Tell me a few words of compliment that can be used in social interactions.

There are too many such words, and the words used in different environments and different people cannot be completely consistent, so I will give you some knowledge in this area and try to figure it out yourself:

——How to praise others appropriately

The practice of wearing high hats is often ridiculed, mainly because: firstly, it is indeed very effortless to make high hats, and you can produce tens of thousands of items a day; secondly, everyone likes them and flocks to them; The third reason is that there are shoddy and disgusting "flattering" products everywhere.

In fact, there are three, six or nine different types of compliments. The high-grade products are called "praise", "praise", "approval", "praise", etc., while the inferior products are derogated as "please", "flattery", "flattery", "flattery and invitation to favor".

There are several main criteria for good compliments: ① No matter it is true or false, it is convincing; ② It is not wandering and calm, making people unaware; ③ The smell is fragrant and pleasant, and it is far away from nodding and bowing; ④ It is full of novelty , rather than a cliché; ⑤ The size is appropriate, the portion is moderate, and it hits the mark.

It can be seen that wearing a high hat seems simple, but in fact it is the most difficult. The difference between high and low lies in taste, and the mystery lies in the heart. If you want to get rid of the annoying cheapness and vulgarity without raising the cost too much, it cannot be accomplished without good production technology. So be careful and treat it with all your strength, otherwise it is very easy to be self-defeating.

1. "Top hat" is a beautiful lie. Complimenting others is not an easy thing, so-called "flattering" and "flattery". "Flattery" are shoddy products produced by shoddy high-hat factories because they do not meet the standards of praise and flattery.

Although high hats are good, the size must meet the specifications. It is unwise to overdo it too much. Praise breeds honor, and honor breeds satisfaction, but people often feel they've been fooled when they find you've exaggerated. Therefore, it is better not to flatter than to exaggerate.

Excessive and superficial compliments can also damage your reputation and taste. Whether you look at it from the perspective of traditional communication or modern communication, flattery is a despicable behavior. Gentlemen despise it, and villains cannot openly use it. Even the so-called "flattery experts" or "sycophants" will sneer at this kind of behavior. Confucius once said: "Knowing one's words makes one's appearance more benevolent." Mao Zedong also criticized the vulgar style of blowing, patting, and tugging many times during his lifetime. It can be seen that flatterers are unkind, unrighteous and vulgar.

In real interactions, most people who offer flattering words to others always have a certain speculative mentality. They have insufficient self-confidence and low self-esteem, and cannot win the appreciation of the other party in a legitimate way. In order to achieve your own goals, you have no choice but to adopt a cost-effective and cost-effective way - flattery.

How to be a good hat?

① Compliments must be frank and appropriate, and must speak to the other person’s strengths.

People always like flattery. Even if you know that what the other person is saying is flattery, you will still feel complacent in your heart. This is a weakness of human nature. In other words, a person will never feel disgusted when he is praised by others, unless the other person's words are too outrageous.

The first condition for flattering others is to have a sincere heart and a serious attitude. Words will reflect a person's psychology, so a rash speaking attitude can easily be seen through by the other party, resulting in unpleasant feelings.

②Praise from behind is more effective.

One of Roosevelt's aides-de-camp, named Bude, once had an excellent and useful insight into praise and compliments: praising others' merits behind their back is more effective than complimenting them in person.

This is a supreme skill. Praising people behind their backs is the most pleasing and most effective among all kinds of complimenting methods.

Would we be unhappy if someone told us: So-and-so said many nice things about us behind our backs? If this kind of praise is said to us in front of us, it may make us feel false or suspicious that he is not sincere. Why does it sound pleasant to the ears when heard indirectly? Because that is the best compliment.

In order to win over a subordinate who was hostile to him, Bismarck, the iron-blooded prime minister of Germany, systematically praised this subordinate to others. He knew that after listening to those people, they would definitely pass on what he said to that subordinate. subordinate.

③Don’t spend money like a nouveau riche, throwing top hats everywhere.

For those who don’t understand, it’s best not to talk in depth. Wait until you find out what kind of compliment he likes before talking further. The most important thing is, don't compliment others casually. Some people don't like this.

Top hat is a beautiful lie. First of all, it must be willing to be believed and accepted, so that it cannot be as outrageous as saying that a stupid child is a genius; secondly, it must be beautiful and elegant, and must not be vulgar or immodest, which will ruin oneself. It should be off-putting to others; moreover, it should not be overdone, featureless, or mindless.

