Why should we learn to be grateful? How can we learn to be grateful?

What you pay is love, patience and education. Children will know how to be grateful, not only to you, but to anyone and anything worthy of gratitude. He learned the ability to be grateful.

What you pay is to be a cow and a horse. If you are obedient, the child will feel that everything he gets is deserved. Once you are unable to repay, he will feel that you owe him, let alone appreciate it.

I only like noodles. In order to make me eat, you cook in person every day and make yourself half dead, but you never give me a bite to eat. Is that why I should thank you? One is that I lend you 10 thousand yuan. I said that I am affectionate and righteous every day. I said I had given myself to you. You should thank me. I take you for granted, even I take you endlessly. As soon as you resisted, I said, I am good to you, and I have paid for you. I borrowed money from you, so I tortured you repeatedly. How can I be grateful? No one wants to be so grateful.

The thing about gratitude is this. You can say that I gave you a loan of 10 thousand yuan, but you have to pay me back later. Just give others a good idea, and then live your life in the future. Don't give others a sense of debt. When he is capable, he will repay you as he wishes. He may pay you back 5000 when he is poor and 30000 when he is rich, and then you will be fine. This is a kind gratitude.

And I lend you 10 thousand, and I talk about my kindness to you every day, and then I ask you for everything. This is called leveraged trading. You want to be small and broad, you want to do business, and you want to pawn it in the name of gratitude. . It's hypocritical and disgusting to set up a memorial arch and expect others to thank you. Ask yourself why. According to this example, I once gave you a bowl of rice, and now I want your life because you have to thank me. Is this gratitude? This is a robbery by robbers.

Another is to give him whatever he wants when you are young. He wants a toy car today and a pair of sneakers tomorrow. You are satisfied with whatever he wants. He lost his gratitude for material satisfaction in satisfaction again and again, and then he took it for granted more and more, so he won't be grateful in the end.

In this case, a typical boyfriend and girlfriend who just live together will be surprised and moved by one party when they start cleaning, so the problem comes at this time. If one party does housework, and then the other party is surprised, she or he says, honey, you see that I am so great that I have cleaned the house. Should you invite me, too Then the other person said, honey, on the one hand, he paid for cooking, which means he didn't get it for nothing, but he got it for something, so his desire won't be taken for granted. After eating, they thanked each other. This is a virtuous circle of gratitude, but if one party finishes housework, the other party is pleasantly surprised to say, dear, you have worked hard, and then there is no more. You don't mind, and you don't care if he comes back. It doesn't matter if you say no when he wants to repay, and then the next time you do housework, his gratitude surprise will be less than 50%. Because you just gave and didn't say it, his gratitude value became zero, and then there was no gratitude later.

Why didn't he feel grateful in the back, because you didn't let him participate and pay. Only when one person paid, he would remember it deeply. Then he would pay with him, and he would think that you also paid, and then connect them point by point to form a warm memory. Cumulatively, gratitude moves around in his heart, because what a person remembers most is his own things, those things that make people feel painful. Although it is not necessarily real pain, it is definitely more memorable than getting it. When your pain value equals to gain, you will have inner balance, you will be comfortable and you will be grateful. When the pain you pay exceeds the pleasure you get, you will feel that others owe you more and you will feel hurt. When you get more and pay less, and you attack yourself without guilt for logical consistency, it is natural. These are all mine. Why should I be grateful? Why should I think I owe someone else?