What is the most terrible thing in marriage?

The most terrible thing in marriage is not cheating, not domestic violence, but that I tried my best and you didn't try.

Marriage is two people fighting side by side. When the husband ignores his wife's contribution and ignores her, such a marriage loses its meaning of existence.

Indifference is the first killer of marriage

Shao is my old friend. She gave birth to a baby last year. She divorced her husband as soon as the child turned one year old. I haven't seen you for more than two years, but I'm a completely different person, looking haggard, as if I were several years older at once.

Husband is younger than blind date, and his career is stable. The key is to be nice to her. Unexpectedly, after marriage, or rather after the birth of the child, the husband began to become more and more indifferent.

After getting pregnant, she quit her job. Since then, her husband has rarely asked about family affairs. Every day after work, she either meets her friends outside or plays with her mobile phone in bed. There is less than one person after the baby is born, which is a bit overwhelming. Her husband seldom helps, and feels that it is enough for him to earn money to support his family. Everything at home is secondary.

The most chilling thing is that once a child had a fever, her husband was out socializing, but he interrupted her on the phone without saying a few words, and even the child couldn't stand it. She was disgusted. Less than wiping tears, a person took a taxi and took the child to the hospital. On the way, he made up his mind to divorce.

Although the child is still so young, she also wants to give the child a complete home. But looking at herself and her effortless husband, she knew that this marriage was hopeless.

Marriage is not a one-man show for women.

The most terrible thing in marriage is not infidelity, but indifference. Indifference will kill all your patience with marriage in the trivial life day after day, until you finally lose hope.

In fact, for most women, when they enter marriage life, especially after having children, they will put most of their energy into their families. Needless to say, housewives, children and marriage are almost everything to them, and those working mothers will also strive to achieve a good balance between family and work.

They try their best to play the roles of mother, wife and daughter-in-law. Especially as mothers, women can always learn new knowledge and grow up quickly.

How many men did it? In our society, career success has always been the standard to measure a man. No one cares whether he is a qualified husband or a conscientious father, so more and more men become shopkeepers at home, and work becomes their best excuse to avoid family responsibilities.

Everything a woman gives in marriage is willing, but it is by no means taken for granted.

In fact, women don't want much. As long as men have more understanding, more companionship and more responsibilities, they can bravely face all challenges in marriage. I'm so scared. It's obviously our home, but in the end it's my one-man show.

A happy marriage should go hand in hand.

A happy marriage must go hand in hand. Maybe some men are not unwilling to take responsibility, but have learned to be lazy under your "pay".

Don't do everything. The reason why many men are becoming more and more indifferent is precisely the "virtuous" of women. Many women do everything by themselves, especially with children, because they are not at ease. After a long time, you are more and more tired, but men are more and more alienated.

You should give men more opportunities to take on family responsibilities instead of doing everything. Pay blindly, can only tire yourself out and spoil each other.

Don't ask too much of men. Trivia in family life is challenging for men, who are impatient and not careful enough. If there is a little problem, women will nag and demand men by their own standards, then men will have no enthusiasm for doing things.

Sometimes women need to be firm, relax their demands on men, criticize less, encourage more, and give men a chance to share with you.

Don't lose yourself for marriage. A man who has no effort in marriage should be condemned, but we don't advocate women to do their best in marriage.

Do your best means that marriage and family become a whole woman, never lose yourself, and leave enough space for yourself after getting married and having children. Or seek a sense of accomplishment at work, or exercise, study, nourish, and always maintain your "single strength", which at least gives yourself the courage to say "no" to marriage.