When the thief saw the dog walking by, he kept throwing small pieces of bread to him. The dog said to the thief: "Get out of here, you guy! Your kindness makes me feel very happy." Scared."

The thief is so embarrassed that even the dog can't deceive the flatterer.

2. Don’t blatantly please people. When the Qing Dynasty published the Twenty-Four Histories, Qianlong attached great importance to it and often checked it himself. Every time there was an error, he felt that he had done a great thing, and in his heart Very happy.

In order to cater to Qianlong's psychology, He Yin and other ministers deliberately copied a few words in obvious places in the manuscript they copied for Qianlong so that Qianlong could correct it. This is a wonderful method. It shows that Qianlong is knowledgeable and has better results than flattering him in person. The manuscripts revised by the emperor could no longer be touched by others, but there were things that Qianlong could not change, so these errors were passed down. There are often errors in the imperial editions seen today, and many of them were formed in this way.

He Yan is scheming and quick-witted, and is good at capturing Qianlong's psychology. He always chooses the right way to win Qianlong's favor. He also carefully observed and conducted in-depth research on Qianlong's temperament, preferences, and living habits. In particular, he knew Qianlong's temper, likes and dislikes very well. It was often what Qianlong wanted, and he thought of it before Qianlong could speak. He also made good arrangements for some things that Qianlong had not considered. Therefore, he was very favored by Qianlong.

There are two things that are good about moaning and patting Mani: first, knowing yourself and the enemy, and hitting the target every time; second, making the other party unaware but feeling comfortable all over, because he does it silently and without leaving any trace.

If a person's knowledge, wit, and status reach a certain level, compliments can be made loud and vivid. But it can no longer be called "flattery", but should be called modesty. Mr. Qian Zhongshu is an example of genius.

One winter he visited Japan and gave an impromptu speech (Poetry Can Be Resentful) at a symposium of literature professors at Waseda University. The opening statement was: It is a very bold move to come to Japan to give lectures. Even if a Chinese scholar comes to talk about his own country's knowledge, he does not have to be brave, but he still needs to be bold. The reason is very clear and simple. Japan's excellent research on various aspects of Chinese culture is recognized around the world; Chinese scholars who are proficient in Japanese also admire your results and humbly adopt your results, knowing that it is not easy to talk about something new and worth asking for your advice. I am illiterate in Japanese. Facing the rich treasure house of Sinology or China Studies in your country, I am like a poor man who neither understands the combination lock nor the tools to start the broadcast. I can only stare at the big safe in a daze. However, blind ignorance is often the source of courage. There is a mocking idiom in Italy: "He invented the umbrella."

It is said that there was a country bumpkin from a remote country who was walking on the road one day when it suddenly started to rain lightly. He happened to be holding an umbrella. With a stick and a piece of cloth, people were quick to think and put the stick on top of the cloth to cover the top of their head, but they didn't get soaked like a drowned rat when they got home. While he appreciates himself, he also feels that he has made contributions to mankind and should be made public. He heard that there was an invention patent office in the city, so he excitedly grabbed a stick and cloth and hurried into the city. Go there to report and demonstrate his new invention. The staff in the bureau laughed loudly after hearing his explanation of his purpose, and took out an umbrella for him to take a closer look. Today I am like that country boy who went to the registration office, ignorant and ignorant, and has never seen an umbrella.

However, when you can't find a roof to take shelter from the rain, holding a cloth with a stick is an effective way to deal with emergencies on your own.

This opening statement actually talks about two levels. Let me first talk about the study of Japanese Sinology, which Chinese people dare not take lightly. Even if a Chinese expert lectures on Chinese culture in Japan, he must fully estimate the level of the audience. Later, he said that he did not know Japanese and had no capital other than courage. However, laughing at yourself is a great way to compliment others!

3. Compliments must be accurate and complimentary. Which type of compliment is most effective for someone you meet for the first time? In the author's opinion, it is best to avoid using the other person's character or character as the object, and praise his past achievements, behavior or belongings and other visible and specific things. If you compliment the other person by saying "you are such a good person", even if it is sincere, the other person will easily become suspicious and wary of "this is the first time we meet, how do you know I am a good person".

The situation is different if you praise past achievements or actions. Praising this established fact has nothing to do with the depth of friendship, and it is easier for the other party to accept it. In other words, instead of praising the other person directly, you praise things related to the other person. This kind of indirect flattery is more effective when you first meet. If the person is a woman, her clothing and accessories will be the best candidates for indirect flattery.

