"Daughter, you hurry up and get married, your brother is waiting for the bride price to get a wife." What should we do to parents who are partial?

01

For many people, home is the root and love, but for some people, it is a kind of bondage. They want to escape, but after all Still can't let go.

Others have received love from their parents and have been loved by their parents since childhood, but they have been educated by their parents since childhood to take care of their younger brothers, as if her existence is to take care of their younger brothers. There are parents and younger brothers in her world, but there is no self.

The trauma of the original family will affect a person's life. Girls who grow up in love will be more confident, while girls who have not been loved since childhood need to make more efforts to get rid of their original family. , find yourself again. Lucky people can slowly heal their childhood, while unlucky people are dragged down by their original family for a lifetime.

In the concept of some parents, boys can stay at home to accompany them and provide for themselves in old age, while girls will eventually get married, so when their children are still young, parents begin to differentiate. When it comes to treatment, a daughter, especially an older one, should give way to her younger brother. This is her obligation.

My daughter has also been instilled with this idea since she was a child. She feels that it is natural for her to take care of her younger brother, so no matter what her younger brother needs, she should try her best to support her. Such a sister is very good, but she is also very stupid.

When a person is used to asking for things from you, he will think that it is your duty, will not be grateful to you, and will even go beyond the reach of you, even if the other person is your relative. .

But each of us has our own limit of tolerance. If we are treated unfairly for a long time, our inner dissatisfaction will eventually explode one day.

02

Lin Ying is a very independent, independent, and strong woman. In the eyes of men, such a woman may be a strong woman. Indeed, Lin Ying With her own efforts, she became the head of the department at the age of 28. In the eyes of many people, this was impossible, but Lin Ying did it.

When a person has lived in a self-reliant environment since childhood, it will naturally be easier for her to succeed after working. However, her life-long events have never been settled. She is not in a hurry, but is anxious. her parents.

Her parents hope that she will find a rich man to marry so that she can help improve the environment at home and provide help to her younger brother in the future. However, Lin Ying is not willing to sacrifice her life-long affairs. She always feels that she is doing nothing in her life. The family has given enough.

When I was young, every time my brother got into trouble, her parents would say that she didn’t take good care of him, and she would always be the one punished;

Lin Ying missed the exam by one point. In college, her parents refused to let her continue studying, saying that the family had no money and her younger brother couldn't pass the exam, so her parents had to spend money to let her go;

In order to send more money home, she worked overtime She stayed up late working, and her brother took her money to buy designer clothes with peace of mind;

Occasionally she would send less money home, and her mother would say: "Look at how much money so-and-so sends home, how different is it from you? Now that she has grown up, she still relies on her parents for family expenses, but her younger brother is content to grow old at home.

Although Lin Ying feels that her parents are unfair, she always remembers the kindness of her parents in raising her.

But everyone has a life they want to live, and Lin Ying is no exception. That was the first time Lin Ying rebelled against her parents.

03

Lin Ying met Zhang Lin while working, and the two hit it off. However, because of Zhang Lin's average family conditions, Lin Ying never dared to take her home for fear of her parents disapproving. The two had been dating for almost two years, and Zhang Lin She had been planning to buy a house for the future of the two of them, and finally saved some money, so she planned to come to propose marriage. Lin Ying was originally very nervous, but Zhang Lin gave her courage. Lin Ying felt that she had to live for herself for once in her life, and She believes that as long as the two of them work together, things will get better.

When Lin Ying brought Zhang Lin home, her parents were picky in every possible way. They asked about Zhang Lin’s job, income, and family environment. When they heard Zhang Lin said that he planned to borrow money for the wedding house, If I buy it with a loan, I don’t have to pay for the house every month, so where will the money come from to send home? Zhang Lin said that many people are like this now. There is no way, the housing prices are too high. Lin Ying's parents asked again: "Aren't your parents planning to help?" Zhang Lin said that his parents were old and that was their pension money, so forget it.

Later, Lin Ying’s parents said that they wanted 200,000 yuan as a bride price, and they could forget about the wedding house. If they couldn’t get 200,000 yuan, they should break up with Lin Ying and don’t delay their daughter.

