape, Diana once said that the wedding day was the worst day of her life-"My heart is as calm as death, and I feel like a lamb to be slaughtered."

Actually, she doesn't have to be so pathetic. No one sent her to the chopping board, but she thought-if she didn't want to, who would force her to stand in the church and say "I do" to another man? She said it herself. But can you blame her? If it were me, would I also say "I do"? Can I tell whether I said "I do" to a man who is much older than myself and has nothing to do with his ex-lover, or to the enviable future crown? Even when she was young, Diana couldn't tell the difference between the two, but later she actually had many opportunities-when he and Prince Charles existed in name only, she could choose to divorce, but she refused. Even though the whole world knew that their feelings were gone, she stubbornly demanded to keep the title of "Princess Diana". Maybe she is used to being called "Princess Diana", or maybe she thinks she has paid too much for this title, so she can't.

It is said that the British TV station is going to make a film based on the story of Charles, Diana and Camilla, and its name is "What is love"-yes, what is it that dares to love and makes people commit themselves to life and death?

I grew up watching Jane Eyre, and my love enlightenment was the words that a humble female teacher said to a noble male host: "Do you think I have no feelings if I am poor and not beautiful?" Me, too. If God gives me beauty and wealth, I will make it as hard for you to leave me as it is for me to leave you now. God didn't do this, but our spirits are equal ... "

When I grew up, I suddenly thought-if God gave Miss Jane Eyre beauty and wealth, would she still fall in love with that old and bad-tempered Mr. Rochester? Don't blame women's attitude towards love-except for the Seven Fairies, few women will have a crush on Yong Dong who sold herself into slavery. Seven fairies don't eat fireworks. She has immortal blood. For her, fame and fortune in the world are not at her fingertips as long as she wants to. What she wants is a man she likes, as long as she likes it-you carry water and I water the flowers, and husband and wife love each other all night. For the seven fairies, love is a simple thing-she doesn't expect to get anything else from love, because she can get it in other ways, but love itself is irreplaceable.

But can we do it for ordinary women? When you like a man, are you happy with him? I believe many people can't do it-because we expect too much from love, and we expect to get "added value" from love. We tell ourselves that there is no love for no reason. If we love someone, we cannot improve ourselves. Why do you love him? There are even many love guides that tell us generously-it's better to marry well than to do well, why not kill two birds with one stone-marry a good man and get love and wealth? Yeah, why not? The question is where are so many cheap things in the world? Even if you are as beautiful as Princess Diana, you can't do it, let alone us.

It is difficult for a woman to tell from the beginning whether she loves a person or the life that a person can provide. When asked about the relationship with the rich boy, diving princess Guo Jingjing said: I love a man not because of his money, but because of his cultivation. Everyone who heard her laughed: it's not for the money. If that man is poor, do you think he is educated?

I have seen the TV series "Orange is Red" made by Li, and there is a Zhou Xun in it. She was originally a poor girl. In order to improve the family economy and reduce the burden on the family, she volunteered to marry into a rich family and become a third aunt. Because of her lovely appearance, she was deeply loved by her master. But after she met all the material needs, she found that the person she really loved was the master's brother. ...

Women are always like this-they often listen to women's comments on what kind of men are not worthy of love, and often say that those men who are unsuccessful and have no financial ability can't get married, and they lack the grace and mind of the rich; In fact, isn't that what women are like? How many women who haven't tasted the rich life can throw a line like Maggie Cheung: "What's the big deal about being rich? I have it too! "

Young and ignorant, I often wonder why women from rich families cheat-especially in feudal society, once found, it is a capital crime, but why do women risk their lives to do such a thing? Just like He Xiu, before she married her master, her happy wish was to get his love and care, but when she got all this easily, she found herself in pain-even more painful than before she married into a rich family. She was poor at that time, but now she feels not free because she has no love. ...

what is love ? Is there pure love in this world? What makes Romeo and Juliet live and die together? What made the Duke of Windsor abandon the country and the throne? Is it really because they are naive or impulsive? I believe not-love is an irreplaceable feeling, and you can't feel the happiness of love except with the person you love. But the added value of love can be replaced-if you want to get wealth through love, then when you get wealth, you don't feel that you need to be with that wealth provider, especially when you grow up and establish your own wealth kingdom, you don't want to put up with that "man" anymore. Because you have it yourself, he will soon become an unnecessary person in your life, an obstacle, a person who hinders your pursuit of happiness and freedom.

