It's obviously not me who is wrong, so why does the other party feel at ease? Uncover "hypocrisy"

Moral kidnapping is actually another form of crime.

It is like an invisible rope, which binds us to act; It's like a bowl of chicken soup forced to be instilled, and this kind of instillation, you think, is to break your mouth hard: "The kind that I drink for Lao Zi?" No.

It is to transport chicken soup into our blood vessels, which is contrary to the normal operation of our living organisms in biology. Therefore, people who have been kidnapped by morality for a long time are physically and mentally exhausted and feel twice as painful.

But when we send out a distress signal, we always get such a reply:

"I'm doing it for your own good,

I'm an old man, so you have to let me go,

I'll talk straight, so you can get used to it,

Don't pay the bill, she has the money to let her come.

when she married my son, she was a fake. When the bride heard that she didn't ask for a bride price, she was asking for comfort from someone at the bedside. The person at the bedside was extremely impatient and said with disdain, "You look down on my mother, but you still dislike my poverty. She is really a greedy woman."

Yes, love rat always takes white wolves with empty gloves as a matter of course.

In this sense of pride, there must be a mother-in-law who washes her dirty linen everywhere, and uses moral kidnapping to support and condone her son's distorted three views. Attributing tolerance, gratitude, understanding of the elderly and understanding to the daughter-in-law as a fake.

People kidnapped by morality wander in depression and suicide all the time. Because they can't extricate themselves, there is no real empathy in this world. I don't want you to add icing on the cake, just ask the hypocrites not to get involved.

"Fan Shengmei", the role played by Rulu in Ode to Joy, has become a symbol in recent years, representing this kind of women who are squeezed by family of origin and pay endlessly for their brother or younger brother.

This time, the heroine is called Lolo by netizens. If she were still alive, she would be 25 years old this year. She worked as an artist in an Internet in Hangzhou with a monthly salary of over 1, yuan.

In the early morning of October 17th, 22, Lolo went for a walk by the Qiantang River, but was unfortunately swept away by the river and died. The police concluded that it was an accident, not suicide.

I thought it should be over here, but it was just the beginning of a bloody drama.

The company gave Lolo's parents a pension of 6, yuan out of morality, but they were not satisfied and demanded compensation of 41, yuan, because they needed the money to pay the down payment for their son, Lolo's younger brother.

Everyone with a discerning eye can see that the company is not responsible for Luoluo's death: her accident happened after work, and her parents pointed out that "the daughter's mood fluctuated due to heavy work pressure", and the company also called out the attendance sheet to respond, showing that Luoluo's overtime intensity did not exceed the provisions of the Labor Law, and the company had purchased insurance for all employees and promised to donate the money to their parents.

What shocked me was that Lolo's parents took it for granted: you have to give us money when you are alive, and the company has to pay for it when you are dead.

it's definitely not a performance, but it's what I think in my bones.

The most shocking thing is that the mother of the deceased beat her chest and growled with a ferocious face: "Is a human life only worth 6, yuan? If it is not enough, why should we use this money to buy a wedding room for our son?"? Laugh at lolo's squeezing and avoid talking about it.

The cause of Luoluo's death seems to be a feather. After his death, his interests are as heavy as Mount Tai in family of origin. He didn't realize that a little blood is thicker than water, but it was cold and icy, and his cold indifference to life made people feel creepy today.

The writer canoe said, "One thing in life that I don't like very much is that it always makes sensible people bear the bad feelings and results.

don't persuade others to be kind without suffering! The world of adults is not easy for anyone. We should not blindly use our own moral standards and values to coerce or force others.

The mother who has broken the three outlooks is certainly chilling in her contempt for her daughter's life. However, imagine that she is not a victim, because she was born in the age of son preference, and that's how she came. The ingrained

daughter is a loss-making commodity, and her son will be given a pension and married in the future. Therefore, Luo Luo's mother's ferocious roar is like Pan Guiyu, the mother with a beautiful room in "An Jia", so it is natural for you to be a sister and raise your brother or younger brother.

