Some people speak concisely, while others talk nonsense.

Language is an important tool for communication, but when and what to say is very different. If you can't say it, you can't get to the point, you can't get to the other person's heart, and even people feel disgusted, it's better to be silent.

? As the old saying goes, lack of talents leads to more planning. Lack of knowledge leads to anxiety. Lack of power leads to more anger. If you don't believe enough, just say more. If you are not brave enough, you will work hard. If you don't know enough, you will see more. If there is not enough reason, argue more.

Someone told me before that if you try to limit what you have to say to ten sentences every day, your life will be greatly improved.

Persuasive people must be few words, but they can get to the point. In this respect, the son has something extraordinary.

Give two examples:

My son has been doing real estate in Australia. He doesn't talk much, but he has achieved good results. This is determined by his thinking.

The first thing, that was when he first started as a real estate agent. Through introduction, I met a boss in Shijiazhuang who owns several nightclubs and bath centers in Beijing. After talking for about twenty minutes, the boss didn't even look at the houses in Australia and ordered seven sets at once. Later, we became friends and I played with him in Australia for two weeks. I have always been curious that my son sold his seven houses, so I asked him, Mr. He, you can make a decision to invest in seven houses in such a short time when you see such a small child. Can you tell me why? Manager He only answered me one sentence, and I think what he said is quite reasonable. Later, Mr. and Mrs. He are leaving Sydney. I told my son that Mr. He's family will return to Beijing tomorrow, and you haven't invited them yet. The son replied lightly, why should I invite them to dinner? I help them invest to make money. This is my son's thinking logic. He never sells his house to others, but wants to help you make money.

The second thing, I went back to Australia a few years ago. I wanted to learn the professional knowledge of Australian real estate from his company, but I stayed for two years. Then one day, we came back from dinner in the southern part of Sydney. That day, my son and my cousin drank a lot of white wine and beer. My cousin refused to accept it, and then went home to drink foreign wine. Finally, I sent my cousin home drunk and confused. This is just an episode. I talked about my problems during the period. My son wants me to go back to Beijing. He didn't say much, only one sentence touched me. He said, grandma is in poor health, so you should go home quickly, and don't regret it then. In fact, this sentence is really worried about his grandmother's heart, but it is very convincing.

Concise and effective, with the following principles:

First, get to the point.

When you want to express your opinion, you might as well go straight to the point. Needless to say a lot of useless foreshadowing words, what is the national policy, what is the original text, when it was issued, and what is the situation now. As a result, three minutes have passed and you haven't got to the point yet. You can just say, "I want to say something about saving electricity ..."

Second, don't digress.

Or take "saving electricity" as an example to express your theme as concisely as possible. For example, remind everyone to turn off the lights, don't rock the boat and tell others the principle of power generation. As a foreign proverb says: When I ask you what time it is, don't tell me how the watch works.

Third, the meaning is clear.

Before you speak, you should sort out your own language logic and determine what you want to express. Don't say this and that. If you talk for a long time, the listener doesn't know what to say, which is easy to cause misunderstanding.

Fourth, use more short sentences and less long sentences.

In our usual speech, while changing sentence patterns, we should pay attention to using more short sentences and less long sentences. Because long sentences don't sound easy to understand; The expression effect of short sentences is lively and powerful, and it can also show excitement, firm will and positive tone. Therefore, in application, short sentences that are easy to say and listen to are more popular. Besides, we should also pay attention to the fact that in our daily life, we will inadvertently find that we can get happiness and interest from talking with some people, so we want to prolong the conversation again, hoping that this good feeling can continue, and the result is often counterproductive, and even ultimately destroys the effect we have achieved. So we should end it resolutely and decisively. Sometimes it is this kind of unfinished business that will leave a deep impression on the other party.

Fifth, be sincere, praise more and criticize less.

This may be very important. We don't need to talk as much as speakers and salesmen, and you may not have that many audiences. Listening more and talking less, spitting lotus flowers, not only reflects a person's cultivation, but also is a kind of wisdom.

How do people who talk a lot but talk nonsense talk?

