How to apologize to your daughter and scold her for crying and apologizing to her?

1 "Don't cry! Hurry up and do your homework! "

"I'll know if you cry again!"

Recently, a mother recorded a video of "Dad reprimanding his daughter" on her mobile phone.

My father made my daughter cry because she dawdled on her homework.

As a result, when I saw my daughter crying all the time and not doing her homework, my father's mood suddenly came up again.

He pointed to his daughter and severely reprimanded him:

"Tear up the book and stop reading!"

"Starting today, don't write!"

"Get up and stand there!"

But the more dad yelled at his daughter, the more she cried.

My brother at home was very anxious after seeing it.

While appeasing the angry father, let him not be angry;

While wiping my sister's tears, let her write quickly so as not to be scolded by her father.

At that time, the home was a mess.

Wait until the next day, the mother showed her father a video of yelling at the child.

Dad watched it alone for a long time.

As a result, the more he watched it, the more guilty he became, and he cried with regret.

Seeing that the father of the child had been blaming himself, the mother called her daughter to comfort her father.

"Dad, don't cry, I will study hard in the future!"

Seeing that his daughter is so sensible, dad blames himself even more for yelling at his children.

He hugged his daughter and apologized to her.

"I'm sorry!"

Finally, after this apology and comfort, the father and daughter made up.

And this video also cried a lot of netizens.

Many people say that they were scolded or even wronged by their parents when they were young, and they never heard their parents apologize.

Yes!

In life, there are really many parents who are unwilling to admit that they have done something wrong in front of their children.

Some parents are embarrassed, while others are afraid of losing their authority. ...

But in fact, psychologist Erica Rachel said:

"Good parents know that apologizing will not weaken their authority as parents. This is a symbol of confidence, integrity and responsibility. "

Parents who know how to apologize to their children are really wise parents.

There is a topic in Weibo: "How do parents apologize to you?"

The answer given by a netizen is: "Come and eat!"

Although there are only five words, it has caused the abuse and discussion of millions of netizens.

The netizen bluntly said that this answer is too true!

I have a deep understanding. My parents' apologies also include: "Why can't this phone connect to WiFi? Please help me! "

Ha ha ha ha, and how to search this TV!

My dad would say, I'll go downstairs and buy some fruit. Do you want to eat oranges?

It can be said that many parents will not apologize directly to their children, but divert their attention to expose things.

Because of this, parents will not lose face and give themselves a step down.

Even sometimes, parents will be "anti-customer-oriented."

"Come out for dinner!"

"Don't eat!"

"Come out for dinner, I have to beg you for dinner at my age!"

You see, in this way, for children, it will instantly become unreasonable.

Parents naturally avoid apologizing to their children.

However, this unique way of apologizing seems to ease the parent-child relationship, but it does not solve the problems between parents and children.

Cover it up!

It may be acceptable for a child to do it once or twice, but if the child is wronged by his parents for a long time and can't get a comfort and apology, then the child will break out one day.

In the program "Teenagers Say", there is a girl who is very distressing.

Her family is a two-child family and has a sister who is six years younger than her.

Because this girl is her sister, every time the two sisters quarrel, she is always the one who is said.

Whether she is right or wrong, dad always supports his sister.

She is very wronged. She didn't do anything wrong. Why should she be scolded?

To this, she stood on the rooftop crying and said to her father:

"Dad, can you try to trust me once!"

But listening to her daughter's story, the father in the audience didn't respond.

Even though he knew that he had wronged his daughter, he didn't say sorry to the child.

On the contrary, I educated my daughter again:

"The story of Kong Rong letting pears, the ancients all know, let the big one let the small one, you are 6 years older than her, is this truth still what Dad said?"

When he said this, the children in the audience were a little fidgety.

Obviously, everyone disagreed with his father's answer.

Obviously, he did something wrong in dealing with his two daughters, but in turn he blamed the children for not being sensible.

It is conceivable how painful it is for a girl to hear her father's heartfelt response.

Even under the mediation and persuasion of the host, the father did not apologize to the girl, but just held his daughter.

We all know that we should apologize for what we did wrong.

This truth is known to children and taught by parents.

But why is it so hard for parents to apologize for doing something wrong to their children?

In a variety show, Huo Siyan and his son, uh-huh, had such a little thing.

Huo Siyan accidentally hit Uh-huh at home, and then she immediately apologized to her son.

I didn't expect uh-huh to take the initiative to say that mom doesn't have to apologize because it's mom.

But Huo Siyan told Mm-hmm:

"Mom should say sorry if she did something wrong."

This conversation between Huo Siyan and his son left a deep impression on me.

"Because you are a mother, you don't have to apologize."

This sentence actually explains the problem at the end of the last paragraph.

Many parents find it difficult to apologize to their children, because children are "parents" and elders, and they don't need to apologize even if they are wrong.

What's more, it is a shame for adults to apologize to their children.

But in fact, this "apology" has never been related to identity or age.

As parents, it is normal to do something wrong in the process of educating children.

Just like "Please answer 1998", Lushan's father apologized to his daughter:

"Mom and dad are sorry for you. Dad is also a father for the first time. I don't know many things. Please be considerate of your daughter. "

No parents are born parents.

In the process of raising children, it is not a shameful thing to handle things improperly.

Parents' timely apology is a respect for children, a reflection on their words and deeds, a touch on children's feelings, and a warming of parent-child relationship.

5 American educator Mrs Steiner said:

"Parents who dare to admit their mistakes and explore new starting points of conversation are far cuter than stubborn and overbearing parents."

The word "sorry" is really not that difficult to say.

Parents who know how to apologize to their children will make them like and respect them more.

Therefore, parents, if in the process of raising their children, it is really that the children have problems and wronged them.

Don't be embarrassed to apologize to your child!

You know, your apology will make your children learn to respect, let your children learn to bear it, and let your relationship go further!

I hope that parents can face up to apologize to their children after reading this article.

Really, it is not difficult to say "I'm sorry"!