I get along very well with the whole families of many of my friends. Among them, the friendship with the wife is even deeper than the friendship with her husband. Of course, the relationship between us will never cause misunderstanding. . Originally I only knew her husband, so how did I become friends with her whole family? The cause was a casual remark I made at the banquet where I first met her.

At that time, I was introduced to this friend’s wife. Since there was no appropriate topic to talk about at the time, I casually said, “The pendant you are wearing is rare and very special” in an attempt to cover it up. The embarrassment of the time. I said this completely unintentionally. Because I don’t understand women’s ornaments at all. Unexpectedly, this pendant is indeed very special. It can only be bought at Notre Dame de Paris. It is her favorite thing. This casual remark reminded my wife of all kinds of past events about the pendant, and we became good friends from then on.

It is not easy to praise others appropriately. If you praise inappropriately, you will be ostracized. In order to get the other person to speak his or her heart frankly, you must discover as early as possible what the other person is proud of and likes to be praised for, and then praise it, that is, praise what the other person is proud of. Before determining what the other person is most proud of, it's best not to give random compliments to avoid asking for trouble. Just imagine, how can a woman who is already troubled by her thin figure feel sincerely happy when she hears others compliment her for being slim and slender?

I have a close editor friend who looks like a famous actor. Whenever I go to a restaurant with him, the waitresses who meet him for the first time will say to him: "Hui! You look like a movie star!" Indeed, both his appearance and temperament are the same as that of the actor. Very similar. Generally speaking, saying that someone looks like a famous actor is a compliment. The person being praised is usually not unhappy, but my friend's reaction was different. After hearing the service lady's flattery, he didn't like it at first. After he spoke, he became even more silent.

The service lady may have said those words half sincerely and half flatteringly, but the other party ignored them and they could only show surprised expressions. However, this friend's reaction was not surprising at all, because the waitress's compliment was totally inappropriate. He understands his shortcoming, which is that he easily gives the impression of indifference. And it was the ruthless character that the movie star played on screen. Therefore, if you say that he resembles the movie star, this is not a compliment, it is clearly pointing out his shortcomings.

In addition, the information obtained from a third party can sometimes play an important role when meeting the other party for the first time. Therefore, using the information obtained to praise the other party in person is of course also for your own initiative. However, if you relay this information and rumors directly to the other party, you may only be treated with contempt. Because the rumors about him that are flying in the streets are the reputation people generally have for him.

He is tired of hearing about this and is even numb. If you bring it up again, the other person may smile on the surface, but he is very bored on the inside. He may even say: "Look! Here we go again! The same old thing!" and put you into his past. The ranks of many mediocre people I know.

Even if the rumors about the other person are very new to you, you should avoid these old words of praise and praise his lesser-known side. Just like the general who appears in the famous author Yukio Mishima's book (Lectures on Immoral Education), he is very happy when others praise his beautiful beard, but he does not pay attention to the praise about his fighting style. This mentality is something everyone has. Probably many people have praised this general for his bravery and strategic military talents, but as a soldier, no matter how much they praise him in this regard, it is just the same tune in the hymn and will not cause him to amplify himself. feel. However, if you praise him for something other than his military ability, it is equivalent to adding a new item to the praise, and he will feel extremely satisfied.

4. People who are sweet-mouthed may not necessarily be mean-spirited. People who brag and flatter others always use sweet words and sweet words to make the other person listen to them unconsciously or in a relaxed and happy manner, making them feel complacent or forgetful. Sometimes, when a person does something, you are not sure whether it is right or wrong. If someone takes the opportunity to contribute a few kind words, you will feel elated and have a sense of knowing that "I have won my heart." You can't help but say, "You are the only one who knows me." "Yeah" sigh. Besides, there are too few people at all times and in all over the world who can "be happy when they hear it". There are too many people who are happy when others praise them. The founder of "be happy when they hear it" may not really be able to "be happy when they hear it". . In this social and psychological environment, although people know that most of the flatterers do not mean what they say, and may even have ulterior motives, they are still willing or willing to listen to them and indulge in self-indulgence. This is also called "one pot needs to be filled, and the other can fill the pot." This is probably the main reason why I have a deep hatred for flattery and a willingness to listen to it.

According to people's mentality, the waitresses in restaurants and dance halls treat the guests who come to support them by saying "boss" on the left and "chairman" on the right. I don't know how many men's hearts have been lifted. Although the titles in their mouths are professional flattery, they still make the recipients feel as if they are the real boss or chairman.

