Why is the divorce rate of migrant workers so high?

From the topic analysis, "getting higher and higher" means that it used to be very low and now it is very high, but it is understood that the divorce rate in rural areas is far less than that in cities. To ask why it is getting higher and higher, I summarized it by collecting examples around me, mainly in the following four aspects:

One is caused by economic pressure.

At present, the bride price of young people in rural areas remains high, and the price has risen year after year, ranging from 65,438+10,000 yuan to more than 300,000 yuan. This does not include the commercial housing purchased in the county or market town for children's marriage. The expenditure on purchasing commercial housing to decorate the wedding room has exceeded 500,000, and there is also a wedding car, which is normally around 654.38+ 10,000.

There is a great contrast between such high marriage consumption and rural income at this stage, which far exceeds the affordability of ordinary families. A survey shows that the total debt ratio of an ordinary farmer after his wedding is over 60%, and few families do not borrow money.

This leads to the "two worlds" before and after marriage. Before marriage, the man is more fond of the woman, generous and super-paid. After marriage, the couple felt lost, as if they had been cheated, because they lived in poverty and their desires were not satisfied. In addition, in order to repay the foreign debt, the family members are emotionally unstable and often quarrel and get angry. Over time, the cracks deepened and eventually broke.

The second is caused by lack of emotion.

In order to solve the huge economic deficit caused by marriage, the man had to bid farewell to his wife and family and go out to work to earn money. Some of them rarely meet once or twice a year, and some simply don't meet for a year or two, in order to earn more money and pay off their debts as soon as possible. Some daughters-in-law are unwilling to go out to work with their husbands and suffer hardships, resulting in a long-term separation between husband and wife. The feelings originally linked by money are already very fragile. Coupled with the long-term separation, the relationship is like a passerby, and the feelings are getting colder and colder. Finally, they had to go their separate ways.

The third is caused by an affair.

With the development of social economy, rural families now attach great importance to their children's education, study and employment. They have a strong desire to "make their children grow up" and "make their daughters grow up", so they buy a house in a county, city or market town to facilitate their children's school needs. In order to ensure the increasing family living expenses, men work outside for many years, leaving only their wives to accompany their children full-time. In my spare time, I gradually participated in some group activities in the city, met many different faces outside my family, broadened my horizons and fundamentally changed my concept. Coupled with the separation of husband and wife and lack of communication, someone needs to fill the "blank" of feelings. Over time, it developed into an emotional mutation, derailed others, and was about to get divorced.

Fourth, it is caused by traditional ideas.

Due to the remoteness of rural areas, backward traffic, lack of information and education, the feudal idea of "carrying on the family line" has existed for a long time. Some family elders stick to the old rules and seriously prefer sons to daughters, interfere excessively with their children's marriage life and criticize their daughter-in-law's concept of fertility. Once they can't have boys, they will blame each other and make a fuss about the relationship between husband and wife, which will lead to family conflicts and make it difficult for the children's marriage to merge and move forward.