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Only after I got married did I know that there was a mother-in-law who loved no one but herself. what do you think?

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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really important in marriage.

Even sometimes, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can determine the quality of marriage itself, because in life, there are not a few divorces because of the disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Therefore, in marriage, we should understand one thing: don't expect too much from a certain relationship, especially the mother-in-law, or you will get hurt in the end.

I know a sister who told me her story. Because she was such a person in her marriage, she was depressed in the end, and she felt that her efforts were in vain.

Before getting married, the elder sister's understanding of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law came from her aunt and mother. Her sister-in-law was married in the past, and their family treated her well.

My mother always said that if you marry someone so far away, you can't let others be wronged. Her mother said so and did the same.

Fortunately, my sister-in-law is also a kind-hearted person, so she has been married for many years and has a good family relationship.

This makes her feel that there is no routine for her mother-in-law to get along with her daughter-in-law. It is very simple, that is, the word sincerely is enough. You are good to me, and I am naturally good to you.

Until later, she met a mother-in-law who could act.

Why do you say her mother-in-law can act? Because before marriage and after marriage are completely different, before marriage, she went to her mother-in-law's house, and her mother-in-law was very enthusiastic. She also said that she had no daughter and would definitely treat her as her own daughter in the future.

On the surface, her mother-in-law's words and deeds are impeccable. She is glad that she met such a good mother-in-law and has more confidence in marriage.

She is the kind of person who has always believed in love. She thinks that when two people are together, it is most important to have each other in mind. So when they got married, Rao felt that it didn't matter if her husband didn't have a room.

After marriage, they continued to live in a rented house. Her mother-in-law and father-in-law live in their own house, which is relatively small and has been bought for many years. She asked her boyfriend why he didn't live with his parents.

Her boyfriend's answer is: "It's quieter to live alone."

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Just like many girls, in fact, as long as they can see hope, they are not afraid to suffer temporarily.

Before getting married, her boyfriend promised her that they would have their own house in two years. Later, he did the same. They have been married for more than seven years, and she never regrets marrying him.

However, whenever she talks about her mother-in-law, she can only shake her head.

Because before that, she always wanted to work hard to repair the relationship between her husband and her mother-in-law. In fact, the first time she went to her mother-in-law's house, she felt her husband's alienation from her mother-in-law.

That kind of alienation is similar to a courtesy between strangers, at least she won't be so polite when talking to her mother.

Later, they got married, and all the expenses were paid by her husband alone, and his parents didn't help at all.

To tell the truth, she said it was different from what she had always seen. How is it possible that my son gets married and my parents don't help at all?

But when she thought that her mother-in-law said that the conditions at home were not good, she was relieved, probably because they couldn't help. So, when she is married, she will also help save money. As she said, spending his money hard doesn't mean spending her own money.

Fortunately, her parents are also more open-minded and don't ask much. They just told her, "You will be happy in the future. Choose a good candidate, nothing else matters. "

After getting married, she also learned from some details that her mother-in-law is not the kind of mother-in-law she used to think.

The man who said before marriage that he regarded her as his daughter began to haggle with her after marriage.

In short, her mother-in-law is here, and she especially likes to be greedy for "petty gain". Once, she went shopping with her mother-in-law and borrowed 10 yuan. Later, her mother-in-law asked her to return it.

This behavior surprised her, because she didn't spend less money on her mother-in-law. As long as they go out together, most of her mother-in-law's things are her money.

To return 10 yuan asked her to rethink the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

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If these trivial things just make her wonder at ordinary times, then when giving birth to a child, she will see her mother-in-law thoroughly.

Originally, she was puzzled by her mother-in-law's haggle over every ounce: after marriage, she found that her mother-in-law was not the kind of thrifty person, and she was generous to herself, saving investment, and sometimes she said that she was dressed in a bit rustic.

Reminiscent of the previous situation, when their married mother-in-law had nothing to do, she inevitably began to question her mother-in-law's "poor family conditions", and her mother-in-law's conditions were much better than she thought.

She asked her husband, and he only replied, "She is that kind of person."

Her husband is a man of few words and doesn't like to talk about people behind their backs. She just knows his temper, so she has been forbearing to ask. It's just that she clearly saw that her husband and mother-in-law had a bad relationship.

She also advised him that there can be any obstacles between mother and child, just relax.

Later, she gave birth to a child. It stands to reason that grandma should like her grandson very much. Actually, it's not. Even when she was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law didn't help her hold the child, saying that her shoes were too high and it was difficult to walk with her child.

When she was born, everyone said that the child was cute. Her mother-in-law suddenly said, "This one looks like you. I don't know if it will look better when I grow up? "

It's no good letting the mother-in-law take care of the children.

She thinks the child's crying is very noisy. Give your child to your mother-in-law if you have nothing to do. Her mother-in-law heard the child crying badly and told her to take the child away, and then she stopped going.

Not to mention the mother-in-law who is taking care of the confinement. Thanks to her mother. My mother-in-law is always very busy and has her own business every day. In the final analysis, it is nothing more than dancing, playing badminton and traveling.

Later, I learned that my mother-in-law has two shops that charge rent, and my father-in-law also has a retirement salary, and her monthly income is not low. Then she remembered her mother-in-law's "bad conditions" and felt a little unhappy.

Then, her husband noticed and told her what the phrase "she is such a person" meant.

He said his mother has always been like this. When he was a child, it was common for him to study, go home hungry and go to school hungry. Nobody answered the door, and he later chose to live on campus.

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Even once, my husband had a fever in the middle of the night, and his mother didn't know. Because I didn't come back, I finally went to the hospital myself. At that time, he was still in primary school.

To put it bluntly, mother-in-law is the kind of person who only cares about herself. She has always been like this, but at the same time she feels that it is natural for her children to be filial to themselves when they grow up.

So, my mother-in-law wants to spend their money.

She said, "I didn't know until I got married that there is a kind of mother-in-law who loves no one but herself and will not show mercy to her son."

After hearing her husband's reasons, she said that she was no longer committed to repairing their mother-child relationship. She said a lot in front of her husband.

Some people are naturally calm. If you want to get warmth from such a person, you may just hope that the greater the disappointment.

So, just live your own life and don't expect some unnecessary relationships too much. Originally, she always wanted to get along well with her mother-in-law, and also thought that one day her mother-in-law could see her own goodness.

In fact, it is just wishful thinking, because the other party has no such idea at all. Perhaps, she also thinks that her idea is correct.

Be yourself, don't deliberately embarrass yourself, don't deliberately criticize, and let the rest go. In fact, for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is already the best state.