Can raising children at home be more tiring than going to work 996?

I vaguely remember reading a short essay written by a primary school student that was posted online. It was about a mother who was taking care of herself and her younger brother at home. After her father came home from get off work, he lost his temper when he saw that the toys he and his younger brother were playing with were messy. He blamed his mother for what he had done at home and why he didn't take care of the children and do the housework well. Take care of your family and blame your mother for not doing anything at home.

The next day, when my father came home from work, he saw that the clothes and dishes were not washed, the toys were even messier, the children were dirty, urine bags were all over the floor, and the TV was turned on too high. Loudly, there is no word to describe the whole house more appropriately than "a mess"... Dad loudly asked Mom: What are you doing at home? Mom said, no, I just didn't do anything.

Coincidentally, I also welcomed my second child this year and became a father again. Because when Dabao was born, he was not able to accompany and take good care of him, but now the second treasure is by his side the whole time. When I was on maternity leave, I witnessed how my wife took care of her family and children.

Because it was a caesarean section, the physical damage was relatively large. She cannot turn over at will, and she needs full care and attention even after she is discharged from the hospital. But she is not alone. She also has a baby that needs to be taken care of by her mother. Later, my health got better, but I had to wake up every two or three hours every night to nurse the baby. I saw my mother dozing off several times, so I could only use it as a backrest to pick up the baby in time and let her have a good rest. Therefore, the mother needs to endure the physical pain and exhaustion but still be strong to take care of the baby. For our fathers who have no "milk", this is far inferior to the mother.

Later, my mother took maternity leave at home, which was similar to the housewife you mentioned. At this time we are faced with another problem, which is how to take care of Dabao. Dabao is 6 years old and has just entered first grade. He doesn’t want to sleep by himself. Because I have to take care of my mother and my second child, I can’t sleep alone with my eldest child. And whether it is the eldest child or the second child, he is closer to his mother. This is something that most families can understand. Children are more willing to listen to their mother's teachings. So, our family of four were all squeezed into one room. Every night, the second baby on my left hand puts the baby to sleep for me, and the right hand starts to teach the eldest baby to talk and sleep, so that he can be more energetic for class the next day.

So, housewives also have a hard time. Her hard work mainly comes from taking care of the family, including taking care of the children, educating the children, tutoring the children with homework, doing laundry, cooking and housework, tidying up the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and also helping to solve her father's worries... During the day, in addition to Dealing with the daily life of the family, and continuing to educate and take care of the children at night, it is basically a busy day in circles. Their work intensity and mental pressure are also very high, which cannot be compared. Therefore, we men understand the hard work of mothers raising children, and we do not have much time, but we should not compare it with work situations.

We are all family members, and we should not be classified as superior or inferior. There should be mutual understanding, unity and harmony.

I am also an IT major, computer science and technology, with a focus on programming. But this is not a professional job at the moment. But I understand the so-called 996 work, comparing work needs and customer needs, working overtime temporarily, and often working overtime due to changes in customer needs.

Although I am not an IT person or a 996 employee, I still work from 9 to 5, but the work is also stressful and has tasks. I would like to ask which job is very relaxing and leisurely? However, I complain to my mother every day when I go home, but I only complain about trivial matters at work, not anyone. This means that we can share our work pressure with our mothers and talk about it every day. This is also a way to release stress, and it can also let mothers know about their work status during the day, which can better promote feelings and husband-wife relationships. Isn’t that what life is all about?

Because if we have emotions in our lives, it will affect our work; similarly, if we have emotions at work, taking them home will also affect our family life.

Through becoming a father again this time, I have truly realized that it is easy to be a father, but it is really not easy to play the role of a good father well. So every time I see mothers talking about how hard it is to take care of children, as a man I won’t say anything back, and I understand psychologically.

I hope our male compatriots can understand every mother! Especially mothers who need support and understanding for their children! ! I hope my sharing can give you more understanding of mothers, especially mothers of their own children.