Lin Ying felt that her parents were too much, so she left home with Zhang Lin. Lin Ying thought about following Zhang Lin desperately, and Zhang Lin was also very moved. Unexpectedly, a few days later, Lin Ying proposed to break up, saying that a marriage that her parents did not agree with would not be happy. Zhang Lin was puzzled. Lin Ying insisted on breaking up. Zhang Lin had no choice but to let go.

After the breakup, Lin Ying returned to her hometown. It turned out that her mother had lied to Lin Ying that she was sick and asked her to go home to take care of her. She also said that if she did not break up with Zhang Lin, she would be angry with herself. Although Lin Ying didn't like her parents treating her like this, she still missed her parents in her heart. She thought that if her parents didn't agree, she wouldn't be happy even if she got married, so she reluctantly broke up.

When Lin Ying returned home, she realized that she had been deceived by her parents. Her mother was fine and was sitting in the yard chatting and laughing with her neighbors. Lin Ying was very angry and questioned her mother. Her mother just said that she was cured and asked Lin Ying to stay at home for a few days. God, stay with me.

Lin Ying had no choice but to give up. During this period, she kept calling Zhang Lin, but Zhang Lin didn't answer. She wanted to go back to Zhang Lin, but her parents arranged a blind date. It turns out that the neighbor I met on the day I returned home came to help me matchmaking.

My mother said that if Lin Ying went back, she would really die in front of her.

Lin Ying gave in again and agreed to meet her blind date. What she didn't expect was that the other party was divorced and had a child who was twenty years older than her. Maybe her mother just saw that the other party was rich. Lin Ying absentmindedly dealt with it and was about to leave. Unexpectedly, the other party insisted on sending her back. Lin Ying had no choice but to agree.

When they arrived at home, their parents saw each other and hurriedly invited each other to have tea at home. It was the first time that Lin Ying saw her parents smiling so happily, as if they saw a lot of money. When Lin Ying’s parents heard about each other, He said he had a good impression of Lin Ying, so he talked about the marriage. The other party asked how much the bride price was. Lin Ying's parents hesitated for a while, and the other party smiled and said, "It doesn't matter, I'm not short of money. The most important thing is that in the future, Lin Ying can Give me another son and a half."

After hearing this, Lin Ying's parents smiled and said, "We all start with 200,000 yuan." The other party said, "Okay." ”

Lin Ying listened to their exchanges and looked at her parents’ faces. For the first time, she felt that her parents didn’t love her at all and only regarded her as a cash cow. She wants to escape from this home.

That night, Lin Ying used the excuse that her friend was in a hurry and asked herself to help her, and then go home after the matter was over.

04

After leaving home, Lin Ying had no intention of going back and focused on her work. Unexpectedly, a month later, her mother called her and asked her something. When he returned home, he also said: "My daughter, you get married quickly, your brother is waiting for the bride price to get a wife." Lin Ying thought her mother was crazy and said directly: "Mom, he is twenty years older than me.". But her mother disagreed and said, "What's wrong with being twenty years older? People who know how to feel cold and hot, and those who have been married know how to love others. Mom is doing this for your own good." Lin Ying thought to herself that her mother would not give up, so she directly Hang up the phone and turn the phone to silent.

From that day on, Lin Ying never sent money home again. She told me that she just wanted to escape and have her own life.

For many women, their family of origin is the pain of their lives. Obviously they love their parents so much, why can't their parents give them a little love? Why have you only talked about responsibility to yourself since you were a child?

The parents’ answer seems to be a matter of course. Just because you are a daughter, you are going to get married. I have raised you so much and have fulfilled my parental responsibilities to you, so you have to repay me. , this is completely justified.

Family love is the most priceless thing in the world, but some parents prefer to use rewards to define their daughter's filial piety.

If a daughter is willing to listen to her and contribute to the family, that is filial piety;

Otherwise, it is treason.

But he never considers his daughter’s feelings.

Such parents are selfish. Even if it is a flesh-and-blood relationship, once the heart is hurt, it will be difficult to heal.

Home should be an existence full of love and make people feel extremely warm. It is what we want most when we are suffering outside. It should not be replaced by indifference or selfishness. If you also have a daughter, please don’t Be stingy with your love.