How to understand putting yourself in others' shoes?

In life, everyone has been flushed and embarrassed. At this time, we might as well put ourselves in other people's shoes. What should we do when others are embarrassed? (1) Don't laugh and mock, and try to be used to it.

It is extremely impolite to laugh when others make a fool of themselves, which can also be said to be an insult to others. Although you don't have any malicious sarcasm when you laugh, others will think it is a mockery of making a fool of yourself and feel insulted. In the United States, such a thing happened: at a solemn and solemn wedding, the bride suddenly farted loudly, and the guests burst into laughter. The bride was ashamed and annoyed, and suddenly died of a heart attack. In daily life, it is common to accidentally fall down on the road, say something wrong in public, or the button of clothes suddenly collapses, etc. We should try our best not to be surprised, so as to give people a step and let them step down with dignity.

(2) Don't look on coldly and try your best to help out

Embarrassing things always come out of the blue. No matter whether you are strangers or close friends, you should try your best to lend a helping hand to help others out when they are suddenly in an embarrassing situation.

Colleague Mr. Wang quarreled with his lover the other day, and just made up this morning. I don't know where I heard that her daughter was wronged, but her mother-in-law angrily went to school to talk with her son-in-law early in the morning. Seeing this scene, I quickly said, "Aunt, why didn't you meet your daughter when you came?" She said that she would go to the market to buy a suit material for Mr. Wang and buy some meat to invite your family to eat jiaozi! " Other teachers echoed, and when the old lady heard that her daughter and son-in-law had made up, she was too embarrassed to make any more trouble and left happily. Afterwards, Teacher Wang really invited her mother-in-law to eat jiaozi, and even dragged me on and said that she would thank me well! Therefore, if you can help or explain to others, you should try your best to help them get out of the dilemma, and don't watch the fun and laugh.

(3) If you can't help, turn a blind eye

On some occasions, if others are embarrassed, you may not be able to help, so turning a blind eye is the most appropriate and acceptable attitude when facing others' embarrassment.

Alin takes Xiao Wang to his company. After seeing them, Alin's boss blamed Alin for his work and flew into a rage at him. In front of his friends, Alin felt very embarrassed, but he was afraid to contradict his angry boss for a while. Seeing this, Xiao Wang walked away silently. When he came back later, his boss had accepted Alin's explanation and apologized to them for his gaffe just now. When others are embarrassed, if it is really inconvenient for you to interrupt to help them out, then the best way is to turn a blind eye like Xiao Wang and leave temporarily so that he can deal with these accidents without any worries and be calm about his embarrassment.

(4) If it's because of you, please be tolerant.

At a family dinner, Ah Hong kept complaining that the salad fish balls were not delicious: "If only my aunt could cook them. She is very famous for cooking this dish." My aunt smiled beside me. The younger brother took a white look at Ah Hong: "This dish was specially made for you by my aunt today." Hong was so frightened that she knew that she had spoken carelessly, and at that time she didn't know how to explain it, and her face suddenly turned red. Aunt smiled and said to Ah Hong, "Don't be embarrassed! It's a fact that this dish is not good. I put sugar as salt, and my aunt will do it again tomorrow, so that you can taste it and make suggestions to make my craft more famous. "

This kind of thing often happens in your life, and others will feel ashamed because they hurt you unintentionally, so you might as well be tolerant with appropriate words. I once greeted a salesgirl with short hair as a salesman in a shop. When she turned around, I found that she was clearly a lady with black eyebrows and red lips. Seeing my embarrassment, the young lady jokingly said, "Tomorrow, it seems that I have to wear a skirt to work, otherwise I'm afraid even my boyfriend won't recognize me from behind." A little joke showed her understanding and humor, and also made my embarrassment disappear.

(5) Don't spread it afterwards, and don't make the embarrassment worse. It's immoral to spread other people's embarrassing things around as stories and jokes.

China people pay special attention to face, and the less people know about their embarrassing things, the better. If you don't pay attention in this respect, you will probably attract others' disgust.

A Feng told his colleagues cheerfully when he arrived at the company in the morning that Xiao Li of our company broke up with his girlfriend yesterday and was humiliated by his girlfriend's mother. After Xiao Li came to work, everyone played a joke on Xiao Li with laughter. Xiao Li was very unhappy, but said nothing. The next day, when the company had a meeting, Xiao Li just arrived at the meeting room, when he heard A Feng telling everyone about how Xiao Li's girlfriend's mother was doing wrong, Xiao Li's face fell and left, and a pair of good friends turned against each other.

A Feng's fault reminds us how to deal with other people's embarrassing things. That is: "No matter whether there are teasing factors or not, don't spread the ugliness he once made at will. This is a respect for others.