Recently, there is a high-profile girl in Zheng Shuang who gave up her baby by surrogacy. Why did Zheng Shuang make a debut? We trace the root cause because her mother had a dream of becoming a star, so she asked Zheng Shuang to pursue her dream. Even before the surrogacy happened, she said in an interview that she wanted to exchange her life with her daughter, because Zheng Shuang's living condition was exactly what she wanted, yes! Have you ever asked Zheng Shuang, did Zheng Shuang want to live in such a flash?

right! Zheng Shuang has been living for her mother, living for her brother, and Fan Shengmei because family of origin didn't have the courage to pursue love.

how can a person who lives for others be himself? Apart from breathing, eating and sleeping, I am deprived of the right to choose materials. Because I want to buy a house for family of origin's younger brother, I can't have the materials I like. How can this life be happy?

Zheng Shuang became what her mother wanted, and fulfilled her dream of being a star. Who asked Zheng Shuang what her dream was?

Can the two children who came from surrogacy become the next tool people and fulfill Zheng Shuang's dream?

She is a child herself. How can she accept two surrogate children back to him in the arranged life? So it is not surprising that she can abandon her children, because she is only regarded as a tool to make money, and she has no understanding of what love is and how to love others.

Zheng Shuang was born for commercial interests. Who can remember that when she was 12 years old, she cried that she didn't want to live on campus. In exchange, her mother gave her a cold sentence: "You are crying. Go by yourself tomorrow, and I won't see you off."

What is a tool man? No one cares about your feelings, and no one will ask you if you are tired. You can't have your own ideas, and you are not allowed to make choices, because the choices parents make for you are "all for your own good". Yes, the original intention of parents is really good for their children. However, what evidence proves that the choices parents make are really all right?

self-awareness: who am I? where am I going? What am I going to do?

The behind-the-scenes manipulators kidnapped by family of origin's morality all have the same feature, that is, they have no "sense of boundary"

For example:

For example, if you open a bottle of water and take a sip, the other person will say that you are stingy.

we know each other, but you think we know each other well! I can give it to you if you want, but you drink it without my permission. It's disgusting. Did you brush your teeth?

Yes, people who have no sense of boundaries will not consider each other's feelings, as long as they are happy.

There are also visits to other people's homes to see children. They sit for a day without washing their hands. Because pregnant mothers and babies are valued, they come to visit and give gifts. However, they sit for a day and come for three months.

When they come, they chat and talk all over the world, but they don't mention whether pregnant women are tired or noisy. They are very enthusiastic, and excessive enthusiasm is a kind of interruption.

It's cruel to be polite to people who have no boundaries during the day because they don't get enough sleep after feeding at night.

When communicating, I don't consider other people's feelings. No matter whether you listen to me or not, I must talk big. It doesn't matter whether you listen or not. When I talk about me, especially when I answer the phone, people who have no sense of boundaries are still salivating and grabbing words, which makes the person who answers the phone unable to hear the contents on the phone and has to deal with her rude interference.

If you shut her up, she will look aggrieved: "You don't tolerate others, and I didn't say too much. Shut me up. You want to kick me out, just say so. I'm getting old and hated."

I'm an old man, so you have to make way for me

Case: Give up your seat on the bus

On the bus, a 5-year-old grandfather sat directly on the lap of a sleeping girl. The girl was awakened by him and got up quickly.

Grandpa sat down and didn't forget to reprimand her: "I just educated you and offered my seat to the elderly, you know?" The girl said angrily, "Then you shouldn't sit on my lap!" "

The people in the carriage began to talk a lot. A man said to him, "I didn't see you when my girl fell asleep. How can I let you go?" Unexpectedly, the uncle said, "Is she asleep? She didn't want to let her seat pretend to sleep! "

At this time, another person said, "Grandpa, it was wrong to rely on the old to sell the old, and it is even more wrong for you to play rogue!" After saying his word, the uncle began to get excited: "Why don't you talk about her pretending to sleep! I'm telling you, don't irritate me with my problems! "

when he said this, everyone was silent. At this time, a grandfather with white hair came over. He patted the grandfather and said, "I see you are in good health. It's better to stand more stations like me. "

I didn't expect my uncle to be even more angry. He shouted in the car directly: "Now we are paying attention to respecting the old and loving the young. She should give me her seat when she sees me coming up!" Grandpa said, "They respect the old, so you should love the young! They young people are tired after a day's work! Let them sit. What's wrong? Don't embarrass us old people! "

It can be seen that not all old people are bad people, but bad people are old.

giving up your seat is a mutual affection, not letting go is a duty, and a duty is an obligation and a responsibility.