Why can't one fifth of Americans find their own country on the world map? Faced with this question, miss congeniality Carolina in the southern United States replied to the camera: "I personally think that Americans can't find the position of the United States on the world map because some people don't have maps, and I think our education level is the same as that of South Africa and Iraq ... and ... I think they should ... our education here ... American education should help the United States, South Africa, Iraq and other Asian countries, so that we can. This video has spread all over the world on YouTube, the world's largest video sharing website.

Do you know her? You may feel that there is no need to demand miss congeniality's language and thinking ability, so well, let's take a look at a passage from alan greenspan, the third chairman of the Federal Reserve.

Richard Paul quoted Greenspan in Critical Thinking: "It is really difficult to find such an adjustment method in time, which can moderately curb the growth of risk premium by reducing income, and will not prematurely terminate the decline of risk premium caused by inflation."

Don't you understand what he is saying? Of course, you don't have to think that this wise elder's words are too profound, but we just can't keep up with his ideas. On the contrary, the fact is that Greenspan himself admits that words like the above are not to be understood.

Like the above, no matter from the beauty pageant champion or the chairman of the Federal Reserve, as long as it is not understood, it can be called nonsense, which also shows that everyone has a tendency to talk nonsense.

Everyone is talking nonsense, but for different reasons. Some people don't like the ignorance and confusion brought by thinking, and some people deliberately hide their truth but don't want others to see their thoughts. But in any case, endless nonsense can't really cover up the defects in thinking. Clear thinking will make it clear, and chaotic thinking will produce nonsense.

Therefore, it is best to clear your mind before speaking and make your expression clear and easy to understand, so that the other party will feel the sincerity of your communication, rather than avoiding or perfunctory. If you really don't know what to say, don't say it first, as Jack Welch, the former chairman of General Electric Company, said: "You don't believe how difficult it is to keep it simple and clear, because people are afraid of being treated as fools by others, but the result is just the opposite." Sometimes you might as well keep silent, preferring to make others think you are a fool rather than say those nonsense, making people think you are really a fool.

If a person talks a lot and still can't be understood, it means that his logical thinking must be a little confused, or he can't organize and express problems well, and may even need to cover up some things without considering others.

Language is the main tool for information transmission. If you can't express your point of view concisely or effectively convince others to achieve your expected effect, then there must be too few effective components in the language and too much nonsense.

Cherish those who can listen to your nonsense.

People who like to talk nonsense are sometimes a desire to express themselves, and they also hope that their language can be valued, so that they have a sense of existence. But this is limited to specific relationships.

The more mature people are, the more silent they know. The more silent they are, the more they know that it is a blessing to have someone around who is willing to listen to your nonsense. Not everyone is willing to listen to you open your heart, not everyone can feel the same way with you, and many people just watch your jokes.

Being able to have a meaningless relationship should be a very happy thing in life, which is what life pursues. Many people want to talk to someone in the dead of night, when they are wandering inside, and when they are lonely and helpless. They can open the address book, and it is often difficult to find someone who can tell them without scruple.

In your life, you will meet many people. You can listen to yourself saying that you are tired, accompany yourself to nag, accompany yourself to vomit, let your mind rest in the hustle and bustle of the world, and let your impetuous heart get peace in the world of mortals. It is really rare. They are rare bosom friends and the most comfortable people.

A sentence written by Liu Tong: A comfortable feeling is that you can talk about any topic, and the other person can continue to talk, not because the other person is well informed, but because the other person is extremely interested. Yes, the most comfortable person is your good audience, even if what you say is not nutritious, even if what you say is all nonsense.

Only people who really like and love you are willing to listen to your nonsense. People who have no feelings for you will be bored if you say one more word. The most comfortable relationship is that two people talk about everything, talk nonsense, and neither of them is bored, but Tottenham is not bad. Just like in love, no amount of nonsense is sweet.

There is a psychological study that if more than 90% people are talking nonsense, they will feel happy easily. If the nonsense is less than 50%, this person will not easily experience the feeling of happiness. The former is characterized by talking and laughing. The latter is unhappy and unhappy.

