What words did the leader say that seemed to be caring, but were actually a slap in the face?

When we first enter the workplace, we must learn the art of speaking. Some words from leaders may seem to be praising you or caring about you, but in fact they are beating you up.

1. Have you encountered any difficulties recently? Can you tell me about it?

The boss will talk to you and sometimes he will say to you: "Have you encountered any difficulties recently, can you tell me about it?"

When you hear this sentence Be careful when talking to someone else, they don't really care about you. It's because your performance during this period was not enough to satisfy him, but he was embarrassed to tell you directly that you didn't do well, so he used a tactful way to tell you: You need to pay attention now.

2. I want to hear your true thoughts.

Another characteristic of bosses is that they like to listen to their employees’ true thoughts. You feel that when he asks you about your true thoughts, he cares about you and wants to consider the problem from your perspective. In fact, he was just telling you not to have any other messy thoughts, and extinguished all your thoughts.

3. You have good people in the company!

"You are very popular in the company!" This sentence is simply deadly poison, and it can easily send you into endless hell at once, and you will never be reincarnated.

As a leader, what he likes most is that his employees compete and cooperate and can help him do things. But if you see good popularity in you, it means that the people under you have begun to stick together. Once his subordinates start to work together, it will interfere with his leadership position, and employees will not be very motivated to work.

He is telling you this now to remind you: Don’t stick with me anymore. I know everything. You’d better think about it carefully.

Finally, I would like to remind you that the leader’s concern is never true concern. If you really care about you, you have to think about it from several angles. ?