The sentence "I'm too ugly and don't want to go to school" hurts many parents. My mother's response deserves praise.

"I'm too ugly to go to school" hurts many parents

Not long ago, my best friend complained to me about this incident. One day she went to pick up her daughter from school. On the way home, my daughter Xinxin, who was only 5 years old, asked her strangely, "Mom, am I ugly?" Naturally, her best friend told Xinxin with certainty, "My baby is the most beautiful." But Xinxin listened After that, he didn't become happy. Instead, he said, "I think I'm too ugly and I don't want to go to kindergarten anymore."

Seeing her daughter’s disappointed and sad expression, her best friend naturally wondered how such a young child could have such thoughts. So she asked her daughter again and again, and then she learned from her daughter that it turned out that there was a little girl in her daughter's class. Every time she saw her daughter after going to school, she would keep saying that the clothes you wore were ugly and you looked so ugly. As a result, Xinxin began to feel inferior and refused to go to kindergarten anymore. My best friend said, "I just realized that there is bullying in kindergarten."

Some people may say that this is not bullying. At most, it is just a kid who is ignorant and just joking around. However, in fact, although this kind of bullying is not as obvious as physical contact bullying, it is actually a kind of bullying, and it can cause more physical and mental harm to children. The reason is that for children aged 3 to 6 years old, it is the period when their self-awareness is budding and they are most sensitive to external evaluations and attitudes. Therefore, if at this time, if the child is always being "joked" by others, or even ridiculed and If they are insulted, they will become inferior and unconfident in their hearts. This kind of verbal bullying will leave a terrible shadow on their psychology. Once correct guidance is not provided, the child's physical and mental development will be affected.

I have to admit that my best friend’s way of dealing with it makes sense. Of course, if a child has a problem, he must report it to the responsible teacher. However, in fact, this way of dealing with it treats the symptoms rather than the root cause. If you want your child to truly become a better person, The most important thing to avoid being bullied is to start with the children themselves. Only by changing the children and letting them learn to fight back and learn to protect themselves can the problem be completely solved. Specifically, parents can use these three methods to help their children fight back against bullying and help them learn to protect themselves.

First of all, parents can tell their children that once they encounter other children who try to mock or insult them with language, or want to hit them, they must learn to stop the other person's behavior loudly. Tell the other person seriously, "I'm not afraid of you. If you do this (say), be careful and I'll teach you a lesson."

In this way, not only can it attract the attention of the people around you and use the power of others to scare the other person, but also for children, when bullying others, the first time is usually a trial. stage, so doing this can also let the other party understand that you are not easy to bully, so he will naturally not dare to continue to act. Otherwise, the other person will think that you are easy to bully, and the bullying will get worse next time.

I once read on the Internet that a mother said that when her daughter was in kindergarten, she was scolded by her classmates, "You ugly monster, stay away from me." As a result, the little girl cried and did not want to go to school. Fortunately, the girl's brother told the girl, don't be afraid. If she says that tomorrow, you will yell at her and your brother will support you. The next day, the little girl mustered up the courage to fight back. Sure enough, from then on, the child never bullied her again

It must be said that even children always like to "bully the weak and fear the strong", As parents, when we educate our children, on the one hand, we must teach them friendship and harmony, and on the other hand, we must also tell our children that they must resist bravely when they are bullied.

Secondly, as the protective umbrella of their children, parents must also learn to protect their children and accept their grievances and fears when they are bullied.

Instead of being angry when you see your child being bullied, and blaming the child for being unpromising, or being timid and afraid of causing trouble to the teacher, or being criticized by the other parent for being too troublesome, this will only make the child become a bully. They have lower self-esteem, are more timid, and suffer more bullying. Remember that parents must stand on their children's side. If their children are bullied, they must actively help them seek justice.

In addition, parents can also read picture books and stories with their children more often. Through the cases in the stories, they can guide their children to learn to fight back against bullying and cultivate their awareness of self-protection. For example, this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Educational Picture Books" is very suitable for children aged 3-8 to read. It can teach children to bravely protect themselves, overcome inferiority and fear, and be able to actively resist and deal with the harm of others calmly and optimistically. It can be said to be an authoritative book on anti-bullying.

The complete set of books*** is divided into 8 themes. Each theme is a lively and interesting story, which allows children to better reflect themselves and learn to face being laughed at, insulted, and... Being wrongly accused, being discriminated against, and other common bullying phenomena.

For situations like verbal bullying encountered by my best friend’s daughter Xinxin, you can find a good solution from the book "I Don’t Like Being Ridiculed". The protagonist in this book, like Xinxin, was ridiculed by his classmates and felt very sad, but he was timid and did not dare to refute loudly. As a result, those children became even more proud and rampant

Fortunately, the protagonist His deskmate encouraged him, so he told the teacher what happened. Finally, with the help of the teacher and his deskmate, the protagonist finally bravely fought back those "bad kids". But when those children saw that he had become so brave, not only did they stop She laughed at him, apologized to him, and became good friends with him.

At my suggestion, my best friend also bought a set for Xinxin. As a result, Xinxin quickly changed. Not only did she no longer avoid going to kindergarten, she also became very upset when the child laughed at her again. Bravely scolded the other person and said, "I'm not ugly. If you say that again, be careful and I'll teach you a lesson." As a result, the little girl avoided Xinxin when she saw her and never bullied Xinxin again

No Needless to say, with this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Educational Picture Books", children can be well taught to fight back against bullying and learn to protect themselves. Moreover, this set of books also comes with a parent manual that can help parents correctly handle situations where their children are being bullied. , so that children can be more comprehensively protected and grow healthier.

If you have children aged 3-8 years old at home, remember to get a set. Click the link below to place an order quickly. Okay, that’s it for today, see you in the next issue!