How to describe a woman in her fifties who refuses to accept her old age?

Seriously, I've been thinking recently that I'm in my fifties, and I don't look like my aunt who was fifty when I was a child. I often analyze whether I am fifty or forty. Sometimes I feel like a child. When I see ice, I will step on it with my foot, and then I will secretly see if anyone is laughing at me. It's not that I don't feel old. On the contrary, I sometimes want to pretend to be old.

My mother has a best friend, whom I met when I first started working. This aunt is in her fifties. She has been divorced several times and has no children. The unit where she worked in her early years closed down, and now she does some clothing business.

Those who can walk out of the unit and become small bosses by their own efforts are all capable people. In recent years, I have been used to her not getting married.

My aunt and my mother have had a good relationship for decades and have been in contact all the time. So far, when I go back to my hometown, I can bump into her playing and chatting with my mother.

Every time after she left, my mother sighed with me: Aunt XX is a good person, but unfortunately she is too strong. She was unhappy in several marriages and had no children. What can she do in the future?

I said: her happiness now is due to the misfortune of marriage, not a complete life with children.

When she chose such a "deviant" road, she must have suffered a lot of criticism. As her best friend, you should support her choice.

My mother said: Yes, she is also very happy all day now. She used to fight when she got married, but you can't do that.

I just nodded.

Compared with my aunt's "misfortune", I think of middle-aged men who bask in their lovers at adult's dinners. They have no scruples about dealing with two women as interesting conversation materials and have no shame.

If they have a complete family, or even an extra family, they may not be happy.

In fact, I didn't just convince my mother for that aunt or myself, and I certainly couldn't convince her about my marriage.

I did it for my mother's circle of friends, a child my age.

When talking about marriage, my mother said the most words to me:

"If you don't get married, others will say that you have a personality problem. If you don't have children, people will say you can't have children. 」

Just like when homosexuals come out, parents are worried about the price of "deviance". One is that no one cares about them all their lives, and the other is criticism from others.

I am relying on my own economic independence to prove that I can take care of myself, and using medical and social mechanisms to convince my parents that I don't need to raise children to prevent my old age.

But I can't stop people from talking. Even if I convince my parents, I am worried that I will go out and work hard, and they will bear a lot of pressure from others in my hometown because of me.

Say that your favorite daughter has personality problems or can't have children.

Of course, they will bear all these pressures for me, but in fact, that part of the pressure they bear will also be transferred to me. I don't want them to suffer for me anymore.

I can only start by influencing my parents. When other people's children choose to marry late and have children late, when other people's daughters choose careers first, they should not be pressured by other people's parents.

If every child affects a parent, you can stand up and say a few words for them when talking about older women, families without children and boys who are not looking for girlfriends among relatives and friends.

Maybe you liberated not only the people being discussed, but our generation and our parents who took the blame behind us.

Here I tell a story about my cousin. Sister Tang is also a fifty-year-old woman.

Cousin is a woman who loves beauty and has hobbies. Rural women generally don't wear makeup, and they don't dress up at home, so they dress casually. But my sister is different. After working in the field, the first thing to do is to wash and change clothes, and then start cooking. Every time you go to the market, you should put on your makeup and dress up beautifully before you go out.

For this reason, the aunt and kannika nimtragol in the village called her immoral and evil behind her back. Of course, there are also girl daughters-in-law who scold her, but in fact, there is more or less jealousy in it. They don't want to be as beautiful as themselves, but they are afraid to do so.

Accidents will happen. Brother-in-law Tang had an accident and left his cousin alone. Sister Tang is heartbroken. People say that my brother-in-law always earns money, so I can be so headstrong and beautiful. This time, I suffered such a big loss in my heart that I feel I have nothing to boast about.

Before long, my sister was still like that, clean and shiny, and soon found a job from the city. A year later, I found my brother-in-law, and they lived happily together. Moreover, this brother-in-law also promised that my cousin's son would have a child with his surname. Of course, my ex-brother-in-law will have a baby at home. A house in the city belongs to Tang Jie's son.

Now, Tang Jie's family lives happily. The son also talked about an object, and Tang Jie is planning the children's marriage.

The villagers swore that Tang Jie didn't behave like a woman. Her brother-in-law had been gone for less than a year, and she found another lover. Tang Jie is 50 years old, so even though she left her children, she is still looking for the other half. What a shame.

At that time, I met Tang Jie and mentioned her dead brother-in-law in front of me. Tang Jie is sobbing, which shows that she still misses him. She told me that she never thought she was fifty years old. No matter what earth-shaking changes have taken place in life, shouldn't life continue as long as people have a breath? Pull a bitter gourd face every day, show it to who? Who can help you?

Yes, if Sister Tang Can can't get over the loss of her loved one, will it help? Life must go on, but you can't die with it When she finds the other half, she will rely on it for the rest of her life. Besides, her son got a large fortune. I'm afraid it's impossible for her to struggle with the strength of a child alone. How about fifty? Can't you find your own happiness at the age of fifty? Can't you dress up beautifully at fifty?

Fifty years old is just a number for some women, and it doesn't mean anything. What matters is our attitude towards life and whether we love life. Life is not only suffering, twists and turns, trivial and complicated, but more importantly, enjoyment and love. Because there is only one life.