There is no good meal and no good game.

Chinese people are very particular about eating. When a group of people eat, it is not just about eating, but also about socializing or even doing business. Therefore, eating is not simply eating, but a game, a game that contains a lot of knowledge.

As the saying goes: "The one who takes advantage of others is short-handed and the cannibal is soft-spoken." Although it doesn't mean much to participate in a dinner party, you will always owe a favor. Maybe you fall into an "emotional dilemma" or because of the dinner party. The "human dilemma" puts yourself in a dilemma.

Although it is said that "there is no good meal, no good game", but when dealing with people, it is inevitable to participate in various dinner parties. If you don't participate once, you may be regarded as an alternative by others and lose your network resources. Smart people often know how to choose and attend meaningful dinners and refuse to participate in meaningless ones.

01. Don’t participate when others ask for your dinner.

As a human being, there are always things you can’t overcome. It is impossible to “don’t ask for everything”. If you cannot accomplish anything or do it well with your own strength, you need to find a way to accomplish it or do it well with the help of others. Asking for help, dinner is inevitable.

Helping others is a good deed, but you must help others within your own capabilities. Don't boast too early, otherwise you will be embarrassed if you fail to complete it. If you go beyond your ability to help others, you will end up hurting yourself. If things don't go well, others will blame you, and your own image will be damaged.

When asking for help, you need to establish relationships through dinner. Many people understand this. However, when others ask you to do something, you should "do according to your ability" and don't be a "granted" person. You should decisively say no to things you can't do.

So, before attending a dinner party, you should figure out what exactly others need from you. Don’t just know how to satisfy your appetite without knowing anything. When others make requests, you will be dumbfounded and bite the bullet. If you agree, the end result will be that you make yourself a mess.

For dinner parties where others ask you to help with things, be aware of them in advance. After knowing the ins and outs of the matter and the causes and consequences, it is best to shirk it, help if you can, and if you can't, don't help. You don't have to attend the dinner to avoid causing trouble to yourself. Give your friends a favor and give yourself a leg up.

02. Don’t participate in a dinner party where you are asked to accompany the wine

In traditional customs, when the host is entertaining guests, he likes to invite some relatives and friends to accompany him, which makes it more lively and entertaining. It seems that the owner is more enthusiastic, and of course it also seems that the owner has face and well-connected people. Therefore, companionship at the dinner is indispensable.

It’s not a big deal to accompany guests to dinner. After all, you are not the protagonist. But if you accompany guests to drink, you need to weigh your drinking capacity. You need to see clearly the actual situation at the dinner party, not only the number of people, but also the identity of each person, otherwise if you are not careful, you will end up with complaints from others.

Drinking is harmful to the body, drinking causes trouble, and being drunk is not good for anyone. But there are also drinking etiquette when drinking, and when to toast, and who to toast first, all are particular. You don't just rely on your ability to drink, you can do whatever you want. Therefore, when drinking as a companion, you must see the actual situation clearly.

If you are sick, do not drink. Because of poor health, I cannot drink. However, from the perspective of accompanying a drinker, this is disrespectful to others. If you don’t drink, it’s unjustifiable; if you drink, you’ll harm your body. If you get others drunk, you will hurt others; if you get drunk, you will feel uncomfortable physically.

Let’s stop talking about drinking. When having a dinner party with wine, you must be very careful. You must first understand who you want to accompany, your role in it, and how to behave. These are all things that need to be considered. If it was just a dinner party with drinks and it would be embarrassing to go, it would be better not to go.

03. Don’t attend meals that others show off

Some dinners have a certain purpose in themselves. Inviting you to participate is not to talk about feelings, but to show off success and stand out from others. different. Showing off is nothing more than making others envious and making others think that he is superior to others. Maybe he has a little bit of himself, but this kind of dinner is always embarrassing.

Some people who were not prosperous in the past suddenly reach the "peak" of life, and they will inevitably be high-spirited and want others to know about their success and praise them. This kind of dinner seemed harmonious on the surface and everyone was smiling, but in fact they were saying things that were against their will, and they felt sick afterwards.

Really smart people, the better they get along, the more low-key they are, instead of singing high-profile and finding people to attend parties organized by themselves to show off their success. If you always show off yourself, not only will you not gain respect from others, but you will also be jealous and disgusted by others, which is not a good thing for you.

When someone suddenly invites you to a dinner party, you must be clear about the purpose of his invitation, whether it is to communicate feelings or to show off his "success." If it's just a gathering between friends, then it's okay to attend; if it's to show off his "success," then forget it.

When you go to a dinner party where others show off their strength, you will find that you are there to "applaud" others and to be their "support". There are also some people who look down on you at all and invite you to dinner just to let you make up the numbers and use you to highlight their "high-classness". It's better not to go to someone else's showy dinner.

04. Stick to the principle and do not participate in meaningless meals

As a person, you can be poor, but you must have backbone. Don't expect those who look down on you to help you, and don't attend dinner parties that "make you feel ashamed." It’s better not to attend dinner parties with people you don’t know, have nothing to do with, or have different opinions on, because you have no idea what their purpose is.

You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others. As a person, you should keep your duty and prevent others from harming you. You should refuse some unknown dinner parties or drinking parties, just like you refuse money from unknown sources. Don't get into some kind of predicament inexplicably.

Some people always like to do "cutting leeks" and use dinner parties as "routines" to scheme against others. You must know that people of different tastes do not seek to harm each other. Before attending a dinner party, you must clearly understand the ins and outs of the dinner party, who is participating, and what the purpose of the dinner party is. Don't attend the dinner party haphazardly and end up being tricked.