On the surface, talking nonsense is a waste of each other's time, but the little happiness in life is often made up of those nonsense. In fact, the gathering of friends, whether it is memories or small talk, is of little significance to life. It's all unnecessary nonsense, but it makes each other happy.

Lovers are very much in love, and most of them are quotations from books. Everyone knows nonsense, but people in love still talk about it. Even in business negotiations, it is not serious, but there is still nonsense and laughter.

What is not nonsense between husband and wife, cliche between parents and children? It seems that these are not nutritious and can't bring much help to career and future. Even some people feel bored after listening to it, but happiness is hidden in it. How boring life would be without all this nonsense.

When a person who used to have a good relationship with you starts to get tired of your nagging, it's time to think about whether there are any twists and turns in the relationship between two people, except that he may want to be quiet because of pressure or other reasons. He is no longer willing to listen to your "nonsense" and has no omnipresent tolerance for you.

Of course, everyone's nature will be different. Some people like to be quiet, while others like to be lively. It is understandable that quiet people may not want to listen. But a person who loves to talk and is willing to listen will not change easily. If he changes, the relationship will change.

People who have really experienced it will find that there is someone around you who can let you say whatever you want. You don't have to worry about what is wrong or wrong, and you don't have to think about what is nonsense. Don't be afraid to talk too long and delay the rest. This is a kind of full happiness. Nagging is a kind of love, and nonsense is a kind of happiness. The most comfortable relationship is this.

Society is cruel, and everyone's life is very tired. Not everyone is willing to give you time and listen to you; Not all the people in the world have the patience to chat with you. It is not easy to talk to each other, and it is even more extravagant to say "nonsense".

Life needs cost, and people are expected to speak in one step; At work, we should pay attention to efficiency and speak concisely; In interpersonal communication, you need to consider each other's feelings. If you talk too much, someone will get bored, or you will find various excuses to leave, or you will call a spade a spade.

Even brothers and sisters, even close friends around you, can't say everything. They are either afraid that this topic is too sensitive, or that some spit is transmitting negative energy, or that someone will secretly scold them if they say too much, or that they accidentally offend others and ask for trouble.

No one can be smooth sailing, and not everyone has a strong and invincible heart. It is inevitable that you will be upset, depressed, unwilling, sad, sad, depressed and hesitant. It is human nature and natural to want someone to talk to, nag and vent.

However, many times, I rummaged through the address book, but I couldn't find anyone who could really talk to me and listen to me. Even on social media, I am afraid of being said to be melodramatic. So, if you want to say so much, you can only keep it in your heart and bury it in your heart, making yourself more uncomfortable and depressed.

Many people have been asked when life is most comfortable and stress-free. Their answers all say, find a good friend to talk nonsense.

The pressure of adults is always difficult to release. Unlike children, they can cry heartlessly or laugh when no one is around. Different from the elderly, they have such an open mind that they can look down on everything. They have to face the pressure of life from the old to the young.

But every adult has his own fairy tale and childlike innocence in his heart. They also hope that they can concentrate on watching the ants move, watch the sunset in a daze, ride a buffalo and fight, or they can experience the happiness and happiness at that moment without chasing time.

In this era, everything forces adults to seize the time, work hard, study hard and live hard. Indeed, these are all important. If you want to get ahead in your career and succeed, you must strive for the top. In this life, there must always be a place to catch my breath. Having a relationship that you can talk nonsense about is the most comfortable and happy thing.

A thousand dollars is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find. It is very lucky to have a bosom friend in life. Therefore, you don't have to force everyone to feel the same way about you, and you don't have to open your heart to everyone. As long as one person can listen to your nonsense, this life is enough.

The writer Su Qin once said: Happiness is probably finding someone who is willing to listen to your nonsense. Yes, someone can listen to your nonsense, and that person should be someone who values you very much. If you meet such a person, please remember and cherish it.

Whether it's refinement or nonsense, please pay attention to the object. Whenever you want to talk big, remind yourself how many pairs of eyes may be watching you. Maybe no one cares about what you say, or maybe you are snickering.

We don't have that many viewers. Watch your mouth. If you talk too much, you will lose.