I'm almost in the fourth grade, only to find that marriage is a watershed in my life. Do you think so?

Tell me about my friend. Looking at them, I found that the biggest opportunity and pit in life is actually marriage. Happy marriage, even if there is no surplus food at home, the days are still warm. Marriage is not good, who does not fall into the mire and struggle of half-life.

Xiaoling is my neighbor. We grew up together.

Xiaoling married Li Choi Wha before I graduated from college. Li Choi Wha's family conditions are not bad. My uncle has several chain stores, but he has no children. So, he took Li Choi Wha as his son, got married, took money, gave him part of his business, and supported him all the way.

Xiaoling lived with her mother-in-law after she got married, and soon the child was born.

However, new contradictions have also emerged. Li Yu always likes to go out with friends, eat and drink, and go to karaoke after eating and drinking. Sometimes, he also plays some e-sports games and mahjong. If this set comes down, he may not be able to go home for two days.

Xiaoling can't understand, and smoking, staying up late and gambling are not good things, so she spares no effort to pull her husband home. Mother-in-law also thinks it is good to change Li Choi Wha's bad habits. However, Xiaoling's words are fierce and unreasonable. Moreover, she wants to decide everything by herself and let her family revolve around her. She has a bad temper.

One to two, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are contradictory, and the mother-in-law gives up. You can do anything you like.

A few years later, Li Choi Wha's unruly and rebellious nature was also exposed. Xiaoling said, he didn't listen at all. Sometimes, he would laugh at Xiaoling's madness, so his words became worse and worse, and his feelings became more and more indifferent. Three days of small quarrels, five days of big quarrels, Li Choi Wha's mouth is slow, and bickering always suffers. However, it is common to start work.

Xiaoling also thought about divorce. However, she hasn't gone out to work all these years, and her family has been counting on my uncle's business to live. Now, Li Choi Wha seems to have a new idea. She can get back a little living expenses every month. Two people have no property, and the house belongs to her mother-in-law. After the divorce, she will get nothing and may lose custody of her children.

Xiaoling said, let's live like this. It's the same as divorce If you can't go on, then talk about it.

02

Nana, our monitor, was beautiful and got good grades. However, the conditions at home are average, and there is a younger brother studying. So, her parents sent her to a normal school. After graduating at the age of 20, she returned to her hometown and became a primary school teacher.

At the age of 20, it seems that it is time for everyone to talk about their dreams, which is unrealistic and unrealistic.

However, for Nana, her youth is over. She has to go to work and get off work, and she has to pay for her brother's education with her monthly salary. The world has become very small, the extension is that small town, and the connotation is home and school.

In a few years, the original high spirits disappeared.

There are not many good boys in villages and towns. Those who go out to study will not come back, and those who work will float in the city. There are also people who are willing to farm. Like Nana, they graduated early and returned to their hometown.

There is not much choice. Later, Nana married Cao Qiang, and Cao Qiang was a physical education teacher in a primary school. It seems that they are a match made in heaven and their lives should be happy.

However, the biggest difference between them is that Nana is bent on changing, leaving the countryside and letting her children receive a better education and live a different life.

Nana devoted herself to her work and worked hard every day. However, Cao Qiang is an easy-going person. He doesn't want to toss and turn, and he feels that life is good now.

Therefore, in life, Nana is alone. Nana has gone to be a class teacher, and she dare not be careless in teaching. She gets up early and is greedy for the dark. But the son didn't want to be entrusted, so the family and the school competed at both ends.

Usually, I get up at five in the morning, make breakfast, clean my room, and then go to work. When I come back in the evening, I still cook, clean the room, help my son with his homework, then prepare breakfast for the next day and deal with the unfinished work. I have been busy until 12.

On the other hand, Cao Qiang is a leisure teacher. Get up early to play table tennis, go to work during the day, go fishing after work, or play basketball with friends to eat and drink. Anyway, there is Nana at home, so there is nothing to worry about.

In recent years, Cao Qiang has no white hair, and her body is getting stronger and stronger, and her muscles are clearly visible. Nana is getting thinner and thinner, with more and more wrinkles, and her white hair can't be covered.

Although the couple eat and sleep together, they live a completely different life. One stinks to death, the other is idle to death, and the other is carefree all his life, enjoying the cool under the big tree.

03

Xiao Min, when I was young, was the one with the highest value among us. Because of this, I think reading is not a necessary thing. After graduating from junior high school, I went out to work. I am beautiful and sweet. Soon, I became a store manager.

By the time we can go to college, Xiao Min has earned 2000 yuan a month. At that time, our monthly living expenses were only a few hundred yuan. Seeing Xiao Min is like a monopoly.

A few years have passed, and Xiao Min hasn't found a home yet. She is old and naturally a little anxious.

But also look for boys with cars, houses and urban hukou. These are too hasty. Otherwise, after ten years of struggle, we have not stood at the starting line of others, and it is difficult to turn over in this life.

Later, Xiao Min got married, and her in-laws were retired workers. I have already prepared a house for her, and her husband works in a public institution. Although I don't earn much, I have a stable job and no worries about food and clothing.

After getting married, Xiao Min worked for several years and later had children. When she couldn't afford to run, she quit her job and took care of her children.

My in-laws will make up for it. If the husband is not busy, the family will be very happy with the children.

However, in recent years, my in-laws have passed away and my children have grown up day by day. Xiao Min also wants to buy a school district house, so that children can go to a good primary school. But there is no savings in hand, and her husband's income is not enough to maintain a minimum household.

When my in-laws died, they left hundreds of thousands, but they dared not move, so they had to save them for their children to go to school.

A few years ago, I was too comfortable. Now go out and look for a job. There is really no way to fill the gap for so many years. I am too old to be a shop assistant. I have children, so people don't want to. Being a management position, leaving for so many years, many experiences and methods are useless, and it is difficult to find a job opportunity.

People who are about to enter the fourth grade suddenly feel that life is so difficult.

All the men around him are honest, but they can't support themselves. The original house was shabby and cramped. It turns out that the bride price money is still in the bank, but the interest rate cannot rise above the house price, and it is still depreciating day by day.

Standing in the fourth grade, marriage is a watershed in life. When people reach middle age, it is really a world of difference whether they are comrades-in-arms or pig teammates standing beside them.

The old man is ill and needs someone to move things and pay for them. However, at that moment, he found that the person who had been standing against himself in marriage could do nothing.

When the children are older, eating and drinking will be as simple as that. How many times have I said that I won't listen, and the south wall has been playing. I'm really worried that after this, my child's future will be discounted. However, the father of the child has no educational strategy and no father's responsibility.

Not to mention, cheating, divorce, love turning into hate, and those pits that can't be filled in a lifetime.

To send roses on Valentine's Day, it is better to cook a meal early, help the children with their homework and accompany the elderly to the hospital.

Marriage, we can not be romantic, not romantic flowers, but there must always be a person to bear life with us. Not lonely and helpless, with boundless vision.

May you have affection, love and support, and live as you wish.