What do smart parents do when their children's toys are robbed?

In the face of children's toys being taken away by other children, many parents will say to their children, "It's okay, let him play for a while and I'll give it back to you." Is this absolutely the right thing to do? As a parent, do you really feel the child's mood at this time?

I met it when I was a kid. I really appreciate it. Only she knows how much I like that toy, and only she knows how sad I will be when my favorite toy is taken away by others. After my toy was robbed, my father yelled at me: Never mind, my sister likes this toy. Give it to my sister and I'll buy you a new one later.

I've been clinging to toys. I am very wronged. I didn't know what to do at that time. I sleep with a toy every day. I really like it, but my father told me to let go.

At this moment, my mother appeared. When she saw my favorite toy in my hand, she came over and took it from my sister and told her, "This toy is my sister's favorite toy. I can't give it to you. My aunt will buy you a new one if you like. " My mother guarded my young and helpless heart. I have always remembered this, and I am very grateful to my mother.

Correctly handling this matter has a great influence on the growth of children. If even the parents who love themselves most are "partial" to other children, children will distrust their parents more and more, resulting in insecurity. If our parents often do this, our children will become more and more irritable and less confident. How to properly handle children's competition for toys?

Ask questions to children

"Who is the toy in your hand?" Ask the child this way, let the child have an understanding of the "ownership" of the item, and let the child know that the item is his own. We adults can make our children feel that we agree that the "ownership" of items belongs to him, thus making him feel happy and letting them voluntarily share their toys with others.

Maintain children's self-esteem and then guide them.

"Well, this toy belongs to you. You can choose to share it with others or not. Then if others want to play with your toys, they must ask you first. If you agree to lend it to him, he can take your toy. So are you. If you really want to play with other children's toys, you should ask his advice first. You can take away his toys only if he agrees to share them with you. "

Leave the decision to the children.

Parents must not force their children to share their toys when they refuse to share them with others. They should respect their choices. Just like when I was a child, I didn't want to give my sister toys. My mother told my sister that she liked this toy very much and she was reluctant to give it to others. I can buy you a new one if you want.

But you can't have this. This solved the need to continue to compete for toys, protected my self-esteem, and let me know that I have the right to decide my own toys.

What can we do if this toy belongs to public toys?

We can follow the principle of "first come, first served". Ask the child, "Who played with this toy first?" If your child plays with this toy first, then your child has priority, and then the children behind will have to wait! We must emphasize the principle of "first come, first served". Let children know that following the rules can better share toys together. At the same time, it also makes children feel respected.

Parents should pay attention to some children who are robbed of toys but are indifferent.

Some children are indifferent to their toys being taken away by others. Many times, it is because these children lack the awareness of "ownership" of their own property, have a weak understanding of "owners" and don't know how to deal with others encroaching on their property. If you have such children at home, you should pay attention. "

How to cultivate children's self-awareness? We can make room for our children at home, let them put everything in this place, and tell them that what is here belongs to you, and you can choose to share it with others. If you don't want to share your belongings with others, you can say it out loud. When we have some family meetings at home, we can also ask our children to talk about their views. Parents should also listen to their children's suggestions patiently and respect their ideas.

Let children know that they are "little masters" at home and have the right to decide their own affairs. So as to enhance his awareness of "ownership" of goods and improve children's sense of responsibility and self-awareness.

Facing the problem of children's toys being robbed, as parents, the most important task is to guide their children, let them solve the problem by themselves, and let them learn how to deal with such incidents. While dealing with such problems, children can also greatly improve their communication skills and lay a solid foundation for the future.