Mao Mu, a French-born British writer, once said, "Emotion has reasons that reason can't understand at all." In his masterpiece The Moon and Sixpence, he described a man named Ashley, a man who can be called a "good husband" from any angle. He is rich and provides a comfortable life for his wife. He was very kind to his wife, and everything was decided by her, and she was always kind to him until one day, she met a poor man who could not take care of himself. People accused the painter of seducing this kind woman, but Mao Mu had another explanation. The original words were like this: "I thought she loved Stroeve before, but it was actually just a natural reaction caused by men's love and ease in life." Most women take this reaction as * * * *. This is a passive feeling, which can be produced by anyone, just like a vine can climb any tree. Because this feeling can make a girl marry any man who needs her, I believe that love will come to this person with the passage of time, so secular opinions determine its power. But in the end, what is this feeling? It's just a sense of satisfaction with a guaranteed life, a sense of pride in owning family assets, a sense of complacency for people who need themselves, and a sense of complacency for building their own family. Women are kind-hearted and vain, so they think this kind of feeling is full of spiritual value. But in the face of impulsive enthusiasm, this feeling is unprepared. "

Do women love a man more or the quality of life he can provide? When a woman has nothing, the added value of those loves will attract her very much, but when she grows up and is strong enough to live her dream life by herself, those so-called added values are worthless in the eyes of women-whatever can be obtained through hard work, independent women can enjoy it after success, so why rely on men? But love is hard to meet, and it is easy to see a desirable person in the vast sea of people. That kind of impulse is just like the seven fairies seeing Yong Dong-they must be eager to come down to earth, because only by coming down to earth can you realize the happiness on earth.

I have a girlfriend who hesitated for a while-she likes both men. Male A is her childhood friend and male B knows her. Male B is a senior employee of a company. With a car and a house, he often takes her to eat western food. Male A works as a copywriter in an unknown company, rents a basement by bike, and occasionally goes out for dinner. They are also McDonald's in Malan Lamian Noodles. She's very upset. She said that she likes the feeling of being with man A. Although she is poor, there are always many words that are very happy and intimate, but she doesn't like the life with man A. Although man A told her that she can save enough down payment for the house within two years, it will take two years, and the house must be outside the Fourth Ring Road. As for male B, she likes the life he offers, but finds him boring. She is always nervous when she is with him, and even practices eating western knives and forks at home. We said, you can wait, don't worry-but she is in a hurry, I know what she is in a hurry, she can't wait, and she wants to cash it right away. In this case, of course, she will choose the man who often takes her to eat western food-because for her, such a man belongs to cash.

Perhaps because the male B is boring and the senior staff is very busy, she still has a lot of time after marriage-she is a very hard-working woman and spends most of her time studying. Anyway, her husband is rich, so it's right to study, right? After that, she jumped ship, got a promotion and got a raise. She bought the house she wanted easily, but she refused to share it with her husband because he had no value in love.

Don't say my girlfriend is not in pain-she won't talk to me if she is not in pain. She wants to find her feelings again, but it is much more difficult than finding snow last year. She often complains-why am I so stupid? Isn't it the house on the Third Ring Road and the Fukang car? Isn't it just a few small western-style meals? I promised to spend a lifetime with him-how long is a lifetime!

We can't deny that there are other things in love besides love-there have been countless examples of women completely changing their fate because they love a man since ancient times. Are those women lucky or unlucky? I think if they are like Eve who has never eaten the forbidden fruit, or like the seven fairies who have never peeped into the world, they may be lucky because they don't know what love is-they think love is the life they get; But don't let them touch anything related to love-it will greatly stimulate them, and they will feel that they are the most pitiful women under the stimulation-just like Mrs. Chatterley, whose husband has status and status, but when she knows what love is in the world, she still leaves her family behind-because she knows that love is irreplaceable and material life cannot be compensated. I don't want you to throw yourself into the arms of your lover after enduring so much humiliation, misfortune and mental torture like Lady Chatterley-you don't need to give yourself so much trouble. Even if everything is fine, how can the man you don't love be better? It's just that he can give you some quality of life that you can't get yet, but if you have confidence in yourself, are those so-called quality of life difficult to achieve? Maybe now you will be moved by a man who is willing to give you a Louis Vuitton handbag, but will you still be moved by that man when you can go to the head office in Paris to choose at will? Will you give him a few high marks just because he can afford such an expensive bag?

There are many things worth pursuing in the world, but only those who really love each other can taste the taste of love-and you actually have many ways to get it, and you don't have to marry someone to get it. In that case, why do you set such a high threshold for your love-I'm not worried that your requirements for love are too high, I'm worried that the people who step into your threshold are just people who have nothing to do with love-because true love doesn't need a threshold and doesn't bother you; Love is two of a kind, you love me, and the free market doesn't choose tomatoes. You have to find the most reasonable cost performance.

The favorite question between lovers is probably what do you love about me? No one will say I love your money, your wealth and the life you can give me. Why? Because we all know it's disappointing. So far, the most touching answer I have heard is an English sentence: "I love you not because you are WHO, but because of who I am when I am with you." I don't know how to translate her into romance, but I think even straightforward translation can make the true feelings touching. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.