Why do many in-laws acquiesce in their sons' living together after marriage?

In fact, the most direct reason is the influence of traditional ideas. My in-laws want to interfere in my son's life, but my son feels used to it and thinks he has the responsibility and obligation to take care of his parents.

There is a strange phenomenon, that is, when many sons are single or even in love, parents will not think about living with their sons. Once their sons get married, especially those who buy a house outside, they always try their best to live with them.

Today, let's talk about why this happened. Is it really "mother's kindness and filial piety"? Not necessarily!

1, the traditional concept of "raising children to prevent old age"

One of the most important concepts of China people is "getting married and starting a career". Many parents believe that their sons should support themselves and fulfill their responsibilities and obligations as sons when they get married. After all, isn't it just waiting for this day to raise a son hard? This is the so-called "raising children to prevent old age"! The idea of this moment is even more vividly reflected after the son got married.

Parents will think that the daughter-in-law should take care of herself, otherwise it will be unfilial. As a son, I think this is also a normal thing. After all, these are my parents! It is natural to ask his wife to join the queue of "filial piety". He deserved it, but it's right not to think from the perspective of a daughter-in-law. Most men would think so. It is by no means a case. I feel helpless for girls.

The most ridiculous thing is that if you let this big pig hoof use this "filial piety" to honor your parents, that is, his parents-in-law, he may explode!

2. Want to "exercise" parents' rights

Many parents think that when their children get married, they can enjoy happiness and the right to be elders. There is a feeling of "daughter-in-law as mother-in-law". How can they not live with their son at this time? I can't wait for my son to live together the day after he gets married. There is a selfish idea, that is, to help my son "look after" his wife. Only the client knows his mind.

Others want to interfere in the young couple's life. Parents think that this can make the young couple's life better, but in fact it is just the opposite.

3, like lively

Getting married and having children is also a natural thing. Even now, many people get married after pregnancy, which is a pleasure for parents. So they have the idea of living with their son, so that the two old people don't have to stare at each other at home and do nothing, especially those with grandchildren, who want to live together and enjoy "family happiness."

Most old people are afraid of loneliness. Even if I live with my son and do nothing, I won't feel lonely when I see my children hanging around. I think this idea is normal.

In addition to the above, it is also because parents-in-law often pay more for their sons than their daughters, such as buying a house, buying a car and getting married. Parents who have savings will definitely support their sons a little more, and even many parents give their life savings to their sons to get married/buy a house. Why are they so willing? Because they think they want to live with their son in the future! If it is a daughter, how many parents will be so generous?

It is really obvious that a family has a son and a daughter. Although parents say they are not biased, they are more willing to send flowers to their sons when they really spend money. That's what my parents do. When my brother got married, they bought a car and contracted all the expenses for the wedding. But I came here with nothing, but they won't ask me to support the elderly. What they want is to live with my brother when I am old.

Many families in my village are like this. It is true that my son hollowed out his money when he got married and lived in a lively family together after marriage. However, most of our post-90 s or post-00 generation's sons don't want to live together when they get married in the future, which is true ... we prefer freedom!