College Students Share 20 Common Social Hidden Rules

College Students Share 20 Common Social Hidden Rules

Social hidden rules

1. Restrain negative emotions.

Starting from this common sense, the negative emotions of others are actually far greater than what you feel. In other words, you feel that others are impatient with you 1, and the real level should be 10. Other emotions are the same.

2. A request without response is a refusal.

Like one of my classmates, he borrowed money from his friends to sell his house. After my classmate sent WeChat, his friend ignored him.

Later, my classmate thought that the other party didn't receive it, called to send WeChat, and chased it three times, but the other party didn't respond. Without an answer, isn't it an answer in itself?

Don't be too proud when others praise you.

Life as a whole is conservative. How many people praise you, how many people scold you, or line up to see your jokes.

Don't be complacent, you never know when you will fall. At the same time, don't care too much about others laughing at you. The best response to them is your grades.

4. "Can boast" is an advanced productive force.

If you don't want to praise people in person, you can praise people behind their backs, and praise will reach your ears sooner or later. Don't always stare at the obvious advantages when boasting, because the other party is tired of boasting.

Don't generalize, pay attention to details, be informative and vivid.

5. Don't ask simple questions.

Many times, it's not that others don't like talking to you, but that you didn't ask about nutrition or knowledge preparation beforehand, which is also offensive to others.

Nobody likes to listen to criticism. If he says he likes it, he is lying. Among them, the criticism of others' physiology, personality, family, work values and spiritual level is the criticism that hits the core directly.

If you don't mean to make friends, you'd better not talk nonsense.

7. Treat people with sincerity, because sincerity itself can solve many problems.

Especially if something goes wrong, communicate in time. Don't wait until things can't be cleaned up, then cover them up with lies.

Lying can definitely ruin all good feelings directly.

8. Remember other people's names in time, because no one will think he is insignificant.

Many people say that they can't remember other people's names, but that's just because you think the other person is not important.

However, no one will think that they should not be respected.

9. Make an appointment on time.

Even if you are not on time, don't lie. You said "be there in five minutes", but there is still half an hour.

10, you must be wary of those who "have nothing to do, just want to talk to you". I haven't contacted you for several years, but people who talk for half an hour usually come to you for business. In this case, don't worry about face, do what you can, and don't do it if you can't.

1 1. It is strongly recommended to abandon useless social interaction. You can't do it. It's no use knowing anyone. If you are not strong yourself, a lot of socializing is actually useless.

If you can't create value or potential value for others, how can others know that you are looking for opportunities in others?

12. Hard-working relationships are ultimately thankless.

In the past, someone added a leader to an alumni group. Since then, he has been asking questions from the leader every day. When it was cold, he was reminded to add clothes, and when it rained, he was reminded to bring an umbrella ... Later, the leader directly deleted this person and mentioned this person at a dinner party without contempt: Young people have energy, so it is better to do something serious, and don't always want to take crooked ways.

13, don't over-show the details of your life and keep it mysterious, which is the only way to add charm.

If you get too close and show too many details, you will lose too much mystery and lose your charm.

14, learn etiquette!

The more people you meet, the more you find that many people don't even have basic manners. In fact, if you say "Hello, excuse me, thank you ...", even if you can't get extra points for socializing, you will never lose points.

15, keep a fidgety state and you will be very comfortable.

What is irritability? When someone touches your bottom line or makes you uncomfortable, you have to express it or fight back. Many times, you don't have to endure it all the time. Protest when it is time to protest, and fight back when it is time to fight back. People know that you are not easy to bully, so they won't bully you.

16, stay away from the little people

There is a saying in "A Generation of Masters": if you can't be good and smart, you are a villain and can't tolerate people. You must stay away from such people. Because it doesn't matter if your life is bad. If you have a good life, he will try his best to cheat you and spread bad words about you.

17. Try to keep balance when socializing.

Don't deliberately ignore anyone, because some people are really fragile and sensitive, and we still have to take care of others' emotions.

After all, socializing is to strengthen interpersonal relationships, and there is no need to offend people because of small negligence.

18, don't care too much about strangers' eyes.

Too concerned about whether you make a fool of yourself, whether you look very rustic, and often your inner strength is not strong. In fact, you don't have to mind the stranger's eyes too much, because you don't know anyone anyway, and no one will feel embarrassed except yourself after 3 minutes.

19. People of any character are worth interacting with.

Some people like people who are extroverted and self-aware, but their spiritual space is limited. Passionate and self-aware, feelings will not last long. However, those who are difficult to get into their hearts and look introverted are more likely to have lasting friendship.

It's normal to lose a relationship, especially the faster you grow up, the easier it is for you to get rid of the old one.

The best interpersonal relationship should be constructive, that is to say, two people have the same values and codes of conduct, are more comfortable together, and can urge each other to grow. The pace of both sides should be roughly the same.

From this point of view, don't try to save a failed relationship, because there will always be people who can't keep up with you.