When a salary earner suddenly becomes a boss, the happiness in his heart is natural. Even if it is short-lived, he is satisfied. But for a long time we have been accustomed to measuring people this way: those who love to praise are hypocritical; those who love to find faults are sincere. The latter is so valuable that there are idioms such as "I am happy if I hear it", "The friendship of attacking mistakes" and so on. We are so afraid of being deceived that we become neurotic and suspicious when we hear words of praise for ourselves. At the same time, we should be careful not to praise others easily, so as not to leave the bad impression of being "sweet-mouthed".

Words of praise are generally well-intentioned and are not meant to praise or kill you. Even the kind words are mostly well-intentioned and the results are usually good. If you praise a small crooked tree for its beauty, it will never become blindly arrogant and grow crookeder. Instead, it will try its best to straighten up. A lame child, you say: Ah, what a beautiful child (this statement is obviously not true)! After hearing this, the child will never be so stupid that he thinks that the lame he is, the more beautiful he is. Instead, he will redouble his efforts to correct himself. Instead, just say something realistic when you meet: You sick kid! He might become paralyzed. The more you praise a child, the smarter he becomes! If you don’t believe me, try it. This is true for children, and it is the same for adults. In a TV series, the actors all performed with ease. I asked the director for their tips, and the director said: After filming a scene, I first say "ok!" No matter whether it is good or not, I always say "ok" in surprise, and then give specific instructions. I have learned a lot from it and agree with it. We also have another saying: A good word will make winter warm, but a bad word will mean June is cold. I secretly thought that these kind words did not refer to harsh words of advice, but mostly to words of praise. You praise a person, such as "Your clothes are so beautiful!" If the person being praised is a teacher, his students will get more friendly smiles from the teacher that day; if he is a doctor, his patients will get more friendly smiles that day. You will be blessed.

5. A key opens a lock. Maybe you haven’t noticed that compliments are not only a good lubricant in life, but also an antidote to interpersonal relationships. Many embarrassing things can be resolved with it. Of course, we should also pay attention to "what songs to sing on which mountain" and what keys to use to open what locks.

① Opposite sex entanglement. This is a problem that worries many women. In today's society, young women have more and more contact with men in life and work, which naturally makes some men attracted to them and have unwanted thoughts. How to make men give up their thoughts without affecting their relationship is a difficult problem facing young women. We can first compliment the other person in the conversation and give him a resounding name, so that it will be difficult for the other person to act recklessly under the reputation. As the saying goes: "Everyone has a love for beauty." If you are young and beautiful, and others want to get close to you, you should not be dismissed as a "lecher". You might as well put a high hat on him to force him to give up his evil thoughts. There was a woman with outstanding appearance who was responsible for product sales planning in a company. After negotiating with a company manager, the manager quietly invited her: "Miss, would you like to have supper with me tonight?" She had to keep the appointment on time. After meeting, the manager was overjoyed and affectionate. The two of them ate and talked. The woman tried her best to persuade the manager to drink, introduced the company's development plan to him, and praised the manager from time to time, saying that he was a modern entrepreneur who was cultured, temperamental, trustworthy, and respected. The manager was quite proud and pretended to be humble: "You're flattered." Finally, the two of them danced together. When leaving, the manager held the woman's hand and said solemnly: "You are a self-respecting and self-loving woman! I will always remember you as a perfect girl in my heart."

② Self-relief. That is, after saying the wrong thing, you can cleverly compliment the other party to achieve the purpose of self-relief. Anyone can resent a bad word but never reject a compliment. Appropriate compliments will not only warm the other person's heart, but also help you get rid of the dilemma of speech errors. Why not do it?

A tall and thin young lady bought a new waist-cut blouse and excitedly invited her girlfriend to review it. When her girlfriend saw that her new clothes were becoming more and more like clothes, she couldn't help blurting out: "This dress doesn't suit you." The other party's face suddenly dropped. Seeing this, his girlfriend blamed herself, and then said with a smile: "With a slim and slender figure like yours, if you wear the kind of loose and fat clothes that reach below the knees, you will look more elegant and elegant. Those who are short and tall Fat people can't wear this kind of temperament." After hearing this, the young lady suddenly turned from anger to joy.

My girlfriend’s words not only subtly hinted that the dress was not suitable for her figure, but also sincerely pointed out her clothing selection standards. At the same time, beautiful words such as slim and slender are used to euphemistically point out the characteristics of his figure, and he compares it with a short and fat person to take care of the other person's self-esteem. What seems like a compliment actually contains infinite mysteries, so it appears to be euphemistic and implicit, and cleverly solves the problem for oneself.

