How should people who worry too much get rid of it?

There are many kinds of worrying situations, and here we will explain them with ordinary worrying performances for the time being!

First, how are you worried?

Worry is thinking too much or worrying too much when you meet one thing! These considerations and worries actually come from our automatic thinking, that is, when we encounter some problems, we will automatically jump out of some thinking related to worry! These ideas will bring us some trouble. For example, nervousness, anxiety, fear and even delay the progress of things!

In order to make this problem clear, let's take an example to illustrate it: Xiao Zhang is a cadre of a certain unit, and he has been informed that his superiors will come to check tomorrow. So he made every effort to prepare for the inspection. But no matter how much work he has done, he will still worry that there will be problems in tomorrow's inspection. This is what we call worry. Then his possible automatic thinking is: Is there anything I am not ready for? Will my work be a little rough? Did I miss anything? Those inspectors always like to find fault. I may be found out by them, and so on! These are all his automatic thoughts.

Second, the underlying causes of concern

If you can communicate with him one-on-one, you may find some intermediate beliefs hidden behind these automated thinking! For example: I will go all out to do things well; If I am not careful enough, I may make mistakes; Things always go wrong, and so on.

If we can talk with him deeply, we can find that he still has more core beliefs, which may be: I am a very bad person, and things are prone to bad situations …

Third, the origin of core beliefs.

A bad core belief can be traced back to his childhood. When he was a child, his family environment, surrounding environment, parents, teachers or other elders took him, creating an atmosphere for him, making him feel bad and unable to do well. This core belief was formed very early, and it will be hidden deeply, which will make him think that this is the absolute truth.

Fourth, how do core beliefs exert influence?

Due to the role of core beliefs, he will sum up and explore a set of rules, or some assumptions, and his attitude towards events. This is the intermediate belief we just mentioned. Under the guidance of the intermediate belief, he will have some automatic thinking, that is, the troubles in front. This will bring him some anxiety and worry, affect his mood and make him very painful.

5. How to relieve troubles?

To solve the bad habit of worrying too much, generally speaking, the direction is:

First of all, we need to dig out our own automatic thinking, intermediate beliefs and core beliefs in order to accurately capture these unreasonable beliefs; Second, we should question these beliefs and rebuild them reasonably one by one;

Third, we should deeply perceive, comprehend and absorb the reasonable beliefs of reconstruction, and let them enter the brain and the heart;

Fourth, we should formulate a series of behavioral intervention practices so that these reasonable beliefs can be digested in practice.

Trouble, as the name implies, thinks too much, considers too much, has no judgment standard for a thing or a person, thinks and thinks, is uncertain, and is suspicious! Most people in life have this practice, which is caused by the pressure of life. For children, for themselves, for others, they think too much, which will only increase their troubles! I do this sometimes. I wasn't sure if the door lock was unlocked, so I went upstairs and looked. If you don't feel sick, you should save yourself, communicate with others actively, and don't close yourself. When you feel uneasy, you should force yourself to calm down, tell the people you trust your worries, and don't worry that others will laugh at you. Understand that what you have to face is foreseeable and unpredictable, don't doubt your own judgment, don't delve into dead ends, and don't get to the bottom of it, because no matter what you do, you will come and go! When people reach middle age, they are under great pressure, but we must be good at enlightening ourselves, get out of the predicament, be unmoved by others, be annoyed by gossip, go out more and see more sunny things, and our mentality will be reversed and we will have a healthy posture!