How to break the isolation between colleagues?

In the workplace, it is almost impossible for you to satisfy everyone.

Because people are complicated, those who show respect to you may stab you in the back!

I have encountered such an example.

At the beginning, there was a new colleague about my age. Because he is unfamiliar with the company, I took the initiative to help him do a lot of things out of kindness.

But once I was wronged by a person who went to the leader. It took a long time to know that it was this new colleague who led the snitch!

I couldn't figure it out, so I asked him about it. I am so good to you, why did you lie to me like this?

At first he refused to admit it, but later he couldn't refute it. He said, I did it because I think you are better than me and I am jealous of you.

This incident really touched me and made me understand that being kind to others can't be exchanged for being kind to you.

Therefore, no matter how good a person is, it is impossible to be a perfect person in everyone's mind. In fact, you just need to be yourself, have a clear conscience and be worthy of yourself.

It really doesn't matter how others look at you and treat you.

Second, the people who "crowd out" you may also be people who promote your growth.

Sometimes, you feel that a leader or a colleague is always targeting you, even if you do a good job, but also critical of you.

What would you think in this situation?

I think you can understand the starting point of the other party's doing this, or whether the content of nitpicking is reasonable or not, and whether it can make your work better.

Because people have different styles, especially leadership and strictness. The way he hopes to help you grow up may be the so-called "crowding out" you and forcing you to work harder.

My old leader is like this. He is always used to being very strict with his subordinates. If you don't take a report seriously, you will immediately return it and rewrite it. But he won't be unreasonable. He will always tell you what you did wrong and convince you.

To tell the truth, at first, I was not used to this management method. I feel that the leaders don't like me very much, and they deliberately embarrass people. But after a period of time, I gradually realized that many things criticized by the leader were very reasonable, and I also made real progress, which was reflected bit by bit in his abuse.

Obviously, don't think that criticizing you and saying that you are not good is "crowding out" you. You need rational analysis and treatment. As long as it is conducive to your growth, then such "crowding out" can be as good as possible.

Third, your efforts are for yourself, not for others.

The friend who asked the question said that no matter how hard he tried, someone always squeezed himself out, so he felt very depressed.

My mood is understandable, but I want to ask: are you working so hard to show others or to work hard for yourself?

If you don't understand this problem and say a few bad words, others will deny your efforts, then I think you are too blx!

If you work hard, others can influence your salary increase and promotion, but what can't affect you is the growth of your ability and personal experience.

All your efforts will be rewarded at some point in the future. Therefore, the beneficiary is not others, but yourself.

No matter what purpose others crowd you out, if you are depressed and are very concerned about negative comments affecting your motivation, aren't you in love with others?