Half life has passed, I can see through people and hearts.

Life is like a train, sometimes it speeds and sometimes it stops suddenly.

No one knows which will come first, tomorrow or the accident.

A sudden epidemic has pressed the pause button on busy life -

The plans that were made were wasted; the place I wanted to go cannot be reached. ;The person I want to see can't be seen...

The moon waxes and wanes, and people have joys and sorrows.

Then I gradually realized that the sooner we know these three truths of life, the better.

Life is about mentality

Samuel said: "The world is like a mirror, frowning at it, it also It frowns at you; smiles at it, and it smiles at you."

Everything in the world has its give and take.

If you take it lightly, you will naturally be unfazed and smile at the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court.

But if you keep it in mind, you will inevitably disturb yourself and add some troubles.

It is said that the famous Chinese painter Yu Zhonglin is good at painting peonies.

Once, with a stroke of his pen, he drew a lifelike "Peony Picture".

After a businessman saw it, he immediately bought it back at a high price and hung it proudly in the living room.

The businessman thought that this masterpiece would be praised by others, but when someone saw it, they shouted: "It's unlucky!"

The businessman was puzzled.

The man said:

When the businessman heard this, he immediately felt that he had made the wrong purchase and was in panic all day long.

After tossing and turning, he tried every possible means to find Yu Zhonglin and asked for a new painting.

After hearing the reason, Yu Zhonglin laughed.

He took up his pen and wrote four big characters in the blank space on the upper left side of the painting: "Boundless wealth."

He explained: "Peony represents wealth. If one side is missing, isn't it? 'Boundless wealth'?"

The businessman suddenly turned from worry to joy, and took the painting back happily.

In fact, the painting has not changed, what has changed is people’s mentality.

The mentality is different, the perspective changes, and the situation also changes.

Just like facing a half bottle of wine, different people will have different reactions when they see it.

Pessimistic people will spread their hands, stamp their feet, and sigh: "Oh, there is only half a bottle left!"

But optimistic people will be happy when they see it. Clap your hands: "That's great! There's still half of it left!"

In fact, how can life always be smooth sailing and without any ups and downs?

The key is to deal with your own mentality.

The Indian philosophy master Osho once said: "A rose is a rose, a lotus is a lotus, just look at it, don't compare."

If we always think about going with others When you compare, you will feel that this is not enough and that is not good. Even if there is a broad road ahead, you will still be as frightened as if you were crossing a single-plank bridge.

And if we learn to look at everything with a normal heart, be more optimistic and open-minded, then even a small flower can make us feel the spring in the sky.

How should life be like walking on snow and mud? Why not relax your mind and move forward in style?

Relationships require peace of mind

There is a saying: "In relationships, heartbeat can make you fall in love with someone, but peace of mind can make you love someone."

A truly long-lasting and fresh relationship requires peace of mind.

Just like Lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng, once they hold hands, they will never be separated again.

However, Liao Cuifeng was not Lin Yutang's first love.

When he was 17 years old, Lin Yutang fell in love with his classmate's sister, Chen Jinduan.

Lin Yutang fell in love with her when he first saw her. Miss Jinduan was "extraordinarily beautiful".

However, because Chen Jinduan's father was a wealthy businessman in Xiamen, while Lin Yutang's family was in a poor financial situation and was not from the right family, Lin Yutang was eventually introduced to the girl next door to the Chen family - Liao Cuifeng.

At that time, Liao Cuifeng's parents were also firmly opposed, but Liao Cuifeng said firmly: "What are you afraid of being poor? What I love is his talent and his people. I am not afraid of his poverty."

Lin Yutang was grateful that the girl did not dislike his poverty, so he burned the marriage certificate on the wedding day.

He said decisively: "The marriage certificate is for divorce, we don't need it."

In the days to come, if the two of them had a quarrel, Lin Yutang would always step forward and gently Pinch your wife's nose and say a few humorous words.

The words he often talks about are:

The two of them have always been in love with each other.

Even later, Chen Jinduan still maintained contact with Lin Yutang's family, but Liao Cuifeng, who was at ease, could not take it seriously.

She could even talk about Lin Yutang's love story in front of her children.

There is a classic line in the movie "Actually He Doesn't Like You That That":

A truly beautiful relationship will never make you fearful all day, let alone make you It's like walking on thin ice.

On the contrary, people who love you will take care of your emotions, understand your feelings, and give you full love and warmth.

When you are sick, he will stay with you, pour you hot water and give you soup.

When you are angry, he will tell you jokes, apologize to you, and put a smile back on your face.

When you are sad, he will give you broad shoulders and give you someone to rely on.

Hold your hand and grow old together with your son.

A good relationship will give your wandering heart a harbor to anchor in.

What people live is their state of mind

"Cai Gen Tan" says: "This heart always sees perfection, and the world will have no flaws; this heart will always be relaxed, and the world will be free. There are no dangerous favors. ”

This sentence means that if your heart is always peaceful and complete, the world will not be incomplete; if your heart is always peaceful and open-minded, the world will be less. Insidious and deceitful.

In a word, what kind of world we have depends on what kind of state of mind we have.

There is such a fable.

There once was a person who would get angry with others no matter what happened, and he would be unhappy all day long.

When others cared about him, they asked him, "Why are you angry?"

He frowned, sighed and said, "Others bully me, but I can't do it. Revenge, so I feel troubled.

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After hearing this, the man told him that there was a way to help him get revenge on others.

After hearing this, the man decided to learn this method at all costs. , to deal with others.

The result can be imagined, even if he finally takes revenge on others, he will still live unhappy after all.

In fact, there are many people in life who are not happy. Are you repeating this person's mistake?

You know that anger will hurt your liver, but you still want to get angry; you know that sadness will hurt your body, but you still sigh at every turn.

In the end. , Lost the sesame seeds, lost the watermelons.

There is a saying: "In life, there is as much pain as there are cares; there is as much joy as there is tolerance." ”

Nine times out of ten things will not go as planned.

If we always cannot see through, forget, and let go of the past, it will be difficult for us to feel relaxed and comfortable.

On the contrary, if we are more tolerant, more humble, and leave some room for others, our world will be much broader.

Hanshan asked Shide and said: "There are people in the world who slander me. , bully me, insult me, laugh at me, underestimate me, belittle me, hate me, lie to me, how to deal with it? "

Shide listened and said calmly: "Just tolerate him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, wait for a few more years and you can see him. ”

Why should we hold grudges and repay injustice?

Right and wrong have their own merits, and justice lies in the heart of the people.

When our hearts are broad, the world will naturally be bigger.

Life seems to be a long time, but it is actually very short.

There is no time to do what you should do; you should love. People who haven’t loved well yet

Instead of spending time on unworthy people and things, why not look at it, think about it, and empathize with others?

"If The past events are all forgotten, and my heart is selfless and wide-open. ”

What really determines how we live in this life actually depends on ourselves.

Take a broad view of life; be more attentive to feelings; take a light view of life.

Let the rest of your life love with all your heart and live well.