I quite agree with what Cai Kangyong said, "Tolerance will lead us to be ignored, and carelessness will make us lose the taste of living.

Obligations should be fulfilled without compensation. Responsibility must be fulfilled, with or without remuneration. The essential difference between obligation and responsibility is that one should and the other must. Before the child reaches the age of 18, parents have the responsibility to raise him until he reaches the age of 18. After he reaches the age of 18, they have no responsibility to raise him. As the child is still in school, parents can continue to raise him as much as they can.

People who say such things are generally low-quality people who are greedy for cheap. Brother Tai, who became popular by singing, I wonder if you still remember? After he became popular, he returned to the countryside and was occasionally invited to perform, so his villagers' friends, seeing that he had fame and money, kept asking him for money and refused to pay it back.

In the hearts of these villagers, Brother Tai earned money, so he should give it to them. I really think all this money was blown by the strong wind! If Brother Tai doesn't want to borrow it, they still ask, "Now that you are rich, why don't you have any kindness at all? If you are rich, you will go bad."

A girl who didn't ask for a bride price explained that the day before her wedding, her mother-in-law said happily, "The bride will get married tomorrow. What else do you need to see in wedding planning? Mom will satisfy you."

I just need an aerial photo of 8 yuan. My mother-in-law is eclipsed. She says, "Our family is poor, so go home and ask your father for it. My son, your grandfather's family is rich, and my mother can't afford it."

The bride-to-be thinks that her bride-to-be 8 yuan is not worth it. She really lives and gets married once.

It's not the most difficult thing for a girl to swallow her mother-in-law's words, but it's her relatives who really hurt her.

When she told her relatives that when falling in love, the life track of a boy after work is borne by a girl, the relatives replied in surprise, "That's because his family is poor".

if you are poor, do you have the right to be poor?

When the girl said angrily, "I didn't ask for the bride price, so I need an aerial photo of 8 yuan".

Relatives said, "If you have money, you should come from your family. Our poor and down-and-out family can't beat the hero with a penny, so you should be generous.".

The girl understands that no matter what she says, her relatives will not look at the problem from their own perspective, because in recent years, her parents have been shrouded in moral kidnapping: "If your family has money, you deserve it. If you resist, you will look down on us poor people."

no one thinks that you are a poor relative, but they label themselves as inferior and poor.

The girl vowed to learn to say no to moral kidnapping by herself, but also to be strong and save her parents from the moral kidnapping of relatives: "Because you have money, you should …".

The poor relative in the article, because she thinks the mother-in-law in the article is her own situation.

It is also said that the bride was born in bliss, spoiled and willful, so the bride-to-be understood that the social image of the past 2 years was self-righteous. Just because I think I'm excellent doesn't mean others think of you in the same way.

So, if you want to know a person, you must get to know him in association, and get to know people for a long time. Don't try to know a person in other people's comments, you will know the same person in a variety of ways.

there are a thousand hamlets in a thousand people.

Gossip is also a moral kidnapping. We can't stop others' mouths. What we can do is to have a correct judgment on the world, and not listen to our good comments and bad comments, because that is what others say about ourselves, not our real self.

language can be faked, but the same experience is true.

Just because such moral kidnapping indirectly or directly causes the death of others

Many moral kidnappers don't like other people's money

In the face of moral kidnapping, our asking for help is not comfort, but they think we are very ignorant.

Over time, depression has become a normal state of life, and it is natural to die. Therefore, people who use morality to kidnap are "hypocritical" people.

In Degang Guo's words, "In fact, I hate people who don't understand anything, so I advise you to be generous and stay away from him, because lightning will get you into trouble!"

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