③Stop the quarrel. When people get along with each other, quarrels are inevitable, and couples are no exception. In this regard, once there is a dispute, even if you think your side is in the right, you should avoid excessive criticism and accusations. At this time, the best way is to use ridiculing and humorous words to extinguish the other party's anger and achieve the effect of resolving doubts and disputes. There was a wife who was very vain. When the couple discussed attending a friend's wedding, she pestered her husband to buy an expensive flower hat. At this time, the couple was in financial crisis, so the husband naturally refused to agree to spend the money. During the quarrel, the wife said angrily: "Xiao Xi and Xiao Jin's lovers are so generous. They bought this flower hat for their wives a long time ago. How different are you, stingy!" The husband did not want to argue, but deliberately exaggerated: "But, are they as beautiful as you? I dare say, they are also as beautiful as you. They don't need to buy hats to decorate themselves, right?" Upon hearing the humorous compliment, the wife unconsciously turned from anger to laughter, and a quarrel started. It also stopped.

④ Deal with the proud. Arrogant people value their self-image and feel good. When dealing with them, you might as well adopt a method that suits them, and give them realistic praise for their performance, knowledge, talents, etc., so that their honor and self-esteem can be satisfied. This can shorten the distance psychologically and also play a role in influencing their attitudes.

For example, there is a department chief who is arrogant by nature, and it is difficult for strangers to get close to him. His stiff and cold face often makes people stay away. A clerk from out of town heard about his temper. When they met, he smiled and threw a cigarette and said: "Director, as soon as I walked in, someone told me that the Director is a cheerful person, serious and compassionate. Especially for outsiders. When I heard this, I was very happy. I love working with such leaders. It's a pleasure!" A smile appeared on the director's face, and he continued to talk about business, and it was really effective. .

The clerk’s success was due to those few compliments at the beginning. In this way, the other party will be embarrassed to give a cold reception to someone who compliments and respects them, which makes them look ugly. Naturally, they will become amiable and amiable under the psychological control of maintaining self-image. There are two points to note when using compliments: First, be realistic. The compliment should not be made out of nothing, but should be true, and the other person will be happy. If you flatter him in a disgusting way and flatter him, the sober and arrogant people will regard him as a villain and look down upon him even more. The second is to keep praise in moderation. Praise here is just a means to make the proud person change his attitude, it is the prelude to communication. If you just praise without turning to the topic in time, it will lose its meaning.

⑤Smart accusation. At the fashion counter of a department store, for a while, customers wrote letters accusing the sales girl of poor service attitude. The counter manager's solution is really unique and the effect is amazing. Instead of criticizing the sales girls, he praised them lavishly. He said to the girls named by the customers: "Some customers praised your cordial service, and I hope you will continue to work hard in the future." "Some customers said that you are very polite." In this way, they His hospitality attitude has changed greatly. He greets all guests with a smile, and his business is booming.

This is really an educational method that skillfully grasps female psychology. Generally speaking, when women are accused and said: "You have to correct such and such shortcomings", they even feel that their entire personality has been denied, and it is easy to resist or cry. But with a little praise, they will be in high spirits and become very positive. If you want to correct a woman's shortcomings, it's important not to point them out directly but to praise her strengths. In this way, they can make more use of their strengths and correct their shortcomings.

In short, compliments are a comprehensive master key with many uses and extremely effective.

6. Under the high hat, there are differences between men and women. When a model conductor talked about her work experience, she often unconsciously pointed out whether she was a male passenger or a female passenger. In fact, if we look closely at this practice, Not by accident. Please see the following excerpt: Once, a passenger got on the bus with a child who was already very tall. I said: "Your child is tall enough, it's time to buy a ticket." The passenger said in confusion: "This child is not tall enough yet." Why don’t you just buy a ticket for school?” I said to him in a humorous way: “Aren’t you happy that your child has grown so tall and developed so well before going to school?” When I said this, the passenger became happy. Bought another ticket.

Another time, after I finished speaking about giving up my seat in the car, a lesbian sitting at the ticket counter stood up and gave up her seat to a male passenger holding a child. As soon as this person sat down He was busy coaxing the child without even saying thank you. The female passenger who gave up his seat suddenly became a little unhappy and looked at him sideways. Seeing this scene, I quickly said to the child: "'Kid, thank you auntie, there are so many people, and auntie is so tired, she still gives you her seat, you say how nice auntie is, please say auntie!" The male passenger holding the child Only then was he suddenly startled, and seemed to understand something. He hurriedly said to the female comrade who gave up his seat: "Thank you, I'm really sorry. When the child cries, I really don't know how to get better. Thank you so much." The female passenger had a look on her face. He smiled and said quickly: "You're welcome."

Passengers with children, regardless of gender, will have the same reaction. This is homosexuality, and there is no need to specify the gender; in the case of giving up a seat, the gender must be specified. , and things won’t hold true after the gender is swapped: female passengers generally don’t forget to thank them, while men generally don’t get angry because the other person doesn’t thank them.

In terms of vanity that is closely related to wearing a high hat, there are certain differences between men and women.

Men want to be face-saving and vain, which is mostly manifested in chasing fame, showing off their ability, and displaying their personality to show a chic and capable image, while women are manifested in the deliberate pursuit of appearance and clothing or having a prince charming by their side to show their charm; They want face and are so vain that they are unabashed, sometimes even surprisingly frank, while women are always secretive and shy, "as if holding a pipa to half-cover their faces"; women still have some reservations about face and vanity, while men have some reservations about face and vanity. He goes all out to pursue face, as if his purpose in life is face; men can go to war for face, and those with power can even kill one person to scare others, or start a war in serious cases, while women will yell and curse in the streets or in public just to save face. There was a lot of crying at home. By the way, let me tell you, never hurt or destroy a man's face, otherwise everything will be lost - friendships will be broken, relationships will fail, business will fail, there will be no hope of promotion, and professional titles will be ruined.

Therefore, you must pay attention to your skills when complimenting the opposite sex. Otherwise, if you are not careful, you will cause unnecessary misunderstandings. If it is the first time you meet, your compliment may be interpreted as too explicit flattery or leave a mark on others. The impression of vulgarity and disgust cannot be conveyed to the other party correctly.

I think it is a good way to use vague words of praise when meeting the opposite sex for the first time, because the meaning of the words is vague. , most people will understand it in a positive way

For women, we should also pay attention to the following situations: ① When working overtime, if you say "you can go back" to a female employee, not only will you not please her, but you will easily offend her. I think you despise her.

The sales section manager of a certain automobile factory complained every time he saw me: "Girls are so elusive. I cry when I scold one of them. If I praise one of them, I offend the other girls. If this continues, Really sick. "A few days ago, after the final settlement, he softly told two female employees who did not need to stay and work overtime: "You can go back. Unexpectedly, the other party said unhappily: "Why should we go back when others are staying?" "It seems that his good intentions were regarded as contempt by them.

The more serious women are at work, the more they hate being discriminated against. In this case, don't just say: "You can go back." It's best to say in a comforting tone: "You guys work hard every day. You can go back earlier today." "If you have such cleverness, then the other party will also thank you for your kindness and go home happily.

③Never praise other women in front of women.

Someone said: "A woman's enemy is the woman herself. "For women, all other women are eternal enemies.

Among the girls in the city, it is said that there is a male teacher who always moves at the same speed in class. If he stops inadvertently, then The whole class thought that the teacher was interested in the girl next to him. Some people might think it was ridiculous, but in fact, a male teacher resigned from his teaching position because he couldn't bear the harassment.

“Men can also be jealous. "Perhaps when women retort like this, the teacher standing next to them thinks, "The teacher is interested in me." This is a self-centered concept unique to women. There is no so-called free and easy state for women in the relationship between men and women, that is, there is no so-called neutral state. For example, A couple walked together on the street. The man looked at the beautiful lady passing by and said, "Wow! What a beautiful girl. "Generally speaking, a woman will get angry and ignore him.

③When women complain about family or children, don't think that agreeing with them can please them.

When women talk to others , the topic is easy to talk about one's own children and family, and most of these words are said in a complaining way, for example: "My son is so funny, it's really worrying." ” If you accidentally chime in and say, “Yeah! That kid did. "The other party must be very angry, and the reason is very clear.

On closer inspection, it is not difficult to find that women's complaints contain such expectations: "My son is just having fun. If this is changed, no matter his grades. No matter what, there will be great progress. ” Maybe even showing off: “My son is smart and well-behaved, it’s just fun.” "

As for the husband's complaints, it can be said that he is just showing off. "He plays golf every week and is not even at home on Sundays. He should really think about his children."

In other words, she wanted to show off: "My husband is busy socializing and playing golf with guests. This is a sign of a successful career." But she was embarrassed to show off directly, so she said it in a complaining way. Don't echo this complaint, it would be smart to deny it and make her feel happy by denying it.